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Why am I being a "girl weener? Help guys

Hello folks...

Im just wondering about something, if you guys think this is funny, fuck off

I am "scared" of talking in front of groups, say a presentation in class, even though it's only 15-20 people, AND even when I know most of the people. Why do you guys think some people are like this, like nervous when talking in front of e.g. a class?

Besides from that I am normal (trust me ) lots of friends and its not like im only staying at TA and have computer friends.. hehe

Are there any "cure" for this? well, you know what I mean

Edit:for topic Meant to write puss Y, but only got ***

you are either just shy or have an aprehensive social disorder, yes it can be "cured" you must break it on your own. Your fear must be overcome by your want to be social.

thats funny i speak better in front of whole groups of ppl then i think i do one on one.

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Originally posted by Vivid Boy thats funny i speak better in front of whole groups of ppl then i think i do one on one.

That usually happens when you are a natural people person

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Originally posted by Vivid Boy thats funny i speak better in front of whole groups of ppl then i think i do one on one.

Someone said it's easier to talk to an irate legion than to an irate woman

Can't remember who.

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Originally posted by ZzZ The Goddess you are either just shy or have an aprehensive social disorder, yes it can be "cured" you must break it on your own. Your fear must be overcome by your want to be social.

Well, I am social and stuff, its just that I do NOT like talking in groups etc..

what do you mean by "aprehensive social disorder"?

Re: Why am I being a "girl weener? Help guys

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Originally posted by Lil-H Hello folks... Im just wondering about something, if you guys think this is funny, fuck off I am "scared" of talking in front of groups, say a presentation in class, even though it's only 15-20 people, AND even when I know most of the people. Why do you guys think some people are like this, like nervous when talking in front of e.g. a class? Besides from that I am normal (trust me ) lots of friends and its not like im only staying at TA and have computer friends.. hehe Are there any "cure" for this? well, you know what I mean Edit:for topic Meant to write puss Y, but only got ***

Being afraid to talk infront of a group of people is perfectly normal. I have to give presentations all the time and I always get a little nervous even after doing this for years.

The best advice I could give is that you need to realize that you know more about the subject you are presenting then anyone else in the room. Honestly, you're the one presenting so you must be the one who knows the most about it, right? Once you understand that you are the best educated person in the room, about your particular subject, then you should realize that even if you make a mistake nobody in the room is equiped to call you on it. If you can convince yourself of this then your fear should be reduced to a minimum.

Well thats the thing. Im perfectly aware taht I know the most about the subject/topic. another thing; they are all my friends so they wouldnt even judge me IF i did mistakes.

I know I shouldnt be scared, but thats just how I am I guess

fyi, girls do not have 'weeners'

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Originally posted by Lil-H Well, I am social and stuff, its just that I do NOT like talking in groups etc.. what do you mean by "aprehensive social disorder"?

There are many types of social disorders, like some people studder when speaking in front of alot of people. But since its just speaking in front of alot of people and nothing else then u prob dont have one but if u think u do talk to some type of counselor or psychiatrist. I often feel a little nervous speaking in front of a large group of people especially when I dont know them moreso because I really dont know what to expect from them and theyre reactions but im a paranoid person in general.

it's good to be a bit nervous when doing presentations, that way you'll keep yourself sharp and concentrated on your subject/presentation (a teacher told me this once). But as with everything else, too much of it can screw things up

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Originally posted by Lil-H Well thats the thing. Im perfectly aware taht I know the most about the subject/topic. another thing; they are all my friends so they wouldnt even judge me IF i did mistakes. I know I shouldnt be scared, but thats just how I am I guess

What level of fear are we talking about? Is this a debilitating fear or an annoyance fear?

Also, what exactly is your fear? Saying you're afraid to speak to a group is somewhat vague. If you could be more precise in what your fear is it may help.

Well, Im having my talk tomorrow in English. its a review of the movie Hero.. Anyone seen it?

Just keep practicing.. The more you talk in public, the more you'll get self confidence.

I often have to do presentations for school, at the beginning I was always shaking like hell but now it's OK (although I still get nervous).

edit: I've seen Hero, it's beautiful but I preferred Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon.

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Originally posted by fitom tiel fyi, girls do not have 'weeners'

actually the clit is made of the material that, if it was a boy, would be the 'weener'.



and you don't have a social disorder, a disorder implies that it is abnormal, and this is very prevolent. what you can do is try to learn relaxation techniques. Certain ways to breath, thing to think of that calm you...and utilize those when talking.


also this part is kinda not practical and is usually only used for serious cases that need solving...but try to talk in front of a smaller groups....find what number you are comfortable talking to, and then find another group...a little bigger....to talk in front of. pretty soon 10 - 15 is no problem when you've talked in front of 8 with no problem, all the while utilizing relaxation techniques



that is all.

