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Fuked up Situation
ok here it is ready??
me and this girl liek eachother but are both confused what to do ill list each of our problems and if u can help by giving us each our seperate advice then maybe advice we both can use
my problem:
i met this girl , actually the only girl in over a year that i liek that i feel i would settle down with and commit to.
she had met some guy liek 3 weeks before me n her started talking and they are dating but not serious, she tells me she likes me and that i am more her type then he is hers and that she would probably be happier with me rather then him.
i know if she chooses him over me that will be the end of our friend ship becaus ei would not wanna be friends with a girl who 1. chose another guy over me and 2. i couldnt be her friend even if i wanted to because it would prob hurt to much knowing i want her inside... she expects me me to stay friends with her and maybe try things after if they dont work out.. so whats do i do??
iher problem:
the guy asked her to commit and she told him she needs time, she likes us both but feels that if she hangs out with me she will be guilty of cheating becaus ethey are just dating.
i asked her to come out sat night with me and she is scared to because she said she might lose him if she doesnt hang out with him sat night he would probably leave her..
she feels trapped because she is dating him and that she cant say no to him if he wants something more serious..
she wants a BF but this kid IS NOT her type and she says this constantly..
he is just convinient for her becaus ehe likes like 15 min from her..
he doesnt liek the same music she does she lives to go to clubs and he only goes to bars never cluns
she hates sitting home he always wants to stay home
the only good thing she can say about him is that he is a good guy
other then that they dont have anything in commen
mean while me on the other hand we love the same music
love going out
think, act and feel the same ways
have the same interests
she thinks im a great guy and can find more good to say about me then him
heres what i think..
i think she should hang out with me on SAt. if we hit it off whats the worst that can happen she leaves him and shes happy with me right?
if he leaves her because she didnt hang out with him, he was a piece of shit to begin with.
she told him she needs time, so what time is more perfect then now to test out her other options
what can u guys say that can make any sense of this we both want to know
money brings bitches and bitches bring lies.
If you really believe it will work and don't mind fucking over another guy to get what both you want. Go for it...
You don't have to have the same interests or be the same people to settle down with each other either..
You just have to be able to put up with each others shit.
why the fuck is she dating the other guy if she constantly says that he's not her type
I wouldnt stay friends with her if she says she cant say no to him if he wants something more serious
tell her she needs to make a decision between the two of you .
all of you are in early stages so leaving one for the othr isn't that big of a deal. i'm sure if she choses to go out with him you and her can still be good friends, but thats not what you want now. and if you stay friends for awhile you can get stuck in that situation, which will be alot harder to get out of in the long run. you will want to remain friends with her and want to be with her and not want to lose her as a friend at the same time.
spend time with her, let her spend time with him, and tell her she needs to make her decision soon or you will leave and she c an do her thing.
can i start a motion for Swamper to open up a new forum.. so the main forums would now look like this
Music Discussion
Chill Out Room
TA LOOOVELINE - where all you 10 yr olds can get advice from all us 20 somthings who rely on hookers because we spend too much damn time on TA
How old are the two of you?
If you're <20, don't worry too much about it, others will come and go, let her make her own decision. Believe me, its no big deal being friends with a chick who you really like. You'll become great friends, confidants, and when she breaks up with her boyfriend, you'll be there for her (and possibly it will lead on). Not the best situation, but a good situaton anyway.
If you're >20, I'm surprised you need to ask at all.
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| Originally posted by Orbax money brings bitches and bitches bring lies. |
I think you need to sit back and watch them to get on, i would not call her or dont see her, if you do see her tell her things are great, but dont ask her ! coz she is only gonna say 'yeah having a grt time getting shged all night and day'
whats gonna happen is this, she is gonna start thinking to herself , why hasn't he called me up lately ? she is gonna ask you are you still friends with her, your gonna say this
yes i am your friend , but i thought i would give you some time to think about your relationship and what you want in life and i dont wanna get in the way of that. she is gonna feel all nice inside and she is gonna make a desciion to drop that zero and she is gonna get hair self a Hero, cheesy i know 
overall play it cool like james dean would , play hard to get, dont beat your self up over it,
its easy. tell her how u feel. hahahahahaha
Nah, she's just making the most of the fact that she has you wrapped around her finger 
If she decides, and you bugger off, she wont have a lapdog no more, believe me, I spent far too many years when I was a teenager as a lapdog 
yeah man i was in the same situation, fuck this hoe...she says all this shit but its proly not true. she's just gonna use you and you're gonna spend a lot of time with heartache. took me a while to get over my girl...but i found someone new and she's way fucking better 
and if you really think you can be friends there's nothing wrong with that jus tmake sure you are over her, otherwise its gonna be shitty hanging out with her and having her bf call or be there THAT was crappy
Re: Re: Fuked up Situation
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| Originally posted by Echo of Silence Actions speak louder than words. |
Re: Fuked up Situation
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| Originally posted by Andrew Thomas |
I <3 relationship threads.
my .02--learn to spell, punctuate & use capitalization.
& if the girl wants to be with you, she'll break up with the other guy & be with you. It sounds like you're said where you're at---either she comes to you or doesn't. Her saying she wants to & not coming is still her not coming, no matter what she's saying.
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| Originally posted by Orbax money brings bitches and bitches bring lies. |
sad as it may sound... it seems you are nearing the "close male friend" zone. DANGER WILL ROBINSON! DANGER! let me quote the very source of all modern wisdom... you guessed it, bash.org:
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| Qoute #414593 DragonflyBlade21: A woman has a close male friend. This means that he is probably interested in her, which is why he hangs around so much. She sees him strictly as a friend. This always starts out with, you're a great guy, but I don't like you in that way. This is roughly the equivalent for the guy of going to a job interview and the company saying, You have a great resume, you have all the qualifications we are looking for, but we're not going to hire you. We will, however, use your resume as the basis for comparison for all other applicants. But, we're going to hire somebody who is far less qualified and is probably an alcoholic. And if he doesn't work out, we'll hire somebody else, but still not you. In fact, we will never hire you. But we will call you from time to time to complain about the person that we hired. |
couldn't have summed it up better myself
oh and btw
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| Originally posted by whiskers oh and btw |
omg its "teh lett0r" 
quick send it to dan rather to have it authenticated
*makes her w0w face*
whiskers- you are the "nice guy" it seems and that other dude is the "bad boy" and a girl is always gonna go for the "bad boy" until she is ready to be with the "nice guy"! maybe it just isn't the right time yet -for her-
and my advice- move on...
Move on. Once you do you have a better chance of getting her then now. People always want what they cant have more. Anyways theres many other women out there than to be wasting time & emotions on her.
Post a picture of her. Do you like Rocky Road or Rainbow Sherbert ice cream?
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