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Have you grown up to be someone dat u never wanted to be?

When i was a kid, i saw my dad smoke and drink till late nite everyday and my mom had to take care of him everynite, clean up, hot tea to sober him up etc...i told myself i would never be like him...now im 28 and im excatly like him but trying to push some of the bad quilty off of me...which makes my life double hard...im like this 2 sided person now..i worry bout little things all the time, He has cheated on my mom before , and i have also on my GF*_* there are many things dat we are alike and some of it just sux...

Like father, like son?? now i believe every little things happened in ur childhood affects u in the future..who you will become when u grow up.

dude, get yourself together. You don't have to be like your father, and you can be different.

Ive kinda grown up to be what i wanted to be. When I was a kid I was sure i'd be a baseball & football player like Bo Jackson but i guess i was wrong. Everything so far has turned out OK, except for partying a lil too much & too hard. But I guess I learned from it. Still got some party times to come too.

ok heres the solution

stop being an alcoholic, stop smoking, stop cheating.

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Have you grown up to be someone dat u never wanted to be?

Yes.

Ahh...My parents were always complete goody goodies looking to do the right thing in every situation when I was a child.

And now I'm a full out pothead, love to drink, love to pop pills and go fuckin raving...

In my opinion, it's not only your parents that influence you...Every person you meet, every choice you make no matter how big or small it is, it all adds up and shapes you into the person you're destined to become!

agree with you ahway..i sort of never imagined i wud never turn up like my dad by now i am.



but if you have gotten so far as to question it, then maybe you can change. think.



as for the topic, the answer is yes. i imagined i would be a fighter.


/drunk

My mother is annoyingly zen and I'm slowly becoming just like her.

I'm becoming a bloody hippy

I remember when I was younger all I ever wanted was to have correct grammar. But alas, dat is a dream I can only dream at nite .

You're right when you say that little things that happen when you're young affect you greatly later on in life. I guess that having a dad like yours as an example to you as a child has obviously influenced how you deal with your day-to-day problems now. Having said that though, you know exactly where you're going wrong, and you want to change. So if you keep trying to think positive and change your ways, I'm sure you'll end up getting out of those bad habits and be able to live your life how you want to.

28 years old and typing like a 13 year old.

You make the choices that make you who you are today. No one forced you to drink, you made that decision. You made the decision to cheat on your girlfriend. You control your life, no one else. Own up to that fact, and take some responsibility for your actions. I feel no sympathy for you. You can either become a real man, and make the decision to change and become a better person, or you can continue on being a little boy, blaming your father for the choices that you, not your father, made.

Grow up. Act your age.

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Originally posted by squirrelly ...

Harsh, but quite true.

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Originally posted by squirrelly Grow up. Act your age.

Good advice for over 98% of this forum's users.

including myself

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Have you grown up to be someone dat u never wanted to be?

Yes, I'm a fucking asshole.

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Originally posted by squirrelly 28 years old and typing like a 13 year old. You make the choices that make you who you are today. No one forced you to drink, you made that decision. You made the decision to cheat on your girlfriend. You control your life, no one else. Own up to that fact, and take some responsibility for your actions. I feel no sympathy for you. You can either become a real man, and make the decision to change and become a better person, or you can continue on being a little boy, blaming your father for the choices that you, not your father, made. Grow up. Act your age.

Hmm..im not asking for sympathy..i was asking if anyone felt like this..things or attitude that you didnt like or wanted,but now you are doing/acting it. I never regret about drugs, alchol, or girls..i like to experience life to the fullest.

Regarding the typing...English is my 2nd language, and im not typing an essay to turn in to my teacher, as long as you/others understands it, i think its fine..

Oh, i wasnt blaming my father for anything, he is the best. Just some tiny charcterastics i dont like but now i inherited.

Dr Phil says: You need to start a healthy gay relationship.

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Originally posted by ahway26 Hmm..im not asking for sympathy..i was asking if anyone felt like this..things or attitude that you didnt like or wanted,but now you are doing/acting it. I never regret about drugs, alchol, or girls..i like to experience life to the fullest. Regarding the typing...English is my 2nd language, and im not typing an essay to turn in to my teacher, as long as you/others understands it, i think its fine.. Oh, i wasnt blaming my father for anything, he is the best. Just some tiny charcterastics i dont like but now i inherited.

Save it, English isn't my first language nor is it the first language of a lot of people that post on this forum. However you don't see most of us typing with u, ur, little stupid faces like *-* or whatever, that's what emoticons are provided for.

You don't regret? You sure sound like you regret it in your original post. Maybe you need to decide what you really want before you claim you don't like who you've become.

Clearly, you didn't bother to take the time to actually read my post. You didn't inherit his characteristics, you made the choice to have them. No one poured a bottle of alcohol down your throat, you picked it up and decided to drink it. No one forced you to cheat on your girlfriend, you chose to. You didn't inherit anything, you made all of the choices yourself.

You're attempting to play the part of the victim. Problem is, you aren't the victim, you never were.

im happy u choose to anwser things the way u like it,, and i chose to post the way i like it..We have diff priciple and way of doing things..dont regret dat u cant be like me.^6^

i like to use " ur, u, *_*" on idiots like you^_^ so u get all angry and im happy , heheh

i had an abusive step father when i was in middle school. that kind of fucked me up into being a bit anti-authority. when someone takes advantage of their authority and your the one affected, its hard to let anybody else take authority, even if they have your best interest in mind.

but im nowhere near the man this guy was. bi-polar, suicidally depressed, then happy, then back to being angry all the time. im so glad im not that.

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Originally posted by ahway26 im happy u choose to anwser things the way u like it,, and i chose to post the way i like it..We have diff priciple and way of doing things..dont regret dat u cant be like me.^6^ i like to use " ur, u, *_*" on idiots like you^_^ so u get all angry and im happy , heheh

That's amusing that you think I'm even bothered. It's a forum, you posted a thread, I posted my opinion. I never once said I was angry in the least.

And I don't regret that I can't be like you, why on earth would I want to be a 28 year old loser?

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Originally posted by squirrelly Save it, English isn't my first language nor is it the first language of a lot of people that post on this forum. However you don't see most of us typing with u, ur, little stupid faces like *-* or whatever, that's what emoticons are provided for. You don't regret? You sure sound like you regret it in your original post. Maybe you need to decide what you really want before you claim you don't like who you've become. Clearly, you didn't bother to take the time to actually read my post. You didn't inherit his characteristics, you made the choice to have them. No one poured a bottle of alcohol down your throat, you picked it up and decided to drink it. No one forced you to cheat on your girlfriend, you chose to. You didn't inherit anything, you made all of the choices yourself. You're attempting to play the part of the victim. Problem is, you aren't the victim, you never were.

a child is always a victim. an adult is not. a child cant make his own choices without parental guidance. an adult can.

ahway, u may have been a victim as a child, but as an adult, u hold the cards in your hand now. not your father. i suggest u see a therapist. they are professionally trained to deal with stuff like that.

Don't like who you are? Stop whining about it here and go change it.

The only person you have to blame for who you've become in life is your own dumb self. Blaming your upbringing is a lame excuse, although it is certainly approprite to the type of bottom-feeder you seem to correctly view yourself as.

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Originally posted by Arbiter Don't like who you are? Stop whining about it here and go change it. The only person you have to blame for who you've become in life is your own dumb self. Blaming your upbringing is a lame excuse, although it is certainly approprite to the type of bottom-feeder you seem to correctly view yourself as.

I'm glad you agree with my point of view.

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