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Originally posted by Moral Hazard What level of fear are we talking about? Is this a debilitating fear or an annoyance fear? Also, what exactly is your fear? Saying you're afraid to speak to a group is somewhat vague. If you could be more precise in what your fear is it may help.

I'll try to explain...
Not sure what you mean by debilatating fear, but I guess its one level over "annoyance fear"

say Im thinking that Im doing my talk tomorrow, my heart starts to pound slower. its really weird. I even get "scared" just thinking of doing a presentation.

I just get nervous I guess, and afraid I might say something wrong or pronounce something wrong. Maybe im afraid of doing mistakes, and thats why I get all nervous?

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Originally posted by Boomer187 and you don't have a social disorder, a disorder implies that it is abnormal, and this is very prevolent. what you can do is try to learn relaxation techniques. Certain ways to breath, thing to think of that calm you...and utilize those when talking.

i was going to say the ame thing. best way to do this is, when ur relaxed or feeling totally like urself. study what position ur body is in. how ur breathing is different and what ur thinking abt. and if u study those u can baically make urself feel that way anytime u please by recreating that.

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Originally posted by Lil-H I'll try to explain... Not sure what you mean by debilatating fear, but I guess its one level over "annoyance fear" say Im thinking that Im doing my talk tomorrow, my heart starts to pound slower. its really weird. I even get "scared" just thinking of doing a presentation. I just get nervous I guess, and afraid I might say something wrong or pronounce something wrong. Maybe im afraid of doing mistakes, and thats why I get all nervous?

A debilitating fear is fear or anxiety so strong that it prevents you from doing something (like if you fear cats and the fear is so strong you cannot be in a room with a cat). Clearly your fear is not debilitating. Good news is that you do not have an anxiety disorder.

Are you afraid because you're presenting in English? If so the best trick you can use to ensure you don't mispronounce words is to write them phonetically (how it sounds) on you cue cards. I use the same trick when I have to present in French, it works great.

heres the deal: My teacher said this to everyone; if someone have are nervous about talking in front of groups, you could always tape it... I talked to my teacher and said I might hand it in on tape, but she said you seem like a confident speaker. I've been an exchange student in australia fro 10 weeks now, so yeah, i dont know what to do..

go for a speak, or tape it?

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Originally posted by Boomer187 actually the clit is made of the material that, if it was a boy, would be the 'weener'.

and we have nipples that, if we were girls, would be breasts.
but we don't usually. have breasts.

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go for a speak, or tape it?

speak.

I'm in the same boat as you are, I hate speaking to a group of any size. However, once you're done with it, you notice that it ain't so bad. If you decide to tape it, I think you're just avoiding the issue, and won't be helping yourself much.

If you do these things right before the presentation, it should help a lot, these techniques are a staple in the salesman world

1. Sit down, relax, and think about the worst thing that can happen during your presentation. Ask yourself if this outcome is worthy to worry or be nerveous about. Then affirm to yourself that you accept this outcome if it does happen, and that you can live with it.

2. Close your eyes and VISUALIZE your presentation if it happened to be the best presentation of your life. Really get into it, with lots of details about how confidently you talk, and how your audience is totally into it, and everything is just perfect.

If you do it right you'll take some of the edge off fo sho

I have to go to bed now, thanks for everything folks

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Originally posted by Lil-H heres the deal: My teacher said this to everyone; if someone have are nervous about talking in front of groups, you could always tape it... I talked to my teacher and said I might hand it in on tape, but she said you seem like a confident speaker. I've been an exchange student in australia fro 10 weeks now, so yeah, i dont know what to do.. go for a speak, or tape it?

Speak it! a) speaking it will help you get over your anxiety about speaking in groups and presumably speaking in English. b) since you are an exchange student (I had assumed earlier that you were giving a presentation in an English class within Norway) and everyone knows that English is not your mother language they will be very understanding with any minor mispronunciations or gramatical errors you may make.

FYI, it has always been my experience that people who were not raised speaking English often speak better English then those who were. That being said, I'm in Toronto Canada, we speak the worst English going.... I have no idea how it is in Australia.

just have to say: Ta has never let me down, thanks again. Im going for the talk, and hopefully I wont screw up

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