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Posted by KarenLuvs2Party on Nov-21-2003 07:29:

Do u have Friends who don't appreciate u..??

Do you ever feel that some of your closest friends don't appreciate you?

I love my friends, but why is it that I ALWAYS have to make so many sacrifices?

-Why do I always have to be designated driver? (EVEN on my 21st birthday! How whack is that!?)

-I won a free trip to catch AVB in Vegas, free hotel, plane ride..etc.... and I brought my friend who didn't even buy me a DRINK when we went, I EVEN had to take my car to drive to the AIRPORT!

-I won passes again to check out this pretty nice party.. and I invited my close friend and she wont even drive me to go pick up the tickets (cuz they got "other stuff to do")

-I always end up having to take care of my friends cuz they get soooooo messed up, and guys will just take advantage of them left and right.

-I even get dragged to COUNTRY LINE DANCING CLUBS in the freaking boonies..yet this friend refuses to go to a trance club with me?!?

No matter what it is... I always take care of my friends..whether its buying them drinks and "party favors" or even making sacrifices..like being the "WING-GIRL" (yes there is such a thing as a "WING-GIRL")!!!

I know its my own damn fault for being so nice sometimes.. but damn!

Tell me there are some other people out there who are good friends and feel this way about their own friends...
or am I asking too much out of friendship?

Posted by Yan on Nov-21-2003 07:30:

Some people are just like that...

But there are friends that are devoted to the end.

Argh... You got that stupid "Appreciate Me" song stuck in my head. EEEEEEEEWWWWW...

Posted by PhloTron on Nov-21-2003 07:31:

nope ... people that would do that on a regular basis aren't friends. There is being nice...and being used.

Posted by wienerschnitzel on Nov-21-2003 08:04:

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Posted by montie on Nov-21-2003 08:32:

yup yup.

your just too nice of a person
most friends relationships are based on personal gain by the other party. you either bring them some sort of entertainment, or you give them stuff they need, like rides, tickets etc.
some people are abusers of this, as it sounds like your friends are
other people who are much nicer will reciprocate favors.
i know that the reasons i am freinds with alot of people is because they get me hookups to stuff, or are ways to network and meet other people (girls). i don't necesarily enjoy my time i spend with them tho.
but i always try to repay any favors payed to me, or try to be nice and do stuff for other people. i try not to dig my self in too deep, but i seem to fall into the same position you are in.

quote:
Originally posted by wienerschnitzel
this is the reason i don't have friends. I had the same experience as you do and so i chose to be somewhat of a looser then put out and get nothing in return. If im ever in orange county i will drive you to a trance party in MY car and buy YOU a drink.

well i'm in LA (close enuf to orange county) and if i see you in a trance party/club i'll buy you a drink

Posted by Romain on Nov-21-2003 08:45:

hehe you're gonna get a lotsa free drinks with this thread

yeah your friends are a bit weird... try to find some others, who are more thankful... or try to be a little less nice sometimes, maybe they'll realise.

Posted by RachUCF1001 on Nov-21-2003 08:49:

Re: Do u have Friends who don't appreciate u..??

quote:
Originally posted by KarenLuvs2Party
Do you ever feel that some of your closest friends don't appreciate you?

I love my friends, but why is it that I ALWAYS have to make so many sacrifices?

-Why do I always have to be designated driver? (EVEN on my 21st birthday! How whack is that!?)

-I won a free trip to catch AVB in Vegas, free hotel, plane ride..etc.... and I brought my friend who didn't even buy me a DRINK when we went, I EVEN had to take my car to drive to the AIRPORT!

-I won passes again to check out this pretty nice party.. and I invited my close friend and she wont even drive me to go pick up the tickets (cuz they got "other stuff to do")

-I always end up having to take care of my friends cuz they get soooooo messed up, and guys will just take advantage of them left and right.

-I even get dragged to COUNTRY LINE DANCING CLUBS in the freaking boonies..yet this friend refuses to go to a trance club with me?!?

