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personal thoughts on tomorrow night and a depressed rant...

this is not one of your typical pvd threads, about what song he is supposed to or not supposed to play, or about what time to get there or what you can and cant bring inside. this is me venting on a very depressing subject at the moment.

i wrote the "i know this may sound sad but..." thread months ago complaining about being lonely and not being able to give what i have to offer to the right girl out there and so on. well a few months later after being alone for over 2 years and meeting only 1 person, i met the most amazing girl. our personalities connected in every way i could possibly imagine and more.

we got to know each other and i knew right away i wanted her to be with me and no one else. you can think all you want about jumping to conclusions too quickly but i know with every fiber in my being and in my soul she was the one i wanted to be with and could see myself with for good.

when she and i discussed my love of trance and clubbing, it made me realize i had found someone truly unique who could appreciate music like i could and could bring with me to the club and have an amazing time with. she was supposed to come with me to pvd tomorrow night and ferry on saturday. unfortunately (and completely out of left field), after the most amazing valentines day she and i have both ever had, she and i get into one or two small disagreements later last week, and she decides she cant be with me anymore. issues with one of her past relationships made her feel like i was going to treat her just like someone else did (who treated her like complete shit) after only one fight.

needless to say i am devastated. completely heartbroken. after years of going clubbing and out to shows alone i finally thought i was being blessed with someone i loved so very much to share the experience with. in addition to that i just cant believe that the only girl i have realistically said to myself "I can picture myself marrying this girl", has walked out of my life.

i know some of this comes across as wierd on an internet message board but i did get a good response last time so i figured i'd just vent on here.

so no matter how good the set is tomorrow night, or how much fun i will try to have, there will be something really big missing for me....

for those of you who have that amazing person in your lives, cherish them as much as you can cause what happened to me is living proof that something so good can vanish in the blink of an eye with very little explaination why

what the hell are you doing here man?! GO GET HER BACK!!!!!


WORK IT OUT. nuff said, j0.

Re: personal thoughts on tomorrow night and a depressed rant...

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Originally posted by pvd420 this is not one of your typical pvd threads, about what song he is supposed to or not supposed to play, or about what time to get there or what you can and cant bring inside. this is me venting on a very depressing subject at the moment. i wrote the "i know this may sound sad but..." thread months ago complaining about being lonely and not being able to give what i have to offer to the right girl out there and so on. well a few months later after being alone for over 2 years and meeting only 1 person, i met the most amazing girl. our personalities connected in every way i could possibly imagine and more. we got to know each other and i knew right away i wanted her to be with me and no one else. you can think all you want about jumping to conclusions too quickly but i know with every fiber in my being and in my soul she was the one i wanted to be with and could see myself with for good. when she and i discussed my love of trance and clubbing, it made me realize i had found someone truly unique who could appreciate music like i could and could bring with me to the club and have an amazing time with. she was supposed to come with me to pvd tomorrow night and ferry on saturday. unfortunately (and completely out of left field), after the most amazing valentines day she and i have both ever had, she and i get into one or two small disagreements later last week, and she decides she cant be with me anymore. issues with one of her past relationships made her feel like i was going to treat her just like someone else did (who treated her like complete shit) after only one fight. needless to say i am devastated. completely heartbroken. after years of going clubbing and out to shows alone i finally thought i was being blessed with someone i loved so very much to share the experience with. in addition to that i just cant believe that the only girl i have realistically said to myself "I can picture myself marrying this girl", has walked out of my life. i know some of this comes across as wierd on an internet message board but i did get a good response last time so i figured i'd just vent on here. so no matter how good the set is tomorrow night, or how much fun i will try to have, there will be something really big missing for me.... for those of you who have that amazing person in your lives, cherish them as much as you can cause what happened to me is living proof that something so good can vanish in the blink of an eye with very little explaination why

dude does she have a screenname or email address... if so PM it to me... Ill mend those broken wings

Big up To Leonia im in Fort Lee

work at it! show her u're different! and good luck!

If shes that quick to walk out of your life.....I hate to say it......but shes not the one bro. I hope you get over her soon and just try to have fun @ PVD. Who knows....you might meet another girl there.

Dude just unzip your pants and whip out your cock.. Then say "Hey baby, you know you can't live without this". Then hopefully she will say "God no" then shell drop to here knees and start blowing you right there on the spot...

Hahahahahha.

believe me i've been fighting to get her back for days now. nothing i have said is making any difference. email after email, phone call after phone call pleading with her, saying how much she will be missing out on hasnt done much if anything at all.

i really thought i had something amazing. i always figured that when bad things happen between two people, you at least have some warning and can see it comming. i honestly did not. that's how it had always been in my relationships in the past. it feels like i fell off the mountain i had been hoping to climb for so long.

thanks for the support guys. it's at times like this that i realize that there are good people out there who i can turn to for support (even if i have never met them). thanks....

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Originally posted by trunks1022 work at it! show her u're different! and good luck!

Na It doesnt sound like he has to change at all. If what your saying really is true then she didn't break it off because of 2 small disagreements. She may of been searching for a way to get out of the relationship and used those to fights as an excuse. Girls get very confused about emotions and feelings. Maybe you should give it time and see what happens.



good luck

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Originally posted by vtec junkie Who knows....you might meet another girl there.

