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i still can't believe this happened to me....(thank u sean cassidy for everything)
this happened on saturday night:
i just want to express my love for sean cassidy, dj robben and of course dj endgame.
this past weekend i was feeling extremely down. in general i was an emotional wreck. at work on saturday night after seating an older indian couple, i continued to run around helping out the servers and my manager. We had a party of 45 come in with the band and had reserved a few tables for them in two sections of the room. I sat this older couple beside one of the reserved tables, thinking they were reserved. When they were leaving i said goodnight, and goodbye to them and the older gentleman start yelling at me...he first asked my name then said "danielle, i think you are racist!" while looking right into my eyes. I was dumbfounded...i had no clue what to say. He explained that we has lived here for 40 years and in england for a long period of time, and has never had to deal with racism against him. That he was going to go to the press about how the company is racist. I asked him calming why he thought this. He replied in a frantic tone that i had sat him in at a bad table, and that i didnt want to seat them in the reserved booth. Unknowingly i found out later that my manager had moved a white couple into the booth the create a larger reserved table on the otherside of the room. The older gentleman started calling me names such as "Jap", "Chink" ... and saying that they were all the same. My manager explained to him the situation...but in all honesty tears were welling up in my eyes.
i know as many have told me that i shouldnt take things like this (from people i don't persoanlly know) to heart. But in my emotional state...i couldnt take it. 
I have never been accused of anything like this. My uncle (my dads bestfriend) is from Trinidad...i grew up with his kids...who are actually like my sisters...Tania and Shonnaugh. My twin cousins are a mix between trini, jamaican, chinese,newfie and japanese. I have a italian godfather...my family is 4th generation canadian meaning...during the second world war my family was put into concentration camps, everythinh was taken away from them; their homes, lives, possessions and freedom...even though they were all canadian. My grandmother experienced discrimination where ever she went...in canada, in japan (for not being japanese and japanese speaking) My family has lived with discrimination for years...and has held strong. I am a minority in this country still...
It hurt soo much, to be accused of something like this being someone of japanese decent.
So when this man looked into my eyes and said this to me...it hurt a lot.
Afterward he went on saying that his son had married a thai girl and that their grand daughter had my eyes...i think he could tell how much he hurt me...caus as he said that tears were slowly beginning to trickle down my face while i tried to smile and stay calm.
during the rest of my shift at worked i shrugged it off...but it still seriously bothered me.
I couldnt stop crying, when i got home...i felt so misunderstood.
I called drew who tried his best to calm me down...
Sean Cassidy then talked to me...i have never met such a strong amazing wonderful person. Not only did he comfort me but he reminded me about how i have the bestest friends in the world. He highlighted my strengths and reminded me that it doesnt matter what other people think, and that i have a house full of people who luv me in cambridge...he sent his hugs and happiest vibes....He mixed this with his amazing humour and total absolute love.
I realized that even from far away...these people still bring a smile to my face...wipe away my tears...and help me rip up the dancefloor...
thank you: sean, drew and mikey for all your love....and long distance hugs.
awww Seanathan is a great guy!!!
He made me laugh once when I really needed a good laugh....
"Big dick in the pants usually means Big dick in the brains"
Sean rocks!!!
and sorry to hear that stupid crap happened to u.
u shouldve just told him that u know LKD...
stupid indian coouples 
dont let one person make you feel bad about yourself and put you down, when theres hundreds of people who know the real you and love ya. so many of us have met you and know that you are a truly kind hearted girl, who loves to have fun, and would go out of your way for someone. everytime i've met you, you've always had a big smile, having fun with everyone, no matter what race.
try not to worry about what one asshole said who doesnt know you at all, and think about all the people who actually know you, and think your totally awesome like me!
The world is full of assholes. Don't let people who's opinions shouldn't matter to you get to you personally. 
it's all love dannie, always remember we love you.
I'm sorry to hear that Danielle. Take it from a brown person... the old south-asian folks always think everyone is out to discriminate against them or what not. They end up taking their insecurities out on other people; unfortunately, it was on you this time. Don't take it to heart because we all know it's not true.
Boy, London Pub is really starting to suck these days!!
and like most of you said it, don't let one person's opinion get into your heart so deeply. i know that feeling and sometimes it's hard to avoid it, but in the end, it's only some stupid asshole who doesn't care about how others would feel like after his comments. if someone close to you said it, then it would be a different story, but coming from someone like him, just ignore and move on.
Thats HORRIBLE dannie... ahhh, habibi!! Im so fucking sad for you to hear that complete bullshit you had to endure. THats so not right!
You are a fucking WONDERFUL person... i freakin' LOVE spending time with you whenever I see you and drew on the dance floor.
My memories of you from the cottage are the fondest EVER!!!
I so sorry that you were put through that. Know that I think you're an incredibly person who lightens my mood and brightens my day!
