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My Confusion ( Girls )
where do I start?
I'm sure there was something like this post in the past but here it is anyways, if your a guy like me you will understand what I mean, if your a girl please inform us guys how to go about this 
Okay this might seem lame to some of you but I don�t give a damn cause I am confused as are many other guys out there. Here it goes.
Yes I am single as are many out there, now to get to the point is how on earth one like myself is or another single Girl suppose to meet? I go to clubs from time to time, movies, parks, and other social area's where people hang out talk etc.., so I got the general idea where to meet "the person" I am not a total nerd, nor I am a super stud, I consider myself a regular Joe if you will.. well sort of. Anyways how would you go about knowing how a girl likes you if you at a club or anywhere else for that matter? When your at a club, rave or party the music is too freakin loud to talk to anyone most of the time. But that�s not the main problem the main problem for me is to distinguish if the girl is "Attracted" to you or wants to talk to you. Is there some sort of hidden sign or signal? Girls in general are nice to you even if they don�t know you I notice this because I see many people (young women) around me where I currently work. If you get past all that lets say you notice she likes you, who should go over and introduce them self�s? The Male? Or the Female? I'm sure many of the girls out there say it�s the Male that should approach? But please if you want us to approach give us a damn signal or something ?! We are simple minded male that do not have the decoder that young women have to understand what is going on in your minds. And finally when you meet this girl lets say at a party or else where and you start talking in a group or 1 on 1, how do you know if your just talking friend on friend or the girl wants more than to be just a friend?
Here is a picture of me just for the hell of it, comments, insults etc.. are welcome but I'll probably ignore the insults 
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So that�s my confusion in a nut-shell im sure there�s more that I can�t think of, so if I missed out a problem that some of you have that is not shown in this thread please Post it.
All help appreciated.
it'z Saturday nite .. get outta tha house!
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| Originally posted by dEsidEL it'z Saturday nite .. get outta tha house! |
what works for me;
make eye contact a couple of times, then smile 2nd or 3rd time( an I am interested smile)
most likley you'll get a sign
cheers
I think your biggest mistake is that you're trying to pick up girls at dance clubs where the music is just way too loud and the lounge areas are small. If you want a higher success rate go to a lounge where people just go to hang out n shoot the shit, not just dance. Basically any club where the lounge space is bigger than the dance floor is a good rule of thumb. Dress nice, no running shoes and wear a nice watch. If a girl likes you she'll let you know, they always do. It's all about body language. Last thing, don't go looking to pick up bcuz that'll just make you look desperate and women can see that a mile away.
Btw, shouldn�t you be posting this in the chill out room?
i dunno i very rarely pick up girls at night clubs....i wont even approach them unless i sort of know them and theyre in the lounge area... my gold mine is at ppl's parties... bars are also a good place... and girls do show signals u just gotta be quick enuff to catch them...and approach when u do see them or approach just for the hell of it, if shes not intrested well then u met a new person....and the approach has to do with nothing but confidence..also good posture eye contact and being loose and be urself! but that all has to do with confidence.. parks are pointless i used to be a park goer to as a youngster trust me theres no real socialization going on there cept for u and ur group of friends bu that gets boring... another good way is going places with friends of friends.. theyre always a sort of new person and once u get to know them better by going out one night as a group u might hit it off...
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| Originally posted by Vivid Boy i dunno i very rarely pick up girls at night clubs....i wont even approach them unless i sort of know them and theyre in the lounge area... my gold mine is at ppl's parties... bars are also a good place... and girls do show signals u just gotta be quick enuff to catch them...and approach when u do see them or approach just for the hell of it, if shes not intrested well then u met a new person....and the approach has to do with nothing but confidence..also good posture eye contact and being loose and be urself! but that all has to do with confidence.. parks are pointless i used to be a park goer to as a youngster trust me theres no real socialization going on there cept for u and ur group of friends bu that gets boring... another good way is going places with friends of friends.. theyre always a sort of new person and once u get to know them better by going out one night as a group u might hit it off... |
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| Originally posted by Tordan I think your biggest mistake is that you're trying to pick up girls at dance clubs where the music is just way too loud and the lounge areas are small. If you want a higher success rate go to a lounge where people just go to hang out n shoot the shit, not just dance. Basically any club where the lounge space is bigger than the dance floor is a good rule of thumb. Dress nice, no running shoes and wear a nice watch. If a girl likes you she'll let you know, they always do. It's all about body language. Last thing, don't go looking to pick up bcuz that'll just make you look desperate and women can see that a mile away. Btw, shouldn�t you be posting this in the chill out room? |
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| Originally posted by KawalaBear Thanks for the help, im new to the forum so i didnt know where to post sorry |
first things first....you need a cool ass belt buckle like me...
secondly always go up to a girl
that you might like. Waiting for her to talk to you is wasting time. Most girls find confidence attractive, so don't be apprehensive, which I can kinda tell you are by the way you post....I could be totally wrong though.
So I say if you can get over the tough act of approaching any girl (I am still working on it) then I say you are good, adn by pure probability you will find a girl ya like.
hope this helped.
i've given up trying to figure out this and that. i chill with my boys (and girls) and enjoy the music, and the night can never go wrong.
all i ever hear about myself from girls is that i'm so this, so that, but i don't see it, whatever, but the compliments make me smile. however, they never help me meet girls. i'm told i intimidate others, maybe because of my size and style. eh...i guess i do fine for the most part. maybe it's because all i really need in my life is music to make me happy.
my only advice is, keep a smile on your face, and look approachable. if girls are too shy to approach you, this image of yourself will at least let them know that you won't bite their head off if they smile at you, make eye contact, or even say hi when you cross each other's path.
if you look at her on three or more occasions and eye contact is made in each, say hi. it's no coincidence that the two of you were looking into each other's eyes three+ times.
plus, most girl like men who are confident. though i don't like to come off as a playa/pimp, so i'll just chill. after all, i've got music.