No matter what it is... I always take care of my friends..whether its buying them drinks and "party favors" or even making sacrifices..like being the "WING-GIRL" (yes there is such a thing as a "WING-GIRL")!!!

I know its my own damn fault for being so nice sometimes.. but damn!

Tell me there are some other people out there who are good friends and feel this way about their own friends...
or am I asking too much out of friendship?

Hey Karen!

Im soooo sorry to hear that you are sad; I know what you mean! Ive had similar experiences with people I thought were my best friends that sure as hell didnt act like it while I continually went out of my way for them....and the favors were never returned. Not like I expected anything from them; just that they ACT like they care about our friendship thats all ::rolls eyes:: lol!! so I know how you feel. You won't find too many genuine people these days and it really sucks. I only have a few girlfriends that i consider my BEST friends; and I would do anything for them. Im not friends with many girls for the simple fact that 9/10 of them are shady bitches/catty/out for themselves/follow the crowd... I could go on and on but you know what I mean! Its hard too bc where Im living right now I don't have any girls to chill with that are into the music... and music RULES me. lol. Its my passion; so thats always a big conflict when I want to go out and all my friends want to go to some club that *everyone* (lol) goes to that plays 50 Cent or something obnoxious along those lines. Too bad you live out in Cali or else Id suggest we hang out sometime LOL Well take care sweetheart, and I know its easier said than done.... but maybe you should start looking for a new group of girls to spend your time with because life it too short to waste on that shit; you need and deserve to be happy!
Ok, Im done with my rant! lol

Love,
Rach
xoxo

Posted by nekholm on Nov-21-2003 09:14:

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quote:
Originally posted by KarenLuvs2Party
-Why do I always have to be designated driver? (EVEN on my 21st birthday! How whack is that!?)

You could have denied. Just say "Fuck you biteches! It's my 21st fucking birthday and I'm gonna drink, so I'm not gonna be some damn designated driver tofuckingday! Either one of you drive, or you can all just fuck off!" or something similar, maybe a little friendlier

Posted by 'mju:zik on Nov-21-2003 09:19:

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Originally posted by nekholm
You could have denied. Just say "Fuck you biteches! It's my 21st fucking birthday and I'm gonna drink, so I'm not gonna be some damn designated driver tofuckingday! Either one of you drive, or you can all just fuck off!" or something similar, maybe a little friendlier

whats a designated driver??

Posted by superglo on Nov-21-2003 09:29:

hah. dont worry i feel for ya.

there was this friend whom i had known since i was a kid. we chilled in the playgrounds and shit together then. he used to always ask me to buy him candies and icecreams. i was ok with it because i've been brought up in a way where u should cherish your friends. well we slowly grew up. he borrowed my car and crashed it into a lampost. there was no apology. all he did was laugh and say to me 'hey ur car handling fuckin sucks man'. i had to call the tow service and pay for the repairs. 4 grand. i didn't think much of it then because i thought it was partly my fault too. in another incident. he told some ppl he owed money to that i owe him money. so they came gunning for me instead. luckily i was with my mates at that time so they just gave me a warning. i went up to my so called 'friend' and confronted him about it. he begged me to loan him money to repay his debts or they would break his legs. so i was like ok... wtf... make sure i get this back. 10k. the week after that he dissapeared. i hear he's been telling people stories about how 'I' crashed my car into a lampost and how 'HE' loaned me shitloads of money to save me that i have still to return him.

I SWEAR IF I EVER FIND OUT WHERE THAT ****** IS I WILL BREAK BOTH HIS ARMS AND HIS FUCKIN LEGS.

Posted by montie on Nov-21-2003 10:05:

you "loaned" that user 10k?
shoulda just let them break his legs.
for that much money, he can take it

Posted by Ezman on Nov-21-2003 10:42:

In contrast to RachUCF1001 I find that most of my male mates are the ones that don't appreciate things as much (aside from a good few), ie they will be cheap ****s, sometimes they say shit behind eachothers' back. It could just be the group though.

