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did i just cheat?

well what could be better on this fine sunday morning, but to talk about / be bored to death with / laugh at that dumbass Floorfiller's relationship drama?!!!


so a little quick summary...i dated this girl for two years...she went into the peace corps so we broke up...she came back...we stayed broke up. literally like a week ago i call up this girl from the past...and go out with her a couple of times...i stay the night at her place...bla bla bla...


enter last night...

so it's my friend's birthday and i go out to the bars...and i know that my ex will be there...whatever right. so the whole night we're all flirting and shit...bla bla bla...she just left my house this morning and we didn't sleep much. it was clear to both of us that we aren't gonna get back together...but we're both completely attracted to one another and i really can't say it won't keep happening...

so about this other girl. she's cool...i'm supposed to be meeting her for lunch today. i don't know...did i just fuck this girl over? i mean, we went out like three times and never really talked about being exclusive yet...but i don't really know what to think about it. do i tell this girl about last night? i'm really not the kind of person to cheat on people, but i don't know what just happened ...

anyway...thoughts please...

You're not in a relationship with any of them, so frankly I don't see what the big deal is. If anything you can just use the fact that you fucked that first girl to your advantage, since it shows that you're popular and not to be taken for granted. Obviously if you choose to keep at it with one of them, keeping at it with the other at the same time wouldn't be fair.

Don't say nothing! Somethings arn't ment to be told! You just gotta pick one of the girls..... and don't say anything.

But I do understand your problem, I hate lying to close people. But still.....

Jason...sometimes you just need to get things out of your system so that you can move on and be with someone else. It would be one thing if you said that it would never happen again. I guess the concern is not with that it happened, but with the fact that you said it could happen again. If it could happen again then this other girl isn't meant for you. You had strong feelings for the first girl (up until recently), so maybe you're not as over her as you would like to think. Maybe you are, but sleeping with someone that you were once in love with is not exactly conducive for a good relationship with someone else. I wouldn't tell this new girl anything unless you want her out of your life. She may not care and may be really understanding, but I doubt that she would react that way if she really likes you. You're not in a relationship so you're not obligated to her as a boyfriend, but if the tables were turned how would you feel dating someone that was sleeping with someone else? Time to decide what's more important.

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Originally posted by trancebrat Jason...sometimes you just need to get things out of your system so that you can move on and be with someone else. It would be one thing if you said that it would never happen again. I guess the concern is not with that it happened, but with the fact that you said it could happen again. If it could happen again then this other girl isn't meant for you. You had strong feelings for the first girl (up until recently), so maybe you're not as over her as you would like to think. Maybe you are, but sleeping with someone that you were once in love with is not exactly conducive for a good relationship with someone else. I wouldn't tell this new girl anything unless you want her out of your life. She may not care and may be really understanding, but I doubt that she would react that way if she really likes you. You're not in a relationship so you're not obligated to her as a boyfriend, but if the tables were turned how would you feel dating someone that was sleeping with someone else? Time to decide what's more important.

hmmm. well, i feel like i'm over my ex...i think really all that is there is a strong mutual attraction. we talked about stuff last night before anything happened, and the jist of it was...we aren't getting back together...it was just something we both wanted last night. i think it's just really easy for both of us to slip into that because we were together for two years and we trust each other...and we enjoyed last night a lot.

you're right though...the whole situation isn't very conducive for new relationships. i like this new girl...but i'm not real sure i want to drag her into a shitty situation...i don't want to screw her over...that's not cool. i mean...what would i say to this girl? sorry i like you and all, but i also really like having sex with my ex...

i pretty much haven't slept and have a headache so maybe right now isn't the time to make decisions...i probably need to just think about what i want. but...what should i do about the immediate? what should i do about lunch with this girl this afternoon?

jason, jason, jason *sigh*

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Originally posted by igottaknow jason, jason, jason *sigh*

what>?

keep your mouth shut and dont dont mention one to the other
that'll just complicate things

Don't talk about these things... The girl doesn't have to know about it.
I think first you should decide what to you want form the girls and if you'd like one of them to be your girlfriend,then don't have sex with the other.But don't talk about your ex with the new girl!!!!!!
You don't have to honest because she's not your girlfriend.

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Originally posted by Floorfiller what>?

