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Posted by DJ E-s*it on Nov-04-2004 22:53:

Do u think early sexual realtionship can.....

screw up the WHOLE relationship? Meaning when u like this girl and had sex before mutually agreeing on being bf/gf does make u feel dat she might be doing this all the time or she is easy to get? Whenever i like a girl and if we have sex too early dats it for me. Im not gonna be with her for long. People should just take things slower, nowadays we are skiping steps in a relationship i think..Always jumping into the "sex" thing before movies...chat on phone..etc...and i think the best thing in a relationship is having the tingling feeling when u see someone and heart beating like crazy when u try to go hold a girls hand for the first time, or kiss for the first time...but time has changed............

Posted by JM on Nov-04-2004 22:56:

dude, i shouldnt speak,

but... those types of girls are what i call bootey calls. they turn into bootey calls. usually not girlfriend material, but there are exceptions, believe me. evaluate the whole package and then make up your mind.

>JM<

Posted by NiteMer on Nov-04-2004 22:58:

I get bored of girls sometimes when they are too easy. That all depends though.

Posted by Fast Turtle on Nov-04-2004 23:00:

No.

For instance, my fiance spawned from a drunken mishap, though we were friends a while before.

The chemicals come and go, and after they fade you might realize you actually resent the person you're messing around with. It's happened to me many times...but, no worries, just enjoy that stuff while it lasts then move on when you're finished.

Posted by Vyse on Nov-04-2004 23:02:

I think it screws up the relationship.

But that's just what i'm saying

Posted by NiteMer on Nov-04-2004 23:03:

quote:
Originally posted by Lephaid
No.

For instance, my fiance spawned from a drunken mishap, though we were friends a while before.

The chemicals come and go, and after they fade you might realize you actually resent the person you're messing around with. It's happened to me many times...but, no worries, just enjoy that stuff while it lasts then move on when you're finished.

You were friends for a while before negating contradiction the the question asked. When you just meet a girl and hook up, it can be a turnoff. It's kind of unfair too, because you want it, but then it seems to cheapen it.

Posted by Fast Turtle on Nov-04-2004 23:06:

quote:
Originally posted by Nite-Mer
You were friends for a while before negating contradiction the the question asked. When you just meet a girl and hook up, it can be a turnoff. It's kind of unfair too, because you want it, but then it seems to cheapen it.

Well, we were friends, but we were never in a relationship. I'm almost always friends with someone before I ever mess around with them at all. We only ended up in a relationship after fucking around for a little while..

Regardless of which way you decide to order any certain acts in a relationship, the important thing is the long-term, end r.esult

Posted by t�bias on Nov-04-2004 23:20:

I used to think that early sex could make a difference, and now I'm much more concerned with how enjoyable spending time with someone is and the level of closeness and chemistry.

I had relationships where I've held up having sex for a while, and those where its happened first night. I must say that often when having sex with someone straight away there is a temptation to feel as though you have already climbed the mountain and its time for a another challenge, but even if you wait a while to start having sex this can also happen then.

So what I'm trying to say is that there are much bigger things that make the difference between a good relationship and a bad relationship, and if someone is really really great then you will want to see them after you have sex whether its after 1 day, 1 month or 1 year.

The problem with waiting too long to have sex is that you build up things too much and often the challenge is what keeps you interested, and it seems like an awful waste of a few months if you finally hit the spot and realise that you actually don't enjoy spending time with this person that much.

Posted by fbgdavidson on Nov-04-2004 23:20:

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Always jumping into the "sex" thing before ..chat on phone

Posted by butterfly on Nov-04-2004 23:39:

definitely not.

me and my bf started having sex maybe a week after we met (and more the day we met) and we have been together 1 1/2 years and probably will be forever (i'd say we will get married but we dont believe in that). the thing that made our relationship strong was that we took the time to gain each others trust and understand each other and we didnt have to sexually frustrate ourselves in the process.

Posted by w3y on Nov-05-2004 00:10:

quote:
Originally posted by Vyse
I think it screws up the relationship.

But that's just what i'm saying

+1

Posted by JM on Nov-05-2004 00:46:

quote:
Originally posted by t�bias

So what I'm trying to say is that there are much bigger things that make the difference between a good relationship and a bad relationship, and if someone is really really great then you will want to see them after you have sex whether its after 1 day, 1 month or 1 year.

very nice!

quote:
Originally posted by butterfly
definitely not.

me and my bf started having sex maybe a week after we met (and more the day we met) and we have been together 1 1/2 years and probably will be forever (i'd say we will get married but we dont believe in that). the thing that made our relationship strong was that we took the time to gain each others trust and understand each other and we didnt have to sexually frustrate ourselves in the process.

its about the whole package... the person as a whole, the relationship, as well as the communication between the two and knowing how to solve relationship problems as they arise. i've been with my girl for 1 year a week from now.

