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Ever screw yourself over big time???

yeah so , last month i met a girl named candace, she just moved from canoga park during summer, we became good friends (met her in a statistics class), she's had a boyfriend for about like a year, I guess i really like her cause i really can't stand being without her. every weekend she goes on a two hour drive back to canoga park to visit her friends, and every time she goes, i miss her even more. i finally thought to myself: i'll just be a friend, a very GOOD friend. i just finally realized yesterday that she'd never go with a guy like me and that she probably knows that i like her. and i don't think her boyfriend is gonna dump her sooner or later.
i'm starting to beleive that i'm madly in love... or maybe i'm crazy... over some plain girl that i can't have

oh god how i wish that i've never met her.


i'm starting to hate the fact that every girl i meet i end up being good friends with and then it's not possible for me to form a relationship cuase they always throw you bs like: "i'm your friend and i don't wanna change that"

I feel like a broken record but here goes anyways... you should read the ladder theory if you haven't already. Basically you need to change your approach. When you first meet a girl she will either put you on the potential bf ladder or the friend ladder. After that your fate is sealed. Obviously i'm over simplying, you can look up the details for yourself.

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Originally posted by igottaknow I feel like a broken record but here goes anyways... you should read the ladder theory if you haven't already. Basically you need to change your approach. When you first meet a girl she will put you either put you on the potential bf ladder or the friend ladder. After that your fate is sealed. Obviously i'm over simplying, you can look up the details for yourself.

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My FATE IS SEALED!?!?

jeez i now i gotta know if i'm on the bf ladder or not

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Originally posted by SirSycott My FATE IS SEALED!?!? jeez i now i gotta know if i'm on the bf ladder or not

You should be able to tell. From the way it sounds, Id fold this ladder up and store it in the garage for possbile (but unlikely) use later...

Well to tell you honestly, if you don't think you're on the boyfriend ladder - well chances are you're not. On top of that ~ she's already going out with someone so that in itself is problematic.

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Originally posted by tribu You should be able to tell. From the way it sounds, Id fold this ladder up and store it in the garage for possbile (but unlikely) use later...

god,..... i hate myself

i'm just gonna hope that there are other guys like me out there, that way we could start a club or organization.

i'll call it: S.A.D. (single and desperate)

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Originally posted by SirSycott god,..... i hate myself

Why? Theres tons of girls out there....If this girl was the one, shed be with you right now, and if shes eventuallly that one, ittl happen regardless as long as you remain active in her life. I say get over it, man. Theres a million girls out there, and while some are bitches, rude, selfish, smell bad, not attractive, annoying, and spoiled, theres still plenty of good ones...


EDIT: Also, quit with the self-pity act. That only will take a girl so far (think about 1/48743 of the way).

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Originally posted by SirSycott i hate myself

Yet, you want her to like you.

Maybe you should work on this attitude first

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Originally posted by SirSycott god,..... i hate myself i'm just gonna hope that there are other guys like me out there, that way we could start a club or organization. i'll call it: S.A.D. (single and desperate)

lol great club name, and I might join, only more because im single and not necessarily desperate. I date girls, but it seems like theres something iffy about every one. Or else something appears iffy about me to them. Either way, im only 22 so ive got plenty of time for it to work out. Id like to be somewhat established before I get into another serious relationship anyways. How old are you?

How do you tell if you are initially on her 'friends' or 'potential' ladder? Any tell-tale signs?

LET HER KNOW HOW YOU FEEL

like the previous posters have said there nothing to get down about, just realize she's just a friend and if you want a gf you need to look elseware otherwise you're wasting your time and setting yourself up for a disappointment.

Read this thread:


http://www.tranceaddict.com/forums/...ts&pagenumber=1

i'm seventeen, turnin 18 in november,

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Originally posted by SirSycott i'm seventeen, turnin 18 in november,

heehee, youre way over reacting then man. Youve got university time, plus a whole other life after that. Like someone else said, work on changing your attitude to a positive one then go from there. IMO, the last thing you want is to be locked into a serious relationship when you have so much maturing to go...

i just barely got into college, i starting to think i'm way in over my head. yeah i guees i got lotssa time to develop.
for now, i guess i'll just play along and see how far this "friendship" is gonna take me... and i'm sure that being a friend is also a good thing, i can cherish that alot more than a broken heart.

i think i'm the only guy who thinks he doesn't need sex to live, for you see, i like to brag about my virginity....

(i still haven't had my first kiss hehe) i love it when people are so shocked about that

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Originally posted by SirSycott i think i'm the only guy who thinks he doesn't need sex to live, for you see, i like to brag about my virginity.... (i still haven't had my first kiss hehe) i love it when people are so shocked about that

I see why your still a Virgin, you watch Star Trek.(came to that conclusion based on your avatar)

That's spirit! =)

High five!



Lol I love this pic. ! hahah it's so handy ! (ok that was lame..but funny.. but lame..)

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Originally posted by TweeK I see why your still a Virgin, you watch Star Trek.(came to that conclusion based on your avatar)

Nothing wrong with Star Trek. Im not an avid watch or fan, but THG was a pretty entertaining show. Moat TV is garbage anyways...what do you watch sir tweek alot?


EDIT: And obviously, were all single or we wouldnt be posting on TA on a friday night

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Originally posted by TweeK I see why your still a Virgin, you watch Star Trek.(came to that conclusion based on your avatar)

ROFL!

Set phasers to arouse!

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Originally posted by TweeK I see why your still a Virgin, you watch Star Trek.(came to that conclusion based on your avatar)

actually your wrong, i just picked that avatar cuase i used to have the same hair do as spock

This Ladder Theory junk is the funniest stuff, lol.

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Originally posted by WeenZ ROFL! Set phasers to arouse!

lol! Its hilarious he's madly in love (infatuated) with a girl but sex doesn't matter to him.
one to beam up scotty

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Originally posted by igottaknow lol! Its hilarious he madly in love (infatuated) with a girl but sex doesn't matter to him. one to beam up scotty

now now, sex doesnt matter to me either...its the orgasm im most concerned with.

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