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Nerds make better lovers Ready for a real relationship? Ditch the pretty boys and grab yourself a geek By TRACEY LOMRANTZ Christina Aguilera recently traded in piercings for petticoats, apparently making the usual Marilyn Monroe morph. But there's more than meets the eye: Sure, she's blond, buxom and sweet-voiced now, but she's also emulating the classic bombshell in matters of the heart. You see, Aguilera's fiance, like Monroe's husband, playwright Arthur Miller, is kind of a geek. When Aguilera announced her engagement to smarty-pants music executive Jordan Bratman in February, the 24-year-old pop star demonstrated a tried-and-true dating trick. Geeks have got the goods. Bratman, with his scrawny frame and oversize ears, has mastered the music industry at just 26 and is Romeo enough to have stolen Aguilera's heart (as well as inspired her new demure-coquette look). "A nerd is an excellent provider and a guy who puts you first," says E. Jean Carroll, Elle magazine's love and sex advice columnist. "He'll turn out to be a great father and a great husband." And, she insists that a woman who is willing to stick it out with a nerd and get past his quirks will be handsomely rewarded. "Don't give up on him too fast," she said. "If you stick with him, he's going to turn out to be really great." If Hollywood is any indication, then yes, he will. This month, reality TV celebrates geek love with two shows: Ashton Kutcher's "Beauty and the Geek," which pairs braniacs with bimbos for a "social experiment," and the latest installment of "Average Joe," in which a pretty girl woos not-so-studly dudes (airing on June 22). On Fox's "The O.C.," the nerdy Seth Cohen (played by Adam Brody) didn't just land the adorable Summer Roberts (Rachel Bilson) on TV - he managed to get the girl in real life, too. Bilson (and her character) managed to look past the slicked-down hair to find the witty guy beneath. Cohen's obsession with comic books? Her character deems it sweet. Brody's nasal drawl? Bilson doesn't seem to mind. How can a savvy girl land a geek of her own? Spencer Koppel, a self-proclaimed geek who attends crossword-puzzle tournaments on weekends, has made it easy for girls with their eye on the prize with his "Geek to Geek" dating service, www.gk2gk.com. Members can meet and select a perfect mate (guys with screen names like "thinkspecs" and "ivygrad") based on favorite board game and gadget instead of eye color, height and other categories the nerds might be lacking. And according to Koppel, the pool is stocked with supreme sci-fi fans and accomplished intellects. "I think geeks are more successful. They're happier in the work they do," Koppel said. "And they're pretty faithful people, because they're certainly grateful for anything they have." When it comes to the between-the-sheets aspect of the relationship, Carroll agreed that a girl couldn't do much better than a less-than-perfect male specimen. "We've all been to bed with the guy who is worried about what he looks like, checking the mirror before he gets in bed," she said. "The nerd, gloriously, stunningly, perfectly, is into the woman. That right there is very stirring, sexually." Tiger's purr-fect It seems to be enough for the likes of goddess models and Hollywood A-listers. Tiger Woods has a geek-like drive for a stodgy sport, a fat bank account and Swedish model Elin Nordegren on his arm. David Arquette may not have the body of a Greek god, but he managed to land sexy former Friend Courteney Cox with his goofy humor and mismatched wardrobe. For Scott Dennis, a 34-year-old teacher from Cobble Hill, Brooklyn, "geek" and "good guy" are synonymous - and he is both. Although some aspects of his personality make him what he called a "quintessential babe magnet" (former jock, drummer in a rock band), the real qualities that helped him land his girlfriend are the geeky ones. "Do I know the difference between a knight and a pawn? Certainly," he says. "Am I familiar with the Four Move Checkmate? Well, maybe I am. ... But the truth is I'm a decent guy with diverse interests who actually offers authenticity in his relationships." But to get to that authentic nerd, chic women have to be willing to embrace their own inner geek and accept the guy for who he is, chess trophies and all. The caveat to mating with a geek, as some dating experts see it, is coming to terms with his less-than-studly looks and less-than-suave demeanor. All thoughts of embarrassment have to go out the window. Andrea Lavinthal, who co-authored (with Jessica Rozler) "The Hookup Handbook," a young woman's guide to navigating the waters of singlehood, says that being sure of your choice of guy is first and foremost. "Girls tend to worry about what their friends are going to think," she said, "and you have to get over it. You can't always be making excuses and apologies. Give him the respect he deserves, and don't always be assuming you're better than him." She also said that not all girls are ready for a full-on geek relationship right from the start. Her book has a chapter devoted to "The Snufalufagus Hookup," the one that every girl wishes her friends didn't know about, and that she at first tries to deny happened. "In many ways, it's the first foray into the nerdy guy thing," Lavinthal said. "You're attracted to him because he doesn't screw around. Sure, it's fun to make out with the hot bartender, but you're not going to marry him." Not falling for the fakes Koppel, however, warns that unserious girls who prowl his site looking for a breadwinner should use caution - his members may be geeky, but they sure aren't stupid. "I think geeks are intelligent enough to be wary of the idea that an attractive woman is interested in them," he said. "They aren't as drawn to beauty as they are to intelligence, and wouldn't just accept a ditz." It takes the right kind of girl to love a nerd. Kate Hammer, an NYU student, said she's just that kind of girl. "I have been snagged by nerd charms," she said. "My ex and I bonded over 'Star Trek,' and on our first date at an amusement park, my current boyfriend impressed me with his intricate understanding of the physics of roller coasters. He's a mechanical engineer." For a modern girl who is far from ditzy, the geek could be the mate who brings security and a load of eclectic interests to the relationship. Even the once-naughty Aguilera managed to find a guy who defines devotion and doesn't compete to be the sexiest one in the relationship. Clearly, it's what a girl wants.

