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What do you think about using violence to solve your problems? I'm in cheerleading and I have some problems getting along with one chick on the team. She is very distruptive during practices, she notices what everyone is doing wrong except her and she cannot take constractive critisism without yelling like a psycho. The problem she seems to have with me is that i get tired easily as a base( the person who holds the tops), that is due to my harsh workouts and swimming lots of laps to prepare for lifeguarding cources. I am simply to sore at times to do well on practices however I do very well on games and thats not a problem. My workout routines do not bother my coach since I explianed to her the situation. The only one who has a problem with this, is that girl who is not even the captain. She has comminted on it repeatedly ( everyday and i dont think i'll take it from her much more) and i have explained the situation to her as well but she doesn't seem to care. I am tired of her critisism since my soreness does not effect her in any way. I told her off today( finally after taking that shit from her for a month) and i think it just made her more mad and she totally had a spaz attack
. In any case thats the backround on my situation, i have a huge urge to just kick her ass because common sense and logic does not seem to get to her.( anyways a bit of cheerleading drama for you here) SO what do you ppl think about all this? Any thoughts at all? In general, what are your thoughts on solving your problems with violence?
two things you could use: metal baseball bats and paragraphs.
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| Originally posted by SuperFarStucker two things you could use: metal baseball bats and paragraphs. |
The way you described her I think even if you do kick her ass she wont stop...things might even get worse. Don't let some cheerleading bullshit (or bickering whatever you want to call it) effect you other sports, cause I'm sure those are a little more important than the opinions of a I should be captain drama queen...
But then again instant gratification is always good too...is she one of the cheerleaders that gets lifted...if she is, next time you lift her, drop her on her ass.
i suggest you challenge her to three hundred rounds of naked mud wrestling. repalce mud with baby oil. video if possible.
I second the oil wrestling.
But seriously - I'd try for some passive agressivism. Everyone knows psychological damage lasts longer than physical damage
Next time she starts nitpicking your stuff, do the same with her, only start every sentence with "The same could be said about you. For example..." And you have to make sure you do it in public, otherwise it won't matter. The idea is to make it sound as if she's criticising herself, and to get everyone else to agree with you.
And I'm not joking around either. If logic and reasoning don't seem to work with her then she probably has some serious problems. Some social pressure/social embarassment might do the trick. As someone stated above, physical violence might make her even more determined to go after you (as it's already been established she's not completely there). Besides, it could have serious repercussions on yourself.
So yeah, psychological damage. Ruin her life permanently while emerging from the situation without a lawsuit!
kick her in the fanny!
get her wasted mafia style.
Heh, going directly after her would not be a good idea, as it might get you kicked off the team. If you really want to solve the problem with violence, here's what you should do. Try to make her hate you more and more untill she finally snaps and attacks you first. Then you can pretend to be a victim and she'll be the one that's kicked off your team. Then beat her up afterwards when you're all alone so that such an action will have no effect on you being in the team. If she says something about it then, just deny it. The coach will be more likely to trust you since she was the one causing the trouble all along. Do not make it obvious at any given point that you intend to solve matters with her violently, as it will shatter your credibility. There, I hope that helped 
Just stone wall her. Dont speak to her ever - even when she speaks to you.
Next time she criticizes your moves, tell her you'd like to see the way SHE does it, just so you know how an "expert" handles things. Then when she demonstrates, give her the same treatment she gives you.
If you really wanna bring violence into this situation, you could kick her in the shins every time she makes a mistake and say, "Not good enough!! I want results!!"
Heh.
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| Originally posted by smallSHEEP Just stone her. |
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There's a time and a place for everything.
Usually what I do is to try to provoke the other person into attacking me (I find repeatedly calling them a coward works well). That way, whatever I do to them is "just in self-defense."
hand her a business card to a shrink's office next time she runs her mouth, and tell her to work her problems out with him/her, instead of you.
if she keeps it up, then knock her teeth out
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| Originally posted by smallSHEEP Just stone wall her. Dont speak to her ever - even when she speaks to you. |
I mean, FFS look at my sig...but even bashing someone's brains in or capping them doesn't solve everything...
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| Originally posted by smallSHEEP Just stone wall her. Dont speak to her ever - even when she speaks to you. |
I find passive sarcasm and patronization works the best. It will either incite more bunched up anger in her which will only make her appear out of control in front of everyone, or it will completely diffuse her, thus taking the anger "wind" out of her sails. Either result is in your benefit. I find my wife does quite well with this skill when confronted with an adversary, esp. another female. Some of my favorite lines after the adversary's outbursts are:
"Are you okay, sweetheart? Really now, tell me what bothers you. Is there something more behind that anger? Perhaps some professional help is best. It's okay to admit you can't handle all problems on your own. It's the first step in the healing process."
"You know that anger is detrimental to your health? Try yoga or Tai Chi, or a good cup of strychnine tea. Anything to quell your ill feelings."
"Gracious, you sure have much to say! Thank you so much for your criticism! I honestly don't know where I'd be without you. Thank you for loving me this much."
**follow that with a gentle kiss on her cheek**
"You see, this is why I love you so much! You have so many positive things to say, AND you know how to make everyone feel oh so much better! Thank you. Thank you so much!
**follow that with a big hug**
Just some food for thought.
hahah exactly.
or some of these might work too...
"i know it probably makes you feel better about yourself to constantly criticize others, but you should try to work out those deep rooted insecurities through counseling, hun...lots of luck with that "
"babe, you're gonna give yourself gray hairs worrying so much about little ol' me".
"boy, you sure put a lot of effort in paying so much attention to me...i'm flattered".
i know the situation you're in, i wanna knock my housemate out coz she's a mouthy little **** but u just can't do shit like that
says who
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K the following is the expressed opinion of TTA
1)If you are too tired and you are making the team suffer then GET OUT!. I'm one who gets tired of people making excuses, lifeguarding whatever, if you are making the team suffer then either raise the level or get out.
2)Violence solves nothing really and it is my opinion that it only serves to create more problems. You hit her or something, you get kicked off the team, maybe charged, she gets mad, the cycle continues
3)Telling her off I doubt will work, that usually creates more problems as well (funny that I'm saying this init!).
4)Your solution, get the team together and talk about the need for team unity and don't single her out. Just say certain people need to pick up their socks and get moving. I do point out, anytime you do this, make sure you are the example or you will just be a hyprocrite. I played on many teams (cheerleading is not a sport tho) and we usually had one player like this, a total disgrace. In hockey, I'd just single the person out because i played goalie and I was the team leader but that happened once. Usually I tore into the whole team and tore into our play and how pathetic we were. I mean we lost 11-1 one night and I tore into our team for that, I was mad at myself for playing poorly but really one guy made two errors that opened the floorgates. I tore the team apart as well as my own play rather than single him out. We got even and won 11-2 the next time we played them, we beat them 9-5 in the playoffs 5 months later.
5)Ask yourself, is me fighting her or telling her really going to solve matters?
You must have friends on the team who agree with you, right? Try subtle organized humiliation. My weapon of choice would be gang laughing. When she starts shooting her mouth off, have friends ready, smile, look to your friends and have everyone laugh at her at once. Then she'll go "What the f&*#!addayaddyaa etc." Laugh even harder! Pretend she's some kind of funny animal. Later she'll pull you aside and ask what the hell. Your only answer should be, "I dunno, you're just funny!"
Mind you it might be a little late in the game to do that sort of thing.
Your coach must know what's going on. What does your coach say?
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| Originally posted by Taz Try subtle organized humiliation. My weapon of choice would be gang laughing. |
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