He will hehe

Loves sucks nuff said

it's always the worst when you can't see something like that coming. instead of e-mailing her constantly and trying to fix things, i think you should lay low and see what happens. who knows, maybe she'll realize what she lost and she'll come back to you. reguardless, i hope you're able to have fun tommorow night. you should try to let tommorow night help you get her off of your mind for a bit, even though i know you'd rather spend the night with her.

Listen you seem like a nice guy (and I feel your pain in this department because I have this dreadful gift as well), I think the more you try to convince her to come back, the more she will resist. It could have been a fright and flight response - (I agree with Shanny) Maybe she saw something serious starting to happen and became afraid of all the emotion and commitment. Just leave it be, if anyone screwed up, it was her...

forget the girl and go to pvd. . . lots of girls there to get ur BONIN IN DE CLUB on.

Why do you need love when you can BONIN IN DE CLUB?

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Originally posted by Aya Brea it's always the worst when you can't see something like that coming. instead of e-mailing her constantly and trying to fix things, i think you should lay low and see what happens. who knows, maybe she'll realize what she lost and she'll come back to you. reguardless, i hope you're able to have fun tommorow night. you should try to let tommorow night help you get her off of your mind for a bit, even though i know you'd rather spend the night with her.

Agreed man, the thing that sucks now is the ball is in her court now.

If she doesnt return your phone calls or emails or whatever, then you just gotta stop. Hopefully, if she comes around to her senses and realizes what she's lost in you she will come back.

But don't hold your breath, coz that doesnt always happen. Also be careful if something happens to her and she comes crying back to you. As bad as it may sound, she could be an attention-whore (i use that term loosely here)

What I'm saying is, dont get your hopes up for her to come running back but to just find out later that she just needs to vent or talk to you about something else in her life. Believe me it happened to me, when I thought this girl was coming back, but all she did was cry about what happened at some party, or why her friends are mad or stupid crap like that....
and i realized that she just needed a shoulder to cry on and she didnt want to get back with me, she just knew i'd listen. So i cut off all contact with her after that.

Moral of the story, just be careful if she comes back, god forbid what happened to me should happen to you, but theres always that chance that shes coming back for the right reasons.

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forget the girl and go to pvd.

Agreed, just go and have a good time and try not to let it bring you down too much

Best of luck man

just got off the phone with her after a few hours. there are a few things that complicate this story that i wont go into on here since it would take too long (not really bad things, just things). the conversation ended with me telling her that i know i can make her happy, and everything can be right. she realizes now that she isnt ready to be happy with me at this point in her life.

all i can do is hope she realizes one day that i can give her a lot of happiness and decides to take that chance with me. i did all i could, we decided to leave each other alone since it would be for the best.

in the end what the arguments were about werent really the issue. after a week of going around in circles, what it came down to was the fact that this relationship was too much for her to handle.

i will take some comfort knowing that i tried as hard as i could and was a wonderful boyfriend to her while i was with her. hopefully some day things will work out and she will realize that i am the right person for her.

on a side note, where are you guys planning on meeting up tomorrow night? so many of you (vlad being just one of them) have been here to listen and give me advice. i'd like to meet a bunch of you guys tomorrow.

thanks again....

-colin

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Originally posted by Vlad Listen you seem like a nice guy (and I feel your pain in this department because I have this dreadful gift as well), I think the more you try to convince her to come back, the more she will resist. It could have been a fright and flight response - (I agree with Shanny) Maybe she saw something serious starting to happen and became afraid of all the emotion and commitment. Just leave it be, if anyone screwed up, it was her...

Yeah, I would have to agree with Vlad on this. Some people in general just handle intense feelings in different ways. From what I've read, you have nothing to take the blame for. On one hand it's great that you have such strong feelings for someone and that person is the one person you want to be with; but it really sucks that the person who holds your heart doesn't have the same feelings towards you. I def. can empathize with you, as most people probably have been in similiar circumstances. My advice is to just leave things be. If it's ment to be, she'll realize it and come back. I know it's tough to just let someone so special go, but, sometimes it's the best thing to do. Take a little time off and let her gather her toughts and see if she can come to a conclusion of what she's really feeling. Just keep your head up bro! Time will heal all wounds!

what a bum rap for a nice, sensitive guy like you

seriously though, you're actually lucky she deaded things now as opposed to later when you'd be even more attached -- go to pvd; have a good time; out of sight, out of mind

i'm so sorry

i know it's hard but please try not to let it ruin your nite. just come out, dance , enjoy the music and have fun.

Don't waste time waiting around for her....seriously. What you need to do is forget about her and go on with life and do your thing. People waste so much time waiting for something to happen and it never does man. Life is short....you need to make the most of it. I used to get so worked up when things didn't work out between me and girls. Now im just like....what the fuck ever. If it didn't work....it wasn't ment to be. Im sure you guys can still be friend's...then maybe someday she will realize how big of dumb ass she was by breaking up with you. The problem with people today is they never know what the fuck they want till it's gone and that's when it hits them in the face and then, they wonder why they never took advantage of what they had in the past.

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