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Thoughtful reaction for girlfriend's new haircut needed desperately

So my drama lies on how touchy girls are (specially when it comes to their looks AND when they're on "those days"), how transparent I am (I wish I was a good liar at times) and the unexplainable attraction between girls and scissors.

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Originally posted by whiskers love doesn't care about hair length.

True, I reckon my girlfriend should do whatever floats her boat when it comes to vainity (if she feels like cutting her hair, or piercing her nose... it's hers after all) - I like her the way she is. However, today she sent me an SMS saying "Hey, I cut my hair. It's very short now, somewhat like yours" (picture of my hair in case you're curious... it's longer than what it is in the avatar). I was obviously surprised. She had very beautiful long hair and, transparent as I am, I will look a bit shocked when I see her, no matter how much I think she should do whatever she wants with her hair... and I know that any "sad" reaction from me will hurt her feelings, as she just wanted to look pretty because we'll go out to some special place sunday, to celebrate our 6th month together.

What to say, what to do? My only choice so far is to avoid eye contact at first and tell her I like her no matter what. Anyone's got a better idea? Anyone else been through it? Should I cut my hair back to what it is in the avatar as a "payback"? (I was growing my hair because she thought it was cute... but I reckon this would just start a stupid little war between us, and it's not worth it as we've never fought anyway).

I say you spike up your hair and go for the super saiyan look.Chicks dig it

damn. dats short

Re: Thoughtful reaction for girlfriend's new haircut needed desperately

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Originally posted by Lira So my drama lies on how touchy girls are (specially when it comes to their looks AND when they're on "those days"), how transparent I am (I wish I was a good liar at times) and the unexplainable attraction between girls and scissors. True, I reckon my girlfriend should do whatever floats her boat when it comes to vainity (if she feels like cutting her hair, or piercing her nose... it's hers after all) - I like her the way she is. However, today she sent me an SMS saying "Hey, I cut my hair. It's very short now, somewhat like yours" (picture of my hair in case you're curious... it's longer than what it is in the avatar). I was obviously surprised. She had very beautiful long hair and, transparent as I am, I will look a bit shocked when I see her, no matter how much I think she should do whatever she wants with her hair... and I know that any "sad" reaction from me will hurt her feelings, as she just wanted to look pretty because we'll go out to some special place sunday, to celebrate our 6th month together. What to say, what to do? My only choice so far is to avoid eye contact at first and tell her I like her no matter what. Anyone's got a better idea? Anyone else been through it? Should I cut my hair back to what it is in the avatar as a "payback"? (I was growing my hair because she thought it was cute... but I reckon this would just start a stupid little war between us, and it's not worth it as we've never fought anyway).

hey girls with short hair rock! it's kinda hard to pull off though, they need a like some spunk and attitude for it. So it might not be a bad ting that she cut it, i'd say reserve judgement till you see it, and retalianting by cutting your hair is just dumb lol.


omfg you look like wanderlei "axe-murderer" silva!

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Originally posted by TweeK I say you spike up your hair and go for the super saiyan look.Chicks dig it

agreed..

see...

Blazed it, she's not really that sort of "attitude girl"... if it looks great, great! The problem is... if it doesn't, I'll have to look like it is, because if I look like it isn't and I find out it is, because it is what it doesn't... well, I think you got it

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Originally posted by TweeK I say you spike up your hair and go for the super saiyan look.Chicks dig it

I wish I could, but my hair is not straight

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Originally posted by blazed it retalianting by cutting your hair is just dumb lol.

I was giving random solutions

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Originally posted by blazed it omfg you look like wanderlei "axe-murderer" silva!

Yay... erm, I guess

is that you with the dbz hair dude?

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Originally posted by TweeK is that you with the dbz hair dude?

moi?

Quality photoshoping, jay

(that's a cool hair)

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Originally posted by [N]�k|��[Z] moi?

yeah you

If that's you in your avatar you look like Todd from Coronation Street.


edit: okay I just read your post properly and it is you.. so you look like Todd from Coronation Street.

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Originally posted by TweeK yeah you

haha yup yup

and ahfankyoo maazerelli

our outfit is cool

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Originally posted by DJ Mikey Mike If that's you in your avatar you look like Todd from Coronation Street.