My female friends are usually a lot nicer and appreciate things more and stuff. Even if I do get stuck in the friends zone with a lot of really nice females they still treat me heaps better!

Would that be cus I'm male? Although most of my female friends are fairly genuine and aren't bitchy (at least not infront of me)

As for the topic in general there's heaps of people out there that are way too materialistic and self-oriented to give a rats ass about a lot of things, with either sex

Posted by DrUg_Tit0 on Nov-21-2003 10:47:

quote:
Originally posted by superglo
hah. dont worry i feel for ya.

there was this friend whom i had known since i was a kid. we chilled in the playgrounds and shit together then. he used to always ask me to buy him candies and icecreams. i was ok with it because i've been brought up in a way where u should cherish your friends. well we slowly grew up. he borrowed my car and crashed it into a lampost. there was no apology. all he did was laugh and say to me 'hey ur car handling fuckin sucks man'. i had to call the tow service and pay for the repairs. 4 grand. i didn't think much of it then because i thought it was partly my fault too. in another incident. he told some ppl he owed money to that i owe him money. so they came gunning for me instead. luckily i was with my mates at that time so they just gave me a warning. i went up to my so called 'friend' and confronted him about it. he begged me to loan him money to repay his debts or they would break his legs. so i was like ok... wtf... make sure i get this back. 10k. the week after that he dissapeared. i hear he's been telling people stories about how 'I' crashed my car into a lampost and how 'HE' loaned me shitloads of money to save me that i have still to return him.

I SWEAR IF I EVER FIND OUT WHERE THAT ****** IS I WILL BREAK BOTH HIS ARMS AND HIS FUCKIN LEGS.

I'm sorry, but I must say you're like the most naive person I've "met". I mean, after he crashed your car without an apology you lend him 10k??? Are you retarded or something? I mean, it's really a lot of money, and he's already shown he doesn't care about your losses one bit!

Anyway, my answer to Karen is that as long as you treat other people better than you treat yourself, they're gonna see it and use it.

Posted by superglo on Nov-21-2003 11:56:

yea.. .it was probably the stupidest thing i've ever done.
funnie thing was ..he was my next door neighbour and our parents were old friends and all. i did managed to get back some cash from his parents but then they got divorced or something so i quit bugging them. he takes after his asshole dad.

the stupidty of youth.

Posted by Fundamental on Nov-21-2003 12:19:

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quote:
Originally posted by 'mju:zik
whats a designated driver??

It's the person who doesn't drink and then drives all the drunkards home afterwards...

It sound like you really need to stand up for yourself. Say what YOU want to do. I know it sounds nasty but you need to be more oppessive towards your friends, then they might finally stop taking you for granted.

Posted by Streakfury on Nov-21-2003 13:36:

I think you're being too nice. You should try and be more forcefull, that way people wont walk all over you.

Posted by INDY on Nov-21-2003 14:35:

sorry to hear this hun, i experienced the same exact situation a couple of years back. i totally learned my lesson. i don't get get too close with girls anylonger. i mostly hang out with guys. they treat you like a princess, they buy you drinks hehe(not that i ask, they offer) and they protect you. i have no complaints. maybe you should start ditching ur gf's like they are doing to you at the momment. i think they see that they can take advantage of you like that coz you let them. IT IS TIME TO STOP THE BULLSHIT!!! HEH...

good luck
indy

Posted by Dj-Gingi on Nov-21-2003 14:46:

quote:
Originally posted by superglo
hah. dont worry i feel for ya.

there was this friend whom i had known since i was a kid. we chilled in the playgrounds and shit together then. he used to always ask me to buy him candies and icecreams. i was ok with it because i've been brought up in a way where u should cherish your friends. well we slowly grew up. he borrowed my car and crashed it into a lampost. there was no apology. all he did was laugh and say to me 'hey ur car handling fuckin sucks man'. i had to call the tow service and pay for the repairs. 4 grand. i didn't think much of it then because i thought it was partly my fault too. in another incident. he told some ppl he owed money to that i owe him money. so they came gunning for me instead. luckily i was with my mates at that time so they just gave me a warning. i went up to my so called 'friend' and confronted him about it. he begged me to loan him money to repay his debts or they would break his legs. so i was like ok... wtf... make sure i get this back. 10k. the week after that he dissapeared. i hear he's been telling people stories about how 'I' crashed my car into a lampost and how 'HE' loaned me shitloads of money to save me that i have still to return him.