>JM<

Posted by Krypton on Nov-05-2004 01:41:

sex changes everything. and thats sucks.

Posted by Xenocreator_PG_ on Nov-05-2004 02:09:

Have anal sex with the ones you love.

Posted by Zombie0915 on Nov-05-2004 02:15:

I had sex w/ my gf like the 2nd time we saw each other, we've been together for a year now. We bwned 2 years ago but it took us longer to realize were were in love(we each had seperate relationships when we first met and then luckily lost them at the same time, it helped that we were the only trance lovers that we knew as well)

Mind you I did have my fair share of issues with what I had done but I wouldnt trade it for anything now that it has all happened. I think early sex could potentialy screw things up, or in some cases its the only chance you get and if u wanna keep the girl you must take it.

I say live a little and do some fucking, woot.

Posted by TrAnCeAkI on Nov-05-2004 03:10:

I dont think so! but thats just me!!! it helps u realize how compatable u are early on i think...

Posted by bobba lou on Nov-05-2004 07:35:

If you are looking just to purely satisfy your sexual appetite then sure go for it. If you think that this person is relationship worthy why dont you get to know him or her first before sharing or getting to such a level.

Posted by denys envy on Nov-05-2004 12:29:

Dude... whatever happens, just don't hit her, and you'll be fine.

That is my advice to every relationship thread now.

Posted by Arbiter on Nov-05-2004 13:30:

Re: Do u think early sexual realtionship can.....

Yes, but only if you or your partner is an idiot.

And in that case, you should neither be having sex, nor be in a relationship.

Posted by tu_face on Nov-05-2004 13:40:

so long as you can apreciate the rest of the relationship more than the sex, it shouldn't get in the way. although in my past experiences it has wrecked the relationship, but i think that was more down to me or the person i was with.

it was a while before me and my fiancee had sex, and we have the strongest relationship i have ever known. biding your time definitely has its benefits

Posted by mrmsn on Nov-05-2004 17:27:

mmm kkk

it definitely adds another dimension. dont overanalyze and just go with the flow. Another one of life's pages in the book.

Posted by CityKitty on Nov-05-2004 17:40:

Re: Do u think early sexual realtionship can.....

quote:
Originally posted by DJ E-s*it
screw up the WHOLE relationship? Meaning when u like this girl and had sex before mutually agreeing on being bf/gf does make u feel dat she might be doing this all the time or she is easy to get? Whenever i like a girl and if we have sex too early dats it for me. Im not gonna be with her for long. People should just take things slower, nowadays we are skiping steps in a relationship i think..Always jumping into the "sex" thing before movies...chat on phone..etc...and i think the best thing in a relationship is having the tingling feeling when u see someone and heart beating like crazy when u try to go hold a girls hand for the first time, or kiss for the first time...but time has changed............

this is exactly what happened to Serge and I, and we stayed together for almost 2 years. If I could go back though, I would have waited, taken it slower, done things the "traditional" way, but that's knowing what a great guy he would be. Sometimes it's better to get the sexual tension over with. But I totally agree with you-there's nothing better than having that first kiss after you've had that longing crush for months. It comes down to how capable the two are at making it work.

I lucked out-I became close w/ Serge over time, but never once did I feel awkward. It was like there was love there before love <---hard to explain

Posted by BTG on Nov-05-2004 20:45:

i've only had 2 girlfriends in my life, and both times we waited for sex a lot longer than the other girls i've been with/slept with.

2 months for one(first gf)
2 weeks (second gf).

but now i dont usually even wait a week, third 'date' should do it.

Posted by itsTrueSonic on Nov-05-2004 20:55:

i don't believe in "early relationship" sex, but if it happens, it happens.. life happens in it's curious ways.. it doesn't matter if you are a slut/whore or a total drunkard every night, and wake up the next morning not know what the hell you did the other night.. it all depends on how you handle the relationship with your mate.. either as a special mutual bond between two people or just a booty call to fill your needs when you want some...

that just my opinion...

sometimes sex leads to more sex, then you can't handle your sexual tendencies anymore, and start doing it with a tree...
please people don't be this way...

keep your "thing" in your pants until you are ready to handle it's seeds...

Posted by Slylee on Nov-05-2004 20:58:

yea you should definitely hold out if you think you might really like that person. i didn't sleep with my boyfriend until like 2 or 3 months into us dating/hanging out, and we were pretty much hanging out like every other day (the early bf/gf stage). i even slept over his place several times and nothing happened. we just slept it definitely makes it that much more special when you wait a while, and get to really know them first, because then feelings are involved in the sex, which makes it 10 times better if you ask me...that's why i'm not too fond of one night stands. i don't think i would even get off. but that's not to say that i've never gotten physical with someone i was dating early on in the relationship. things didn't work out in the end, but i can honestly say it wasn't because we had sex too soon.