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what works in the bedroom for you? (a honest discussion)
Kelly (yankeeBaby) gave me the idea to start this one, forgive me if it's been done before...
There have been several "relationship" threads lately. AdReNaLiNa's and Jayx1's really pulled the heartstrings for me. I've been married for a long time and I sometimes feel guilty that it's working for me, when I see others faltering and failing
We are all amongst friends here, guys and gals.
What have you found works the best for your sex life and keeping a long and healthy relationship?
...and what would also be a "relationship killer", that you have found, to avoid at all costs?
dude, theres never a reason to feel guilty for having a good relationship. i have an amazing 3 year relationship and i feel very fortunate for that, becuase i know these types of relationships are hard to come by...when you're single its hard to pass the one month bar scene most of the time.
tips:
always show your appreciation towards each other! and make sure to give compliments when appropriate. (that just sums it up very generally in a nut shell)
sex life parts a secret 
honestly - it is what happens outside the bedroom that does it for me 
it all leads back to the bedroom
- Never go to bed mad
That one has been etched in stone for me and it works.
It's 13 years for my wifey and me (6 married + 7 together).
I can tell you that a relationship takes work.
Noone ever thought that ours would work but it does.
- Respect your partner decisions and opinions
- Listen to your partner when they need to talk (don't give advice unless they ask! Sometimes being a sounding board is all they need)
- Encourage them to do that thing they'd love to do (for my wife it was Irish Dancing and now Bass Guitar) and support them 110%.
- Have common and separate interests/goals.
- Most of all, always tell them you love them and hug daily. 
Works for me... 
try adding more...
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| Originally posted by Fir3start3r - Respect your partner decisions and opinions - Listen to your partner when they need to talk (don't give advice unless they ask! Sometimes being a sounding board is all they need) - Encourage them to do that thing they'd love to do (for my wife it was Irish Dancing and now Bass Guitar) and support them 110%. - Have common and separate interests/goals. - Most of all, always tell them you love them and hug daily. |
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| Originally posted by girllovingtvibe honestly - it is what happens outside the bedroom that does it for me it all leads back to the bedroom |
Usually a wave of my handgun does the trick
...I'm kidding, for those of you who can't take a joke
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| Originally posted by VERTiG0 Usually a wave of my handgun does the trick ...I'm kidding, for those of you who can't take a joke |
Re: what works in the bedroom for you? (a honest discussion)
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| Originally posted by zookeeper ..and what would also be a "relationship killer", that you have found, to avoid at all costs? |
Been in a long distance relationship with my fiancee since 1999...
I think what has worked for so long is just the loving way we speak to each other; we have arguments and all but we hardly yell and always say, "I love you" to each other.
I guess once we start living together things will change (have no experience with that) but I don't know if part of the reason we have been together for so long is because we've had so much time apart doing our own things...when we see eachother for the first time after a long time it's always so exciting and filled with love, and we've had that moment like 20 times in the past 6 years, so I still have that giddy feeling when I see her!
Now she's in Montreal so she's closer but it's the same thing...therefore I don't think I have *real* relationship experience (i.e. living with someone knowing they're with you for the rest of your life)...
^^^^^
too sweet.
Yeah really caring for someone/loving someone sure makes the bedroom that much better
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| Originally posted by dance2dabeat ^^^^^ too sweet. Yeah really caring for someone/loving someone sure makes the bedroom that much better |
And to think I thought this was about sex technics in bed. 
Isn't loyalty, integrity and honesty enough for a good relationship? Why do some people insist on trying to make it a rocket science?
I have been with my partner for three years now and I can tell you that this is the best relationship I have ever been in and I have been married before too!!! Communication, respect of oneself and each other and one of the most important laughter. Being close with the one you love and being able to always share a laugh no matter what kind of crapy day either one of you has had. Being able to laugh about it with the one person you know wont judge you, whom you can be yourself with always makes me feel better!!!
Andie
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| Originally posted by andielips Communication, respect of oneself and each other and one of the most important laughter. |
IMHO, the most important aspect of any relationship is the ability to communicate well and be honest and open. Over time, if there is no honesty, or if things are held back, they will float to the surface in ugly ways. Respect each other, and try not to take anything for granted, even though you will anyways, and show the other person that you appreciate them, no matter what. All these things will build bonds and comfort, and those two things make sex, no matter how/where/why/when, into an amazing experience, repeatedly.
I'm at a point in my life where I really don't like the idea of a relationship. I've been in a couple (longest @ 6 months) and I seriously don't feel a need or want to have to worry about anyone else until I feel that my life is secure on both a financial and social level ad infinitum.
If I were to hook up again the girl in question would need to be capable of complete independance and would need to realize that she'll never come before my work.
women=distraction=even less time to sleep=worse business performance.
*needs to develop the first "on call" girlfriend, who doesn't require regular installments to her bank account*
j/k
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| Originally posted by PartyHarlequin I'm at a point in my life where I really don't like the idea of a relationship. I've been in a couple (longest @ 6 months) and I seriously don't feel a need or want to have to worry about anyone else until I feel that my life is secure on both a financial and social level ad infinitum. |
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| Originally posted by Fir3start3r - Have common and separate interests/goals. |
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| Originally posted by Skipper For those who say they don't want a relationship - that's cool - but when the right person comes along, you'll change your mind in an instant. |
Lets see if we can get this thread going in a different direction.
For those who have been in a relationship for a long time, how do you introduce "new" things to the bedroom? To keep things interesting?
...and no I don't mean any of that deviant, dysfunctional crap. Just good fun between partners.
..."Toys" for example...
Just to add some "flair" to an established relationship
Be my lover, not my mother...
so many women now seem to think they can control guys (often they can). Sorry not me! I have my life and she should have hers. On top of that we should have OUR life.
I will never be in a position where i feel like i have to get permission to do what i want.
So many of my friends are never "allowed" out. It makes me feel like im 9 all over again
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