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Posted by CKYTEP on Feb-24-2004 10:49:

Social Anxiety

Any of you have it? If so, what do you do to calm down and make it go away


Posted by andy on Feb-24-2004 11:07:

hmmmmm i have social phobia... there is nothin u can do to make the anxiety go away... except face the fear


Posted by FuzzE on Feb-24-2004 11:32:

Smiling Frog

They have presrcibed medication for that, but you get the impression that doesn't quite solve the problem.

Some might see this as a silly suggestion, but its a suggestion nonetheless:

Smoke weed. Start off by yourself so you're not attacked by paranoia when you're around other people. When you begin getting use to it you'll find yourself a much more chill person. Your personality changes and certain things appear less inconsequential. Subsequently, when or if you start kicking it with other stoners your anxiety may significantly diminish.

Mind you this can have the completely opposite affect and may worsen your phobia. But who knows eh?


Posted by Flec on Feb-24-2004 14:10:

my friend gets crazy panik attacks when he smokes weed.... not always the answer


see a doctor asap they can try and treat you with different medications or with different mental ways to beat the attacks such as these cards that you read that help you get over the attack


Posted by igottaknow on Feb-24-2004 14:28:

Re: Social Anxiety

quote:
Originally posted by CKYTEP
Any of you have it? If so, what do you do to calm down and make it go away

I have borderline case, I dont get panic attacks and interact with ppl normally, but i get very nervous speaking in front of large groups of strangers. Since I was thinking of becoming a teacher, I went to therapist to see if there was something I could do to overcome my fears. Depending how severe your symptoms, he will perscribe you the appropriate medication. Then gradually you put your self into situations that you find uncomfortable until you become desensitized and realise your fears are irrational. BTW, you can find plenty of into online. Good luck.


Posted by Radagast on Feb-24-2004 15:54:

I just found this site the other day.


Posted by Boomer187 on Feb-24-2004 16:09:

one way to get rid of it is like so...

1. Learn to relax, deep breathing, pleasant thinking...anyway you can, just learn some relaxation.

2. start off small, go into some social situations that cause the smallest anxiety. Then remember your relaxation techniques.

3. slowly get into more and more anxiety provoking situations....always remembering your relaxation.



after a few months you'll be cured.


Posted by Floorfiller on Feb-24-2004 16:17:

if your social anxiety involves women...just get laid a lot and then you'll be cured...you'll have more confidence hehehe...


Posted by Slylee on Feb-24-2004 17:59:

it's all in your mind...life is too short to have such a horrible condition and hide behind it...go see a doc and build your confidence.

the weed tip might help but it could also backfire...i was close to someone who had it and i got him to smoke weed...it totally cured him of it.


Posted by whiskers on Feb-24-2004 18:08:

i guess reinforcing your self-esteem could help; trying to not give a damn about what others think; controlling your emotions and knowing yourself...


Posted by Floorfiller on Feb-24-2004 18:09:

what about this...its kinda related...

i'm a jealous bastard. how do i stop from being so damn jealous of shit?


Posted by Slylee on Feb-24-2004 18:26:

depends on what you get jealous about and how you deal with it.

usually the root of jealousy is insecurity (which we all have), but a lot of the times too, it's about respect, if you're a principled person like myself. usually lack of trust is a part of it all too.

like for instance, if a girl is checking out my boyfriend...ok fine. he's hot, i understand that and i know he's mine. if she starts acting on it, then her face gets rearranged.


Posted by Floorfiller on Feb-24-2004 18:55:

quote:
Originally posted by Slylee
depends on what you get jealous about and how you deal with it.

usually the root of jealousy is insecurity (which we all have), but a lot of the times too, it's about respect, if you're a principled person like myself. usually lack of trust is a part of it all too.

like for instance, if a girl is checking out my boyfriend...ok fine. he's hot, i understand that and i know he's mine. if she starts acting on it, then her face gets rearranged.


i know that i'm a pretty insecure person so i think that is a lot of it, but i also have a lot of mistrust in general that i think gets taken out on my girl friend. i just always end up saying something stupid and then regretting it later...i've been working on it...i just can't help it though...


Posted by Slylee on Feb-24-2004 19:05:

ok all you social phobialites

get this book...
http://www.activator.com/catalog_item.asp?ID=75

Danny Drubin is the man

http://www.speaking.com/speakers/danieldrubin.html


Posted by TranceMuzik02 on Feb-24-2004 19:18:

Didn't know it had a name, well I guess I have it.


Posted by Pete K on Feb-24-2004 19:19:

My gf has general anxiety disorder


the problem doesn't go away. it's fine one minute and the next moment she could be having an anxiety attack for no reason. She takes xanax which calms her down most of the time, but it's still not helpfull.


as for the jealousy comment


anything emotion wise can be caused by anxiety

you have to realize that someone with anxiet thinks non stop

it's in there nature to worry every second of the day

they might be doing something not knowning there going to hurt anyone just cos of there anxiety


Posted by TranceMuzik02 on Feb-24-2004 19:39:

Do this test to see if you have any problems:

http://www.freedomfromfear.org/screenrm.asp

This is my result:

The self assessment tool indicates the presence of the symptoms of Panic Disorder, Generalized Anxiety Disorder, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder and Social Phobia. It is recommended that you contact a doctor or mental health professional.

shit


Posted by djSlain on Feb-24-2004 19:42:

i used to have an extreme socialphobia. Its very hard to get over and people don't realize how challenging it can be. it's not a matter of "just talk to someone!".
I did this during my bad times, and my psychology would make me pay for it each time. I would have to go to the bathroom after every social encounter to vomit. Imagining this happening everyday at school, where of course, rumors get started and rampant ridicule. It's not very fun. Of course, frustration, stress and depression are down the road for people who do not get help for it.
From what i've heard, Paxil, which is already prescribed for depression, helps ease the anxiety during social encounters. It worked for me. Paxil DOES work, it just takes the umph to practice the social skills while taking it. Say hi to people on the street, get into a conversations with customers at work, etc.