So I look like an axe murderer AND some TV character who seems to like kissing blokes.

How charming

edit: Not to mention I've been told I look like Swamper as well...

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Originally posted by R.j. damn. dats short

I ain't short, it's shorter than that!!!

(I believe she's exagerating though, or at least, I want to believe she is )

hahahah you're screwed. she'll know that you really don't like it by the look on your face.


best thing to do is be honest (not brutally, but a little honest).

just say this:


"sweetie, i don't want to lie to you, so i won't. i don't think it looks as good as it does when it's long, but i still think you're beautiful and i still love you...it'll probably grow on me"


now go practice your sincere face and recite that in the mirror a few times. she'll probably get offended but oh well. just don't lie to her and insult her...she'll get even more mad. like i said, she'll probably be able to tell right away that you don't like it.

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Originally posted by Slylee hahahah you're screwed. she'll know that you really don't like it by the look on your face.

I know, that's my fear

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Originally posted by Slylee best thing to do is be honest (not brutally, but a little honest). just say this: "sweetie, i don't want to lie to you, so i won't. i don't think it looks as good as it does when it's long, but i still think you're beautiful and i still love you...it'll probably grow on me" now go practice your sincere face and recite that in the mirror a few times. she'll probably get offended but oh well. just don't lie to her and insult her...she'll get even more mad. like i said, she'll probably be able to tell right away that you don't like it.

Even if she's in "those days"? You sure? I mean, I've always been honest, but I really wonder whether "avoiding a proper answer" shouldn't be a better option... and I would then tell her my opinion in a subtle way later...

i think slylee's got some good advice.

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Originally posted by blazed it i think slylee's got some good advice.

Erm... I guess all I've got in common with him is my old haircut (shaved hair)

Who is he, by the way?

(Alright, I'm taking note of Slylee's advice - any other words to enlighten me?)

no way, if you guys are really in love, then you will always be honest. I ALWAYS tell my bf when he looks like a retard...he doesn�t listen to me and he�ll still wear that outfit or whatever it was I didn�t like, but I mean, at least I don�t lie to him. but then again, that is just me. I�m known for speaking my mind and just callin it how it is, even if it might hurt someone�s feelings.

I was in a similar situation recently. my boyfriend�s best friend from college and even now shaved his head recently. Now I consider this guy like one of my best friends too cuz he�s always at our place and we hang out all the time...so I felt the need to be honest with him when he walked in bald. I was just like, "well I like you better with hair, but you still look cute, it�ll grow on me". I think he appreciated the honesty. And honestly, I�m used to it now...so you never know, you might be pleasantly surprised, or it�ll grow on you.

shes probably just fucking around with you. but hopefully she didnt go G.I. Jane.

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Originally posted by Lira Erm... I guess all I've got in common with him is my old haircut (shaved hair) Who is he, by the way? (Alright, I'm taking note of Slylee's advice - any other words to enlighten me?)

he's an awesome UFC and PRide fighter, you know like mixed martial arts competitions. He's from brazil and he's brutal as hell, very exciting fighter.

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Originally posted by Slylee no way, if you guys are really in love, then you will always be honest. I ALWAYS tell my bf when he looks like a retard...

this sounded funny for some reason
"Honey, I've got to tell you one thing?"
"What is it, darling?"
"You look like a retard"

Indeed, I now just need to find a better way to translate "Grow on me" in portuguese, as it sounds like "I'll get used to it" She usually complains that I avoid giving a contrary opinion. Well, unfortunately I guess the time's come.

*holds breath*

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Originally posted by jonze234 shes probably just fucking around with you.

She's not unfortunately

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Originally posted by blazed it he's an awesome UFC and PRide fighter, you know like mixed martial arts competitions. He's from brazil and he's brutal as hell, very exciting fighter.

Yay

An ex-girlfriend of mine did this one. It looked terrible. It looked like a helmet. I had to lie. She loved it. So just lie. Fuck honesty. She'll be happy and you'll get used to it.

heheh well sometimes he likes to get a little too crazy w/ the hair...he spikes it up too much and it looks too juvenile. then he just sits there and he'll watch my face and be like, "what...i know you don't like it...tough shit". i just laugh.

Meh, even my brother cut his hair


The worst thing is, I feel like doing it too now... heh

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