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Posted by squirrelly on Nov-18-2003 01:47:

Advice Time.

Okay, *advice caps on*

I have a slight problem. I've been friends with a guy for a long time, and I consider him one of my *best* friends. He has made it extreemely obvious to me, that he harbours deep feelings for me. He even said "I love you".

I try to avoid the subject as much as possible, because I want to continue on with my friendship. However, he has of late been praising me and putting me on a pedestal that I do not deserve, calling me an angel and such. He tells me that he has been never been happier in his life than when I'm in it.

This has made me somewhat uncomfortable, because I care for him (he is my closest male friend), however, I am in no way, shape or form, attracted to him. He knows about my recent horrific endings with an ex, and although he is not *intentionally* placing any pressure on me, I feel encased by it.

I need to find a *gentle* way, to wean him off of his feelings towards me. He won't meet any other girls, because he is *convinced* I am the one, and would prefer to just stay alone if not with me. This places me in a terrible position, because I can never be truthful to him if I harbor feelings for someone else, because I want to spare his feelings. Help?

Posted by bobba lou on Nov-18-2003 01:50:

ok, AIM me and I will point you to the one......

Posted by Elderchico on Nov-18-2003 01:53:

Honesty never fails. Dont be harsh but if he has such feelings for you and you havent anyhting to return to him, give him the truth, its the best thing you can do, for him and yourself. But hey, im jsut the elderchico

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BTW office space rawks....uhmm..yeeaa..mmhhmmmmmm

Posted by squirrelly on Nov-18-2003 02:11:

quote:
Originally posted by Elderchico
Honesty never fails. Dont be harsh but if he has such feelings for you and you havent anyhting to return to him, give him the truth, its the best thing you can do, for him and yourself. But hey, im jsut the elderchico

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BTW office space rawks....uhmm..yeeaa..mmhhmmmmmm

heh, I know

I have been honest. When he told me how I felt I made it clear that I didn't feel the same and though he meant a lot to me, being my best friend and all, nothing would ever happen.

Posted by Elderchico on Nov-18-2003 02:18:

Well you did your part you should try not too worry about it..Relax. you cant really do much mroe than telling him how you feel if you dont want to hurt him. I've been around too many situations like this to steer ya wrong. You do both yourselfs a favor by telling him how you feel (like you did) and then trying to forget it. Dont think about it. ya just stress over nothing. what happens happens...but your clear cause you know you told the truth and were true to yourself. Now go play some trance and relax. Andain's perfect for this situation. Relaxin soothin voice..ah..brb im gonna pop tht tune on =P
(trying to get yer mind no something else )
Love~

Posted by whitesmoke on Nov-18-2003 02:27:

if you kick him in the balls a couple times he might be less attracted to you.

be honest....thats all i got to say

Posted by Elderchico on Nov-18-2003 02:30:

Word up on that Docter Smokey - Honestly...
BTW you listening to trance yet to get your mind off it? DO IT!

Posted by mdamon7278 on Nov-18-2003 02:32:

Yeah the best way is honestly, be forward to him, he mgiht not like that, but in the end, that is the only option you have for someone like him, good luck!!!

Damon 2.0

Posted by bobba lou on Nov-18-2003 02:44:

Just tell him you are a man baby!!!!!!

Posted by Elderchico on Nov-18-2003 02:47:

methinks bobby is loco

Posted by bobba lou on Nov-18-2003 02:51:

Posted by arturob on Nov-18-2003 03:01:

uummm...

Posted by ex-dj on Nov-18-2003 03:19:

3 simple words - "I am gay"

Posted by bobba lou on Nov-18-2003 03:27:

quote:
Originally posted by ex-dj
3 simple words - "I am gay"

ok, now this thread is going somewhere!!!!!!!!!

Posted by PVD fanatic on Nov-19-2003 01:26:

quote:
Just tell him you are a man baby!!!!!!

ROFL @ Bobba Lou!!!!!! HILARIOUS !!!!!!
Good advice man!
I like that ...

Posted by LiquidX on Nov-19-2003 03:56:

Dont give him space, in terms of leting him think things that are otherwise, or show him that he is more then just a friend. Just let him know that he's just a very good friend, or just make up a fake relationship, or start talking about this one guy that you like and would like to hook up with lol.. no but really, let him know that you want him just as friend, cause thats the love you have tours him.That should do it.. if not.. then i suggest u cut him off, for his own and your own good.