hehe interesting read... but i guess some of us already knew that

Yes!

So there IS hope for me!!!

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Originally posted by infinity HiGH Yes! So there IS hope for me!!!

LOL stop saying that

I have yet to see or meet a single TA nerd.



Hey that gives me an idea.... maybe we should have a TA nerd vote

All those interested should post in this thread....and the winner of the nerd vote could win a dream party at his place

Now...who's willing to come out and say he's a nerd??? Hell I'd say I'm a nerd if it means a kewl party at my place

Re: Nerds make better lovers

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Originally posted by loca hehe interesting read... but i guess some of us already knew that

LMAO Loca.... I was thinking the same thing a while back....about how much more action a nerd gets hehehehe

holy shit!!

christina is engaged to diginut

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Originally posted by bass drive holy shit!! christina is engaged to diginut

ROFL LMFAO!!!! HAHAHAHAHAAHA AHAHAHAHAHAAH

Revenge of the nerds...

LOL!! You mean BARBIE (with plastic head and all) is engaged to DigiNut!!!

And b4k-oz; I'm a big time nerd...check out this previous thread where PLENTY of people came out of the closet...er...actually I think they've been wearing their NERD badges with honour!

http://www.tranceaddict.com/forums/...threadid=260909

^^ haha yup

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And they're pretty faithful people, because they're certainly grateful for anything they have."

I am so resentful of this statement. Ok, so a lot of the things I do on my own would probably be classified as "geeky", but to imply that geeks are desparate losers who will worship anything that comes their way is just wrong.

I'm a huge nerd lol... and so is loconet!

explosive sex life! hahaha

^^ LOL!

is she trying to turn her geek into a thug?



shopping


these pop people are a waste of time

Hey EvilTree I think she's wearing one of your kilts!

And nerds' sex lives are about as explosive as zits.

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Originally posted by fayraree And nerds' sex lives are about as explosive as zits.

Some zits are pretty explosive, C-4 watch out.

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Originally posted by fayraree Hey EvilTree I think she's wearing one of your kilts! And nerds' sex lives are about as explosive as zits.

LOL Fahad.

And yes, I'M TEH HUGE NERD! At least I look like one.

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Originally posted by Swamper Some zits are pretty explosive, C-4 watch out.

LOL especially the ones you can find on nerds...

Sounds like Revenge of the Nerds to me.

To be perfectly honest I think half of this relates to Aguilera herself. She has some pretty eccentric taste IN GENERAL.

And Britney Spears is married to the scrubbiest looking guy I've ever seen.

There's something in pop stars' water...

I disagree with the basic premise of the article...

...it IS possible to be a geek AND a pretty-boy at the same time.

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Originally posted by Swamper Some zits are pretty explosive, C-4 watch out.

Ewwww gross

Hey fayraree I saw that thread...only I don't think anyone was voted as a nerd...so I still think we should hold a vote....and the winner gets a kewl house party....by the TA dj's... don't you think so Playa24_7

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Originally posted by ShadoWolf I disagree with the basic premise of the article... ...it IS possible to be a geek AND a pretty-boy at the same time.

Spoken by the geek who never shows his face....eh ShadoWolf?

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Originally posted by b4k-oz Spoken by the geek who never shows his face....eh ShadoWolf?

You're getting it from both TO & MTL forums now for not showing your pic

anyhow.. funny thing today.. I just bought a shirt that says "I *heart* nerds

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Originally posted by b4k-oz Spoken by the geek who never shows his face....eh ShadoWolf?

I've been busy working on my 3rd university degree.



Anyway, in my high school there were three phyla in the student kingdom: the jocks, the geeks, and the freaks.

The jocks contained classes like the football players, the ginos, etc.

The freaks had punks, goths, skaters, and others.


I was too much of a jock to fit in with the geeks. I was too much of a freak to fit in with the jocks. I was too much of a geek to fit in with the freaks.


I'm a bit of each, so I was unique. It also meant that I never fit in anywhere.

So I'm unsure how to react to that article...

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