I'm the little guy in white with a halo on your shoulder

the guy in red says you should get them both in bed together and sort out your differences.

seriously, sleeping with the other girl has made things more complicated. yeah i know you said that you have no intention of getting back together (come on we both know thats bull shit). I'm not advocating you tell the other what happened just don't delude you or her that you can have your cake and eat it too.

remember there is no such thing as a buddy fuck

Nah, you didn't cheat but, you definitely are a manwhore.....you, you, you dirty......MANWHORE!


My suggestion: just flip the script and ask yourself how you'd feel if this girl brought up the same situation with you. Based on how you feel about that, make your decision about whether to tell her or not. It's that age ol' adage, treat others how you wish to be treated.

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Originally posted by Floorfiller we went out like three times and never really talked about being exclusive yet...

who has these kinda talks anyway jason? they are implied by actions, but never spoken word for word...

btw: i survived the day at my girls place, somehow we managed to be on minimal contact (which sucks on so many levels, but still)

anyways, wanna play some poker?

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Originally posted by Psy-T who has these kinda talks anyway jason? they are implied by actions, but never spoken word for word... btw: i survived the day at my girls place, somehow we managed to be on minimal contact (which sucks on so many levels, but still) anyways, wanna play some poker?

well...you're right a lot of times things are implied. hmmmm...


and yes i want to play poker hehe...i just lost $20 bucks

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Originally posted by igottaknow I'm the little guy in white with a halo on your shoulder the guy in red says you should get them both in bed together and sort out your differences. seriously, sleeping with the other girl has made things more complicated. yeah i know you said that you have no intention of getting back together (come on we both know thats bull shit). I'm not advocating you tell the other what happened just don't delude you or her that you can have your cake and eat it too. remember there is no such thing as a buddy fuck

i dunno. i mean ok...we've done this kinda thing before...that's one of the reasons why i could forsee it happening again. of course there are some feelings involved because you don't spend two years of your life with someone without becoming close...but i really don't think we could ever date again like we did...i just don't think either of us need that...

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Originally posted by Floorfiller well...you're right a lot of times things are implied. hmmmm... and yes i want to play poker hehe...i just lost $20 bucks

get a table, ill find you in a few minutes.

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Originally posted by Ygrene Nah, you didn't cheat but, you definitely are a manwhore.....you, you, you dirty......MANWHORE! My suggestion: just flip the script and ask yourself how you'd feel if this girl brought up the same situation with you. Based on how you feel about that, make your decision about whether to tell her or not. It's that age ol' adage, treat others how you wish to be treated.

i really don't want to be a manwhore...that sounds bad heheh. ok i know that i flirt a lot with a lot of my female friends here on TA, but i'm not really like that in real life...

i like your suggestion on the reverso.

if this girl came to me and was like..."hey last night i fucked my ex"...i guess i wouldn't really know how to react. i wouldn't really be heartbroken or anything because we've only hung out a couple times, but i'd probably not go out with her anymore...i mean why would you want to after something like that...what would be the point..

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Originally posted by Psy-T get a table, ill find you in a few minutes.

i'm at 877310 i think..i'm already up 12kish hehe...you need to catch up...

Are you still doing it with your janitor at work?

That thread was way better than this one.

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Originally posted by beats and beeps Are you still doing it with your janitor at work? That thread was way better than this one.

i never did the janitor bastard hahaha

to be honest i don't know how the fuck that thread got so long ..

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Originally posted by Floorfiller i never did the janitor bastard hahaha to be honest i don't know how the fuck that thread got so long ..

tbh i dont know how i missed that thread

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Originally posted by Floorfiller i never did the janitor bastard hahaha to be honest i don't know how the fuck that thread got so long ..

if memory serves me right jenniepie and ragass had a hate fuck in that thread

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Originally posted by Psy-T tbh i dont know how i missed that thread

perhaps military prison had something to do with it haha

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Originally posted by Floorfiller perhaps military prison had something to do with it haha

then someone should have sent me a hard copy of the thread!

Sometimes I think humans would function so much better if we were asexual with no reproductive organs....and this is one of those moments

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Originally posted by Psy-T (which sucks on so many levels, but still)

did she though? j/k


and FF, if you keep going back to your ex, and shag her when the chance comes you will enver move on. Its tough, but you just have to say no if the chance comes up again, unless your over her nd its just a fuck. but it doesnt sound like that at the moment.

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