I SWEAR IF I EVER FIND OUT WHERE THAT ****** IS I WILL BREAK BOTH HIS ARMS AND HIS FUCKIN LEGS.

thats the worst thing ever, but this sounds like a movie, u should go to hollywood tell steven speilberg or someone and make ur 14000 back
then hire some hitmen and kill that son of a bitch

Posted by wienerschnitzel on Nov-21-2003 15:09:

quote:
Originally posted by politicsofdancin
sorry to hear this hun, i experienced the same exact situation a couple of years back. i totally learned my lesson. i don't get get too close with girls anylonger. i mostly hang out with guys. they treat you like a princess, they buy you drinks hehe(not that i ask, they offer) and they protect you. i have no complaints. maybe you should start ditching ur gf's like they are doing to you at the momment. i think they see that they can take advantage of you like that coz you let them. IT IS TIME TO STOP THE BULLSHIT!!! HEH...

good luck
indy

indy, where are these guys you hang out with?? I would like to hang out with some too! I haven't seen guys like this, the only guy i know like this is my boyfriend, but every other guy friend i have won't even let me sit in the front seat of the car... and i get motion sick.

Posted by INDY on Nov-21-2003 15:20:

quote:
Originally posted by wienerschnitzel
indy, where are these guys you hang out with?? I would like to hang out with some too! I haven't seen guys like this, the only guy i know like this is my boyfriend, but every other guy friend i have won't even let me sit in the front seat of the car... and i get motion sick.

heh...they have been my long time friends, they are basically my brothers...i don't know, for some reason i get along with guys so well than girls...i've always been like this ever since i was a lil girl... i played with gi joes more than barbies, played sports with all of them etc etc.. i just can't stand girls sometimes...it too much drama and I HATE DRAMA UGH... for guys the less drama it is the better or even no drama at all. lol. i think the reason why ur guy friends are not as nice as my guy friends is coz you have a bf...i think they don't want to be too comfortable since you have a man...i think it's more of a respectful gesture rather than a rude one.

Posted by DarkAngel on Nov-21-2003 15:25:

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Posted by squirrelly on Nov-21-2003 15:28:

I'm sorry, seems like you're placed in a non favorable position. My advice would be to ditch the friends, and make an attempt at finding new ones.

I do, however, know exactly to the bone, how you feel.

Posted by Arbiter on Nov-21-2003 15:31:

It's for this reason I don't keep many "friends". If you ask me, it's much more fulfilling to have 2-3 true friends than a large group of people who, realistically, don't even care about you.

It's a change in my lifestyle I decided to make about four years ago, and personally I think it's one of the best decisions I've ever made. It sounds to me like these people aren't really your friends at all. You need to look out for yourself first - and if someone is really your friend, they'll understand that.

Best Wishes,

Arbiter

Posted by DrUg_Tit0 on Nov-21-2003 17:34:

quote:
Originally posted by politicsofdancin
sorry to hear this hun, i experienced the same exact situation a couple of years back. i totally learned my lesson. i don't get get too close with girls anylonger. i mostly hang out with guys. they treat you like a princess, they buy you drinks hehe(not that i ask, they offer) and they protect you. i have no complaints. maybe you should start ditching ur gf's like they are doing to you at the momment. i think they see that they can take advantage of you like that coz you let them. IT IS TIME TO STOP THE BULLSHIT!!! HEH...

good luck
indy

If you look good, then it's most likely they only want to get you laid.

Posted by drizzt81 on Nov-21-2003 17:59:

nope i don't, since those people aren't my friend anymore. i try to get a balance.

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