Posted by Seric on Feb-24-2004 20:00:

quote:
Originally posted by Boomer187
one way to get rid of it is like so...

1. Learn to relax, deep breathing, pleasant thinking...anyway you can, just learn some relaxation.

2. start off small, go into some social situations that cause the smallest anxiety. Then remember your relaxation techniques.

3. slowly get into more and more anxiety provoking situations....always remembering your relaxation.



after a few months you'll be cured.


In an idealistic world, you've found the cure. Unfortunately for some of us who suffer from anxeity as related to neurological dysfunction, sometimes it takes years and years of therapy coupled with corrective medication, and often that only prohibits the worsening whilst the subject remains as they initially were before treatment. Whether or not you have anxeity issues based on TS (Tourette's Syndrome) or not, the reading is extremely comprehensive as far as neurological disorders go. Often a simple social anxeity developing in the later teenage/early adulthood stage is a precursor to much more serious issues such and bi-polar disorder, serious disabilitating anxeities, and even believe it or not, is an initial characteristic of schizophrenia. I execute rather sane behavior in a super linear way, not confusing action/direct or otherwise consequence, but because of my anxeity and obsessive compulsive disorder, I'm at risk of being one of those guys you see downtown (with ducks for best friends) creating intense bi-partisan relationships with inanimate objects. I'm already scatterbrained beyond recognition as far as thought processes concearn me. So the moreal of the story is: You're probably just a nerd and thats ok , but go to the doctor and see what he says, becuase in most cases (with the occasional excuse of post traumatic induced psychosis of anxeity) anxeity symptoms ger progressively worse, as you condition yourself to your buffer of comfortable routine. Anyway. Yeah, you might just not like people much, like some of us.


[Edit: The ganj evened me out in highschool, but now I just get very depressed when I'm high. I get dilusional, connecting unrelated events to create catastrophic thoughts that lead to abnormal pathology untill the high is gone. Or maybe i'm just so cloudy on every average say that when i smoke the ganj and clear up my head I realise even moreso how fucked up the world is. Idunno. As far as mood goes I only operate normally under the influence of fairly strong narcotics such as percocet, which leads to a dependance and BAAAD withdrawl crankies, so don't do it. ]


Posted by Mr. Pink on Feb-24-2004 20:07:

Rasta

Stop thinking every one gives a rat ass about you...

thats how i do it...

essentially it's all about the ego....you think people are talking about you...you get nervous. You think people actually give a crap about you haha....most often than not, they don't.


so stop worrying


Posted by Boomer187 on Feb-24-2004 21:14:

quote:
Originally posted by Seric
In an idealistic world, you've found the cure. Unfortunately for some of us who suffer from anxeity as related to neurological dysfunction, sometimes it takes years and years of therapy coupled with corrective medication, and often that only prohibits the worsening whilst the subject remains as they initially were before treatment.....


I shortened and skipped a few steps, but it still remains one of the top methods for getting rid of social anxiety.


a great thing to do it to use those anxiety drugs in conjunction with this technique.

The hardest part about that is not drawing the connection between the drug and the cure, drugs offer temporary relief while you do the hard work. However many just choose the easy route with drugs.


Posted by Seric on Feb-24-2004 21:22:

quote:
Originally posted by Boomer187
I shortened and skipped a few steps, but it still remains one of the top methods for getting rid of social anxiety.


a great thing to do it to use those anxiety drugs in conjunction with this technique.

The hardest part about that is not drawing the connection between the drug and the cure, drugs offer temporary relief while you do the hard work. However many just choose the easy route with drugs.


sorry for jumping on your oversimplification. I agree, drug use witout combined therapy is the most detrimental thing you could probably do to yourself if you're in a serious situation with anxeity.


Posted by Boomer187 on Feb-24-2004 21:25:

quote:
Originally posted by Seric
sorry for jumping on your oversimplification. I agree, drug use witout combined therapy is the most detrimental thing you could probably do to yourself if you're in a serious situation with anxeity.


naw, it wasn't a jumping on me at all...

ive taken much worse. :P.


not that I doubt your jumping on people ability.....its just.....now I am rambling.


Posted by Seric on Feb-24-2004 21:37:

quote:
Originally posted by Boomer187
naw, it wasn't a jumping on me at all...

ive taken much worse. :P.


not that I doubt your jumping on people ability.....its just.....now I am rambling.


Ahah you made me laugh aloud! hehe.. Hey /hijack I was wondering what's the story behind your avatar? You look like you're teaching a seminar, or mock congress or something


Posted by Boomer187 on Feb-24-2004 21:52:

quote:
Originally posted by Seric
Ahah you made me laugh aloud! hehe.. Hey /hijack I was wondering what's the story behind your avatar? You look like you're teaching a seminar, or mock congress or something


I wish it was me. It is William Hung...

http://www.williamhung.net/


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