I am honoured to call you a new friend girl! You are 100% top-notch and a fantabulous individual.
Try to smile and not let jerks and over-reacting false-assumption-making ASSHOLES!!!!!!
JAMIE (Jem_hadar).
*hearts* and *breasthugs*
Miss you dannie.... you're the best!!
Re: i still can't believe this happened to me....(thank u sean cassidy for everything)
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| Originally posted by _tAmiKo_ Afterward he went on saying that his son had married a thai girl |
I would have probably punched this guy in the face and quit right there..
Some people are always looking for an excuse to start something.
You did nothing wrong. You're a great person and never think twice about it. 
Remember TA loves you.
dood, dont take it personally but indians get all in your face many times thinking that because they get a shitty pref assuming its a racist thing.
Just ignore the moron. You know your much better than him
btw to cyrus king, he coulda punched his face and walked out, but i am sure there is reasoning why he didnt do it.
tancegrooves is right, its just a brown thing the parents dont want them mingling or mixing with other communities just rather than indian.
For me personally i dont give a shit, my mom also tells me shit like that all day. Just ignore it and be on ur way
^^^ swamper stop spamming!
please and thankyou
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| Originally posted by maxtuh dood, dont take it personally but indians get all in your face many times thinking that because they get a shitty pref assuming its a racist thing. Just ignore the moron. You know your much better than him btw to cyrus king, he coulda punched his face and walked out, but i am sure there is reasoning why he didnt do it. tancegrooves is right, its just a brown thing the parents dont want them mingling or mixing with other communities just rather than indian. For me personally i dont give a shit, my mom also tells me shit like that all day. Just ignore it and be on ur way |
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| Originally posted by TranceGrooves d00dz ... he is a she actually lolz. |
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| The older gentleman started calling me names such as "Jap", "Chink" ... and saying that they were all the same. |
Dannie - baby.......no koto, suki! (I love you)
truly a shitty and DEMEANING situation (and being unable to be right there - to convey my words to you face to face) ever so difficult - but I am happy I wiped that ABUSIVE dialogue from your mind - if only for a short while - importantly to help you REALIZE the insignificance of those HATEFUL words to you spoken when weighed upon your moral judgements and character - and your NECESSITY to crush them with the POWER of your love in YOURSELF and to draw from the love of those around you - who see you as a pillar of strength in your GENTLE heart of hearts......
this song always has been an integral part of my internal dialogue...
People are People - DEPECHE MODE
People are people
So why should it be
You and I should get along so awfully
So we're different colours
And we're different creeds
And different people have different needs
It's obvious you hate me
Though I've done nothing wrong
I never even met you so what could I have done
I can't understand
What makes a man
Hate another man
Help me understand
People are people
So why should it be
You and I should get along so awfully
Help me understand
Now you're punching
And you're kicking
And you're shouting at me
I'm relying on your common decency
So far it hasn't surfaced
But I'm sure it exists
It just takes a while
To travel from your head to your fist
I can't understand
What makes a man
Hate another man
Help me understand
People are people
So why should it be
You and I should get along so awfully
I can't understand
What makes a man
Hate another man
Help me understand
I can't understand (people are people)
What makes a man (why should it be)
Hate another man
Help me understand...
in my distant past these words coming from an american radio station one summer - July '84
forever changed a confused boy's life and my view of myself and the world around me...."everything counts in large amounts"
Dannie - ame futte ji katamaru (adversity builds character)
- never let them get you down........
"When I'm with you baby
I go out of my head
And I just can't get enough
And I just can't get enough.........."
XOXO
wtfhippies
Re: i still can't believe this happened to me....(thank u sean cassidy for everything)
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| Originally posted by _tAmiKo_ . The older gentleman started calling me names such as "Jap", "Chink" ... and saying that they were all the same. |
princess darlin u neeed not worry ...japanese girls are hawt and ur blessed to be one of them hehehehe
U didn't bring urself down to his level and that is ALL that matters...RESPECT to you sister for respecting urself and ur RUDE ASS ANAL RETENTIVE customers!!......in one ear out the other!!!
NOW LET'S DANCE!!! perhaps this Sat???
can't wait to party party party wit ya side by side!!!
thank you everyone for your love and kind words...you brought tears to my eyes...and a huge smile to my face. You are the greatest group of people i have ever met. wow. i'm overwhelmed with the warm fuzzies...
sean i love that song...my mom used to play it for me all the time..i havent heard it in soo long.
i'm blessed to have all of you. *hugs and kisses*
nada: this saturday..i work but til 11ish. where?when?
yeah, dont worry about other dorks out there. He definately wont be the last you run into. You know who you are and what you stand for , so forget about him.
There's no room for racist ppl anymore ...
Glad to see another TOTA cheering you up.
did he pay by credit card ?? if so send me his information and he will wish he never lived ..
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