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how do you deal...
with all those emotions overcoming you after a break-up??
This weekend marked an end of a relationship I have been in for quite a long time with someone I care about deeply.. but yet we've decided that there is no future.
At this point, I can't remember the last time I was this miserable.. maybe you can offer some tips for getting over this rough time..
Just acknowledge that it's not the end of the world, and that you will survive!
**Just watch out for all those suave TA's (aka teh MANFEST)**
awwwww I'm sorry to hear that That sucks...
I haven't been in a serious relationship in a while but I think that summer time is not a bad time to be single 
...I think winter is more depressing and it's better to be in a relationship, but summertime is party time, I hope you won't be sad for too long...we'll cheer you up at Tiesto 
Breakups suck though ...try punching something...having some good ice-cream
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| Originally posted by AwakenedAddict **Just watch out for all those suave TA's (aka teh MANFEST)** |
I'm sorry to hear that, and I feel your pain, since I was in a very similar situation. We were together for almost 5 years, and after such a long time seeing it end in nothing was just horrible. Thing is, that time taught me a lot about myself, and I don't deny that this person has had an amazing impact on my life. That's something you should realize too. Now, it's time to focus on yourself and what you want. Take it easy if you want. The one thing that made it easier for me was basically finding someone who DID want the same things that I do... it may seem like it's too soon, but as I said, it's time to focus on 'me' and go with what feels right. I hope that you don't dwell on it too much, as you'll only make it much more difficult. In the most immediate sense, keep yourself busy and don't give your mind an opportunity to wonder too far.
The best thing to do after a long loving relationship, that I've found, is to sever all connections with the person. Anything reminding you of them should be disposed of. Don't talk to them. Don't try to be friends. 99 times out of 100 it just doesn't work.
Also, find your buddy Jose. Cuervo, that is.
There really is no way to deal with it other than accepting it and riding it out. For a while your stomach will be in knots and you'll be hearing ppl asking "Where's so and so?" whenever they see you in months to come.
Thing to remember here is that while you two went into the relationship with only the best of intentions for each other ultimately along the way factors changed. Learn from the experience and move on -- I have seen friends change for the better after certain breakups - it's kind of like a placemarker in your life - whether it was a toxic relationship or seemingly 'perfect' - it gives you a reality check - not to mention a chance to focus on you.
It'll be tempting to 'rebound' from this to make up for that emotional gap but in the end you often end up losing from that... although.. it can be fun.. but.. empty.
Just listen to some music.
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| Originally posted by Swamper Just listen to some music. |
sorry to hear of the end of what seemed to be a good thing.
a few things that worked for me when i was in the same predicament as you..
1)Cry when you need to - nothing worse than the choked up feeling for prolonged periods of time.
2) Dance lots -losing yourself to the beat is a wonderful way to exercise your way out of misery.
3) Watch your drug intake- works wonders for escaping but I found the aftermath all too horrible.
4) Hang out with friends who can be silly s wascally wabbits bec. these are the people who will look for any excuse to put smiles on your face.
Finally- time is the best medication for breakup. GIve it time- surround yourself with positive people and repeat mantra- "this too shall pass" about kajillion times a day.
Good luck and keep your head up...
n.
TRANCE is the answer. Trust me on this one.
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| Originally posted by VERTiG0 The best thing to do after a long loving relationship, that I've found, is to sever all connections with the person. Anything reminding you of them should be disposed of. Don't talk to them. Don't try to be friends. 99 times out of 100 it just doesn't work. Also, find your buddy Jose. Cuervo, that is. |
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| Originally posted by Tordan This might be a little hard for her to do since her ex is a TA. Be strong AdReNaLiNa, things do get better with time. I too got out of a long term relationship not long ago. You should just try to think about the future and not dwell in the past. |
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| Originally posted by Tordan This might be a little hard for her to do since her ex is a TA. Be strong AdReNaLiNa, things do get better with time. I too got out of a long term relationship not long ago. You should just try to think about the future and not dwell in the past. |
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| Originally posted by AdReNaLiNa my ex? he is not a TA actually.. but we do have a close mutual circle of friends which makes it difficult to avoid one another.. thanks for all the replies so far guys, it's good to see that others went through the same thing and somehow ended up alright |
You live you learn!
There will difinately be a mourning period.
But it's summer so try to make the best of it.
Sorry to hear for your loss, it's been awhile since something like that happened to me and when it did I felt like the world crashing down on me, but not to sound repetitious time does heal, it takes awhile but the heart does go on and I've always been a firm believer that everything in life happens for a reason, keep your head held up high and your feet constantly dancing.
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| Originally posted by Stilez ......welcome 2 my world. |
Keep your chin up! It's rough, but you'll get through it and you'll be stronger and smarter!
One thing I regret doing is keeping myself so busy that I didn't think about it or deal with my feelings, but it caught up to me... I'm still dealing with previous relationship issues in my current relationship because of this. Lesson to be leared.. deal with your feelings as they come, don't ignor them!
Keep smiling chickie, you'll be just fine
Re: how do you deal...
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| Originally posted by AdReNaLiNa with all those emotions overcoming you after a break-up?? This weekend marked an end of a relationship I have been in for quite a long time with someone I care about deeply.. but yet we've decided that there is no future. At this point, I can't remember the last time I was this miserable.. maybe you can offer some tips for getting over this rough time.. |
Only time can heal such wounds...
friends are all that will help, lots of them.
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| Originally posted by VERTiG0 The best thing to do after a long loving relationship, that I've found, is to sever all connections with the person. Anything reminding you of them should be disposed of. Don't talk to them. Don't try to be friends. 99 times out of 100 it just doesn't work. Also, find your buddy Jose. Cuervo, that is. |
). Don't worry, lots of fish blah blah blah, you're better than he is blah blah blah (those are both true). ). Hard dirty RAP cheers me up after break ups... Probably because it tells you (the man) how much better and more important/powerful you are. Also a hard night of drinking makes the whole thing much smoother. Don't get depressed, go out and party. Celebrate your singleness and ability to hook up with whomever you please.
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| Originally posted by Funkyfun Only time can heal such wounds... |
just move on, and dont think abt it. its not going to make it better thinking abt it.
do something fun, maybe take up a hobby or something
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| Originally posted by *~LiSa-LoO~* This is true...the only crappy thing is waiting for that time to pass! |
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