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Posted by Iyrlk on Apr-29-2004 11:10:

dealing with...

i dont know how to deal with this:

ive been dating this girl for a while and a lot of people still think that she is better off dating another guy (a really good friend of hers). i know (she confirms) that we're both happy with each other, but i dont know how to deal with my anger/disappointment (or some other word i cant think of) that people are openly saying that she is better off with this guy.. i know the normal response will be: who cares? you're happy with her and so is she. just ignore. but i dont know why but its hard to deal for me.. people supposedly my friends think like them too which is .. yeah.. suggestions?..

Posted by DarkAngel on Apr-29-2004 11:12:

Not to plant any seeds of drama, but these people COULD be jealous. I don't know, I am NOT good at these matters, but I'm calling it as I see it. If you two are happy with each other, bless your heart, and FUCK what everyone else says, thinks or feels. You two are all that matters, not them. Best of luck.

Posted by Iyrlk on Apr-29-2004 11:16:

maybe.. times like this i feel alone. i dont know why people are like this.. i would never do this to my friend. i dont know what to say..

Posted by Lira on Apr-29-2004 13:43:

quote:
Originally posted by Iyrlk
maybe.. times like this i feel alone. i dont know why people are like this.. i would never do this to my friend. i dont know what to say..

Ignore them, and tell your girlfriend to do the same. If you're both ignoring them, then one day they'll give up.

By the way, have they ever said "why" they would be better together? It can be jealousy, as DarkAngel said

Posted by Jiffy on Apr-29-2004 14:15:

Tell them to piss off.

Posted by trancebrat on Apr-29-2004 14:19:

Time to take a step back and evaluate the relationships that you have with the people that you call your friends.

Posted by DJAntSmith on Apr-29-2004 14:23:

Just do what feels right dude.

Posted by -=M=- on Apr-29-2004 14:23:

man i'd just let it rest for now, and if anyone tried to bring up the subject with you again i'd say something along the lines of "so what, you want me to break up with someone who's made me so happy??? WTF?!" then i'd go off at them and pretty much emotionally blackmail the fuck outta them until they say "fuck man... sorry, i didnt know she meant so much to you, shit... perhaps i shouldnt touch subjects that are none of my business"

you get the point... when shit like that happens to me i turn manipulative

Posted by DigiNut on Apr-29-2004 14:28:

quote:
Originally posted by Jiffy
Tell them to piss off.

quote:
Originally posted by trancebrat
Time to take a step back and evaluate the relationships that you have with the people that you call your friends.

Best advice in this thread. They're supposed to be your friends and they're supposed to be happy for you. So tell them to stay the fuck out of your love/sex life and let the two of you make your own decisions, otherwise they can find new friends.

Don't "let it go" - stand up for yourself.

Posted by Iyrlk on Apr-29-2004 15:06:

thanks for the advice.

my gf tells them to shut up or ignores them. ill tell them to fuck off next time i hear things like that. thanks all.

Posted by th0m on Apr-29-2004 15:39:

quote:
Originally posted by Iyrlk
thanks for the advice.

my gf tells them to shut up or ignores them. ill tell them to fuck off next time i hear things like that. thanks all.

Now we're talking

Hope it works out!

Posted by Iyrlk on Apr-29-2004 16:10:

thanks

uh.. btw whats in your avatar??

Posted by nchs09 on Apr-29-2004 16:12:

everytime i see a girl advice thread.. or relationship thread... i get pissed, but then i think "one day ill post one" so i keep my feelings inside.....

^^^ well they arent inside anymore but i dont flame anymore hehe