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One Night Stands & Regrets
After reading through LiquidX's post about love at first sight kinda got me thinking about the one that got away 
I'm just curious about how everyone feels about one night stands? For me, I friggin' absolutely love it no phone number, no commitment, never have to see her again, no nothing! 
But every once in a while a girl comes along that you'd wish you'd stay in touch with.
I met this girl at a club this one time, there was something really special about this girl. To this day I still don't know what it is. I think it was pure chemistry between us. I was immediately attracted to her she was absolutely gorgeous, short blond hair, blue eyes, but I think it was her smile that did it for me. She had one of those smiles that can make you feel good all over just looking at her.
Anyways, I can't remember how our conversation got started but we were sitting next to each other and I believe we were talking about the music or something. We emded up talking for like 3 or 4 hours and it was great. I actually found myself "listening" to what she had to say and found it interesting. I grew more fond of her as I got to know her better. She was so sweeeeet!
To make a long story short, we ended up making out like mad at the club (which come to think of it now, it was kinda cheesy) We were basically all over each other, and didn't care about anything else. When she started licking the back of my ear (which drives me crazy everytime a girl does that 
), it was time to take her back to my place .
It was so perfect except for one thing. She told me earlier in the night she had a boyfriend!! This was such a turn-off 
.
I already knew about it earlier in the night but I didn't care, but in the morning it was a big reason why I didn't ask for her phone number or anything. Now I can't even remember her name ( I think it was Lisa, but I'm not sure)
I'm really starting to regret it now because the night was so perfect and magical . Sorta like what LiquidX said on his post, how a girl looks at you and you can feel it. When we said goodbye to each other, we just stood there and didn't say a word, just looked at each other's eyes for about 15 minutes (it was such a sad but loving feeling...er, I'm at a loss for words here, I can't describe it.) I'm sure she was standing there waiting for me to ask for her number, but I was so gutless. I still remember how she left. We kissed, and then she took my hand and held it up to her cheek for a while and then kissed the back of my hand...(sniff, sniff....I'm gonna start bawling)
I haven't given a second thought to any of the other girls I've had one night stands with, but I really felt I messed up on this one, because I still think of her and I'm not sure how close she was to her bf. Those who have been through the same situation probably knows what I mean. Normally one night stands turn out to be anything but memorable, but this girl was really different.
Have you ever had a one night stand that you regret not getting to know the person afterwards, and not just another booty call?
Well I had 1 one night stand. and Im glad it stayed as that. I dont ever want to see or hear from her again!
Tho they can be quite damagin to somebodys ego if they feel that they were 'used'
Well, it seems like you had a great time with that girl and that`s what you should see it as since you don`t have her number. Maybe you`ll meet her again at that club and if it happens again you should definitely ask her for her number. Maybe she`d be happier with you than with her boyfriend? Who knows? If she goes for it and you don`t have anything against it then you should do it...
Just my opinion.
BTW: I only once felt sorry for a one night stand because after I woke up and looked at her I thought: Oh my god, what have you done!!! But she left without bothering me again.
It`s like in the Nike commercial: Just do it! (If you feel like doing it)
Man I think this topic will be a tough discussion between people from Europe and the US. This topic is far more relaxed in Europe which is good...
*getting ready to get flamed*
"One Night Stands & Regrets" - Isn't that an oxymoron?
Getting crabs
haha j/k 
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I see your point, Trancewave....
But also realize this: would you REALLY want a relationship with a girl who is so quick to cheat on her boyfriend? Girls like that are the ones that are good for one-night-stands only..... you don't want to get emotionally involved with her or you could end up emotionally broken
-ABT-
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| Originally posted by ABTsportsline I see your point, Trancewave.... But also realize this: would you REALLY want a relationship with a girl who is so quick to cheat on her boyfriend? Girls like that are the ones that are good for one-night-stands only..... you don't want to get emotionally involved with her or you could end up emotionally broken -ABT- |
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| Originally posted by Trancewave Hey by the way ABT, that's a sweet pic of you and UR Dream GRL (on your avatar) . Damn, you guys look good together. |
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| Originally posted by Trancewave Hey by the way ABT, that's a sweet pic of you and UR Dream GRL (on your avatar) . Damn, you guys look good together. |
coupy! i thought i wos ur girlfriend
j/k lov ya crunch
Prox I thought I was your boyfriend!
Or am I coup's boyfriend?
well..
I'm a virgin as most of you know. One of the many few here probably It's ok though, 'cause I'm also one of the youngest. But umm I don't think having sex is a huge deal. I'm just not that type of girl to have a "one night stand." I guess I like to be in a relationship do actually do stuff.. if you know what i'm saying
Ok that is all.
Love ya all
Stephy Jo
Robby and Ur Dream grl sittin' in a tree...