I usually have an insanely hard time when it comes to talking to women at a club or in similar circumstances. (Even if they smile at me, it's like I can't smile on command, it has to happen naturally even if I think the girl is really cute). It's bizarre. All I know is just fight the urge to do nothing and approach the girl, this is what I am trying to do...I figure a simple "Hi, what's up?" and strike up a convo about the club they're at, music etc. Who knows, might work, might not. If it doesn't, no big loss, continue to do your own thing.
And out of those guys that just commented, howmany of you are singe?
hehe probably a LOT..
I'm not single and I say best way to meet girls is @ small parties, house parties, where a lot of drinking is involved. I don't think I've ever been to a house party without talking or doing something more than that with a girl.. I don't mean to brag, but I think that's the best place to pick up girls!
i really think if you are looking for someone, you probably won't find them. I have been dating this boy for a year now and i met him at a resturant i was waitressing at. He was a cook and i never really noticed me until he came up to me between picking up food and introduced himself and said i looked like a cool person and he gave me his phone number, pretty ballsy but it worked. I am the first girlfriend he has had and quite possibly the last. I think you need to relax and take into consideration the girls that are already around you instead of looking in specific places. Maybe this will help? Nice picture by the way.
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| Originally posted by wienerschnitzel I am the first girlfriend he has had and quite possibly the last. |
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| Originally posted by whiskers |
If you have trouble finding a right girl at clubs/bars, try some local university/college/whatever Internet portal/forum or something like that. At my place we have a student portal with profiles and forum where a lot of people meet. I met my gf that way.
GIRLS... yummy, but if a girl likes you it's impossible to miss imo. work on charm, girls like that
Tootles!
Re: My Confusion ( Girls )
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| Originally posted by KawalaBear where do I start? I'm sure there was something like this post in the past but here it is anyways, if your a guy like me you will understand what I mean, if your a girl please inform us guys how to go about this Okay this might seem lame to some of you but I don�t give a damn cause I am confused as are many other guys out there. Here it goes. Yes I am single as are many out there, now to get to the point is how on earth one like myself is or another single Girl suppose to meet? I go to clubs from time to time, movies, parks, and other social area's where people hang out talk etc.., so I got the general idea where to meet "the person" I am not a total nerd, nor I am a super stud, I consider myself a regular Joe if you will.. well sort of. Anyways how would you go about knowing how a girl likes you if you at a club or anywhere else for that matter? When your at a club, rave or party the music is too freakin loud to talk to anyone most of the time. But that�s not the main problem the main problem for me is to distinguish if the girl is "Attracted" to you or wants to talk to you. Is there some sort of hidden sign or signal? Girls in general are nice to you even if they don�t know you I notice this because I see many people (young women) around me where I currently work. If you get past all that lets say you notice she likes you, who should go over and introduce them self�s? The Male? Or the Female? I'm sure many of the girls out there say it�s the Male that should approach? But please if you want us to approach give us a damn signal or something ?! We are simple minded male that do not have the decoder that young women have to understand what is going on in your minds. And finally when you meet this girl lets say at a party or else where and you start talking in a group or 1 on 1, how do you know if your just talking friend on friend or the girl wants more than to be just a friend? Here is a picture of me just for the hell of it, comments, insults etc.. are welcome but I'll probably ignore the insults .So that�s my confusion in a nut-shell im sure there�s more that I can�t think of, so if I missed out a problem that some of you have that is not shown in this thread please Post it. All help appreciated. |
I find it funny how most (if not all?) replies in this thread are by males.
Just don't think about it so much. Go out and enjoy the people you're with. Women can tell when a guy is out partying and trying to pick up, and they avoid those men. Well, most of us do. There's always the girl looking to get laid, and from your post, it doesn't seem that's what you're after (primarily.)
Great people come into your life when you're least expecting it. So go out, have a good time, and let things happen naturally. There's no set of rules for human interaction, so you're wasting your time looking for them.
a couple things
it's difficult to meet girls in clubs unless you let them come to you, b/c we have dealt w/ many agressive guys at clubs and even if they are good-looking their behaviour can turn us off. It's refreshing to have a guy just talk to us and not try to get anything from us.
2nd of all. the best way to meet girls is inadvertantly through friends and aquantances. Try to be social and get out and whatnot but w/ having fun in mind, not anything else.
3rd. charm and charisma and probably more important that looks. so work on that!
best of luck. you sound like a nice guy.
taraxo
like i say to all my friends who are single and ask the same questions is...
Stop looking.. it will find you when the time is right, and when you least expect it.
I must say though that it is possible to meet people in clubs, although not very common...
I met my BF in line at the Tiesto party in October of 2001, and next week is our two year anniversary.
He's also not engaged anymore 
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| Originally posted by wienerschnitzel what i ment was we have been talking about tieing the knot in the future... sorry for the confusion and what the hell is that face anyways whiskers? |
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| Originally posted by Skipper Just don't think about it so much. Go out and enjoy the people you're with. Great people come into your life when you're least expecting it. So go out, have a good time, and let things happen naturally. There's no set of rules for human interaction, so you're wasting your time looking for them. |
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