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Posted by wrmsign on May-20-2005 08:49:

another relationship thread - man problems

Hi, help me out guys.. and girls...

I've been liking this guy for 2 months now, and 2 weeks ago, he finally got drunk and made his move. Except that after that, he kind of stopped talking to me.. then he started again.. and then he went on and on about how we should hang out and stuff now that school is over and how he's gonna call me sometime soon and stuff, but the guy is horrible at taking any initiative at all.

So, I ran into his the other night at a bar where I was with his best friend, and spent the whole with his best friend because I guess he didnt really want to be around me.. I dont know... but towards the end of the night, he said that there is "no chemistry" since a certain date.

Since today is the last day that I will ever see him again unless something happens, do I go for it anyway.. considering that there are were other factors involved, like his best friend and lots of booze and i really want him.. or do i take this as a sign to leave him alone?

Posted by Allied Nations on May-20-2005 09:00:

since you are a girl, you can pretty much throw ur self at him, 95% says hell go for it, it all depends, whaat you want from him, how you want it to end, this is a toughie,

if i knew it wasnt gonna work out, i wouldnt pursue fourther and disance myself like hes doing, but thats my persoanlity with women.

Posted by Boomer187 on May-20-2005 13:08:

from your story it sounds like he is just bad with girls, if you really want it to work you have to work at it. Some guys, even though they like a girl, will take the easy way out and avoid unless you make it clear and easy for them.

So if you like him lay it out. but don't move toooooo quickly, or youll scare him off.

Posted by euphoria on May-20-2005 13:22:

Re: another relationship thread - man problems

quote:
Originally posted by wrmsign
the guy is horrible at taking any initiative at all.

Since today is the last day that I will ever see him again unless something happens, do I go for it anyway.. or do i take this as a sign to leave him alone?

Honey you just answered ur own question, think about it if he doesnt take initiative now and he isnt even with you just shows you the type of guy you would end up with. DONT BOTHER! Guys mostly take initiative in the begining and slack off later, but if he isnt showing initiative now its a really bad sign and he probably never will. Do you really want to end up in a relationship where you have to do all the work.

If you do something to try to spark some intrest he may think you are depserate (not saying you are) and use you. Not a good plan either.

Get someone to chase you not the other way around. That will show you how motivated they are to have you.

Posted by Floorfiller on May-20-2005 14:00:

doesn't sound like he's interested. i wouldn't waste your time anymore and actually...next time you go out, talk to other guys...show him what he missed out on hahaha

Posted by zokissima on May-20-2005 14:20:

Hmm, sounds questionable. Well, if you don't try, at least somewhat, you'll always wonder, but don't just prostrate yourself in front of him. We all like to think that the guy always takes the first initiative, but we all know that it's not always the case.

Posted by placebo on May-20-2005 14:22:

this thread is weird.

Posted by Orbax on May-20-2005 14:23:

ive done this to girls before I have to admit >< I drink a bit and get into it, and then realize suddenly that I really dont actually like the person and stop from going further and making a separation painful..more painful...I usually distance myself for a while hoping she'll get the point because its harsh saying "I dont like you any more"

If he wants something to happen, he'll contact you. I suggest forgetting about it, find someone else.

Posted by placebo on May-20-2005 14:23:

quote:
Originally posted by Orbax
ive done this to girls before I have to admit >< I drink a bit and get into it, and then realize suddenly that I really dont actually like the person and stop from going further and making a separation painful..more painful...I usually distance myself for a while hoping she'll get the point because its harsh saying "I dont like you any more"

If he wants something to happen, he'll contact you. I suggest forgetting about it, find someone else.

+1

Posted by Floorfiller on May-20-2005 14:26:

Posted by placebo on May-20-2005 14:28:

quote:
Originally posted by Floorfiller
yeah...orbax is probably right. i mean, either he isn't into you...or he is just completely retarded and awkward with women...

You should know from experience.

Posted by Orbax on May-20-2005 14:30:

Posted by trewqy on May-20-2005 14:36:

hes not interested move on.

Trust me, with guys there ARE NO MIXED SIGNALS. He was probably too dumb to read ur hints or even worse.. you didnt even KNOW how to give hints and show that ur attracted to him in the first place.

Hes probably found some other girl and ur starting to sound like some 17 year old girl whos just obsessing.

Btw, where do u live? Is the guy hot? If he is, send me a picture of YOU and we'll go from there

Posted by wrmsign on May-20-2005 16:25:

its just really weird... because his friends that i've been randomly meeting for the past couple of days know so much information about me that is really rather.. disturbing. but alright guys, thanks for your help. i guess i'll not bother with him then.

Posted by jonSun on May-20-2005 16:29:

quote:
Originally posted by Floorfiller
doesn't sound like he's interested. i wouldn't waste your time anymore and actually...next time you go out, talk to other guys...show him what he missed out on hahaha

Werd. He's not interested & even if you throw yourself at him & he's drunk he may take advantage of that, but once he sobers up its back to him not being interested again. Move on & forget about him.

Posted by Mr. Pink on May-20-2005 16:39:

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Posted by Orbax on May-20-2005 17:09:

quote:
Originally posted by wrmsign
its just really weird... because his friends that i've been randomly meeting for the past couple of days know so much information about me that is really rather.. disturbing. but alright guys, thanks for your help. i guess i'll not bother with him then.

e probably spent a shit load of time wondering whether or not you were interested in him and debating it with the boys...

you probably moved too slow. Men choose, women decide. You probably didnt decide hard enough and interest lowered.

Deciding doesnt mean sex btw, just showing that youre definitely interested in moving to the next level.

odds are like...90:1 that you dont have to worry about him stopping any of that happening.

If hes hanging out with you its because hes interested because, lets face it, women are typically boring. They look neat, smell nice, and do cute stuff, but to hang out is rather...taxing at times.

Unless youre like the badass who drinks and plays video games and is down for 3am runs to the store...he probably wanted to date you and be more than friends and wasnt getting the signal.