Eh? I mean Beer and stuff HAHAHAH lol!
dude nice avatar! U2 really look good 2gether.
take care man and check your pm aiet...later.
:TF:
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| Originally posted by babyecstacy well.. I'm a virgin as most of you know. One of the many few here probably It's ok though, 'cause I'm also one of the youngest. But umm I don't think having sex is a huge deal. I'm just not that type of girl to have a "one night stand." I guess I like to be in a relationship do actually do stuff.. if you know what i'm saying Ok that is all.Love ya all Stephy Jo |
Seems that I'm the only non-virgin that hasn't had an one night stand. I wish I had one and regret it afterwards. They only thing I regret now is not having any. But don't worry man I'm sure that when you find the right one (yeah... right, as if) you will forget about her as quickly as you forgot her name.
trancewave...that whole "magical night" was exactly what's it's supposed to be...just a magical night u'll always remember. dont regret anything though, it all happened the way it was supposed to. and to all the virgins (nice of u to let us know)...this thread obviously doesn't apply to you
damn trancewave bro 
well dats wat happens, plus gurls like dat r easy, wat i mean by easy is dat, dat gurl was so shallow, she actually fell 4 u, knowing she had a bf...dats 1 of da reason's, why i wud suppose take my gf, 2 a club and see wat she really does..is she really her, da person she is, or is she fake 
one nighters are not my thing anymore...i wanna know a girl for at least 2 days before i jump in her pants.
Thanks for the advice guys . Yeah, I know what you guys mean. I guess the reason why the night went so well was because I think for both of us there was never an "intention" to pick anyone up. I didn't just see her there and decided that gee, I'd like to pick her up and I doubt it that she felt the same. I believe the atmosphere was right and there were good vibes. We chatted and got to know each other really well first and then the attraction grew. It was great. For most of the night it felt like the world revolved around us and nothing else mattered.
Is this what people mean when they talk about love at first sight? I don't think so, I for one really don't believe in love at first sight. If you just see someone, I think it's more about lust because you really can't love someone just by looking at them (hmmm, somehow I get this feeling that some you TA's here will disagree LOL) Does love at first sight include getting to know that person at the same time as well?
Hehe, Blue Neon . Actually I felt like I was the shallow one really because she told me she had a bf earlier and I didn't care. Which is really bad in itself but since I don't know him means it's alright, right? LOL...oh well, I sure hope she's really happy wherever she is and wish her the best.
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| Originally posted by Trancewave Is this what people mean when they talk about love at first sight? I don't think so, I for one really don't believe in love at first sight. |
mi, amore don�t you know
my love i want you so
sugar, you make my soul complete
rapture tastes so sweet
la, da la la la la la, da la la la la la
la, da la la la la la, da la la la la la
sorry, you got me started and now I can't stop.
ok sorry slylee i was just stating my opinion.
Seems.....
Like Trancewave, you've painted a vivid re-enactment of that very faithful night, seems to me that you've actually fallen for that girl. Sometimes, it's best that you leave it at that, cherish those sweet times while you can. Human beings are like that, they love to get what they cannot have. Regrets, in your case, you should not feel. Not many of us are as lucky as you to have encountered such a girl and the experience itself. So take it easy man....I myself have had this encounter "Minus" the kissing, and licking.....
However, till this day, I could still vividly remember what happened that very night. "Sighs"....and it aches like hell....but no regrets! We should all move forward, flip the pages of memories every now and then to remind ourselves of what we had experienced before, and don't even try to imagine that it might happen again, well, in that very identical manner, at least. So buckle up, move on, tommorrow's gonna be a lovelier day!
Cheers
Trancewave, I don't have much to offer on (ah) sagely advice since my experiences are not the same as yours. Yet I do understand what you felt.
There was this ladiefriend I met last year. I (we) felt that instantaneous, inexplicable bond between us. I didn't see her much but talked to her long distance on the phone. I remember that day when I was at a massive rave (last year) in August with her and company.
That moment came when I just sat and watch her movements -- like a tiger mesmerized by the grace of divine presence. I felt this intense rapture resonating from the middle of my chest, spreading like rippling tidal waves all over my body.
I was shaken and stirred in knowing what real love felt like. I wanted to be with her yet I had no need to possess her. No sexual complusion.. No crush.. No infatuation.. But enthralled.. Just a deep sublime feeling of respect for her.
Time seemed to have stood still when I held her. I even lost the awareness of holding her and the surroundings itself. All I felt was just the bubbly blissful warmth. 8)
KtP
I'm the relationship type
Hey,
I'm not a virgin but i am defentally the relationship type.
I could not handle a one stand to many thoughts going though my head about what just happened.
I would feel used.
Thanx
(Also a young one on here)
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