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Yet another love thread.....help
Here's my sitation:
I've been seeing this chick for a month now. I guess I'm getting myself attached too quickly but she does constently come across my mind everyday
We usually talk to each other once a day....blah blah blah........but we don't get to spend too much time together because of our busy life and it's getting pretty bad lately. This past week we've only had dinner once and saw each other for less than an hour. That was this past Thursday.....and we haven't talk at all since that night.
Although I've called her and left a messege on Friday, she has yet to called me back til now (Saturday night). It really kills me sometimes when she doesn't call me and she's usually pretty bad at it.
This has bother me for days since I haven't heard from her. It makes me think of the bad side of things (maybe she's done with me and find another guy) and I'm acutally a bit worry about what happened (like anything bad had happened to her since the last time we talked)
Maybe this is over.........and I really wanna find out WTF had happened because I've treat this girl very nice. Maybe nice guys do always finish last 
or Am I thinking too much?? What should I do now?
Everything was going great and the chick was giving u high hopes......then "boom"......it looks like it's all over. Anyone been in the same situation b4?
I'll keep this updated as the day goes (if anyone is interested)
have you thought about just asking her flat-out wtf is going on? instead of guessing or assuming, you need to find out what her deal is and hopefully she will be honest with you and not jerk you around. if she DOES jerk you around, she's obviously not mature enough to handle a serious relationship.
no relationship will work unless there are open lines of communication.
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| Originally posted by l�cid have you thought about just asking her flat-out wtf is going on? instead of guessing or assuming, you need to find out what her deal is and hopefully she will be honest with you and not jerk you around. if she DOES jerk you around, she's obviously not mature enough to handle a serious relationship. no relationship will work unless there are open lines of communication. |
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| Originally posted by TranceLuver4evr I don't wanna make myself an ass and keep calling her and leaving her messeges |
What lucid said... or you might just be getting ahead of yourself.
This girl seems like a pain in the ass, mon.
i think you're going to need to just do your thing, like i said before.
keep busy, dont appear to need her.
and jack if it doesn't work out, it wasn't meant to be.
dont fall too hard too quickly, I myself am trying to follow this advice.
I hate to say this man... but it sounds to me like the signs of a girl thats trying to push you away. It's happened to me before. If you ask her wtf? She may give you the final line (lets just be friends, etc..) What I would do in this situation-
Start doing the same, stop calling and stop trying to see her. Basically forget about her. She will either a) be releived or b) realize that she may be losing you and put out extra effort to see you.
I've learned that relationships work if nothing is forced into place. Once you have to work more than she does (calling, setting up dates, etc..) it's on the road to being over. I wish you luck, girls are bitches!
p.s. the day after breaking up, get a puppy and take it for a walk in the busiest part of the city. 
Sounds like insecurity to me (for you, not for her). You called Friday and you're freaking out that she didn't call you back before Saturday night? Man, talk about c-l-i-n-g-y!
People see their friends. People go to long-ass parties. People leave town. People, god forbid, get into car accidents and have to be hospitalized. I know for myself, there is NO WAY I could deal with any girl needing to see/talk to me EVERY day of the week. Not that I would necessarily *mind* hanging out with someone all the time, and I'm sure neither does your girlfriend, but we just need a day off sometimes!
I extend to you my hopes that she isn't pushing you away, but let me tell you, keep up this attitude and she will be soon! Respect personal space, buddy boy, find yourself a hobby or two to pass the time!
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| Originally posted by Derosas I wish you luck, girls are bitches! |
Yeah
1. Forget about her jack. DO NOT call her
2. Keep busy. Do your thing.
3. If she calls back- see whats up and if you can hang out soon.
4. If this is turning out to be more of a hastle than a gratifying experience...give it a good ol' fukit.
Seems like you took too long also
was in exact same situation a few weeks ago. Was seeing this girl too and i used to see her almost daily. Went on for 4-5 weeks. After a while i got sick of the insecurity of what to do so i just asked her what she thought about our relationship. She didnt like me enough to have me as a boyfriend. Im very happy i asked though as it gave me answers better than the insecurity of the not knowing. eventhough i was wrecked for like 3 days. Were just friends now, for how long that will last 
good luck
What Diginut said. Getting worried after not hearing from her over one day is ridiculous. Just chill and let what happens, happen.
Re: Yet another love thread.....help
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| Originally posted by TranceLuver4evr Am I thinking too much?? What should I do now? Everything was going great and the chick was giving u high hopes......then "boom"......it looks like it's all over. Anyone been in the same situation b4? I'll keep this updated as the day goes (if anyone is interested) |
trust is vital in relationships.
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| Originally posted by Mr. Pink This girl seems like a pain in the ass, mon. |
listen to me right now...anyone who has this problem...
i've been in the same situation. and i pushed away a wonderful woman doing it. someone who at one time really loved me but couldn't handle all of the bullshit that i put her through.
i'm NOT gonna make that same mistake again. i know the way you think...its the same way i would think...you always think about the worse case scenario yes? you always take everything said and over-analyze that shit until you convince yourself that the worse case scenario you just dreamed up is true. well, i have news for you...if you keep pressuring this girl then you're already gonna lose. so just save yourself the 2 years of bullshit and wake the fuck up. its not the girls problem...YOU have the problem. its complete insecurity as someone said. you need to find a way to gain confidence in your life or you're gonna keep repeating this until you end up alone and miserable.
i'm not gonna ruin another possibly wonderful relationship worrying all the fucking time...it really is a waste. don't do it.
yet the foolish jason can't read a pm 
Dude, go to a gym. Lose a few pounds, maybe gain a few, or just do whatever you want to do in order to free your mind of brooding over it. It is universal truth: if a girl is interested in you, even mildly, you will sense her interest. She will make calls and do whatever in her power to establish and solidify a relationship.
Of course you can always sit watching the phone, worrying and stressing yourself to a point of idiocy. But what's the point?
Relax, life is beautiful.
Re: Yet another love thread.....help
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| Originally posted by TranceLuver4evr I've been seeing this chick for a month now... ...We usually talk to each other once a day |
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| Originally posted by Omegasox What Diginut said. Getting worried after not hearing from her over one day is ridiculous. Just chill and let what happens, happen. |
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| Originally posted by Vigilante Are you a Jamaican in disguise???? |
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| Originally posted by Vigilante Are you a Jamaican in disguise???? |
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