Sort of a relationship thread... but not really

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Posted by RandomGirl on Sep-29-2005 06:31:

Sort of a relationship thread... but not really

Alright, I have been on a woman power, "stick up for myself" thing lately, and well I am proud of myself and would like to share.

So as many of you heard in my relationship thread a long time ago, I had a one-night stand with some guy. Well we have been in touch recently, and I thought that I could make an attempt at being friends with him. Didn't turn out so well.

I asked him if he wanted to play a game of "literati" with me. He accepted, and I bragged about how I would win. He unfortunately couldn't get the applet to load, so I suggested we play some other time. This is what was said:

one-night stand guy:
if i win, you have to come over and have a drink with me
Theresa says:
i don't think that'll happen
Theresa says:
especially you winning
one-night stand guy:
winning is easy
one-night stand guy:
it's simply a matter of focus
one-night stand guy:
but having a drink on the other hand, that's a matter of enjoyment
Theresa says:
i don't think you're really thinking of the drink, more like what comes after the drink
one-night stand guy:
the drink tastes that much better knowing what comes after
one-night stand guy:
lol, are you even a teensy bit intrigued?
Theresa says:
honestly?
Theresa says:
not in the least
Theresa says:
i would think by now you would have realized that women don't respond well to the idea of a guy wanting her. that's all men want, we know it, no shock there. to intrigue us takes a lot more than suggesting sleeping with her
one-night stand guy:
haha
one-night stand guy:
this is true
Theresa says:
t'is indeed
one-night stand guy:
but not all women feel the same way you do.. many women feel that sex is just another thing to enjoy; same as a game of Literati, only MUCH more interactive, haha
Theresa says:
ahh it is a thing to enjoy
Theresa says:
i am no prude, not in the least
one-night stand guy:
and as for it being all men want, don't one-dimensionalize us.. very few guys honestly feel that way about women... but we make a big distinction between making love and having sex, if you know what i mean
Theresa says:
yes, i didnt generalize, and i know not all men think that way
one-night stand guy:
i enjoy having sex while i'm waiting to meet someone i'll fall in love with..
Theresa says:
did*
one-night stand guy:
now, the difference i make is being very clear with my intentions so that i never lead a girl on or leave her feeling rejected..
Theresa says:
which is very nice of you
Theresa says:
with myself, i understand that your intentions are to sleep with me, and thats about it. and to be honest "one night stand guy", it's just not my thing.
Theresa says:
it's fine that people sleep with other people because they want to enjoy sex
Theresa says:
i love sex, in fact when given the opportunity i'm a fiend, but i don't enjoy sex with someone i feel no connection with, and know has very little interest in me
Theresa says:
with you, i have tried developing some sort of connection, but it seems there is only one way and well, i can't be bothered going that way (no offence to you, because i'm sure if given the opportunity i would learn that you're a fantastic guy)
Theresa says:
i guess that's what i get for sleeping with you before. my own fault i suppose, i suggested to you with my previous actions that it takes little to get me in the sack, which in reality is very far from the truth
Theresa says:
so c'est la vie nothing lost, nothing gained

Being brutally honest like that is liberating.

Posted by MeLLyMeL on Sep-29-2005 06:34:

woah girl haha!

u told him the truth and that's good.... plus u totally put him out there.

good job

Posted by Zenchowdah on Sep-29-2005 06:35:

\o/

Posted by Floorfiller on Sep-29-2005 06:35:

hahaha...very nice!

Posted by TweeK on Sep-29-2005 06:37:

the guy most have a n00b computer if he cant get the applet to load.

Posted by allcentury18 on Sep-29-2005 06:37:

if this was a sober one night stand there was something there you are clearly attracted to(still i'm sure). remember attraction isn't a choice. i feel as if your own pyschological "boundry" as most call it is easily accessible during times but you throw on a thick hide when in fear.

you have congruency issues and thats me being honest

Posted by allcentury18 on Sep-29-2005 06:37:

quote:
Originally posted by TweeK
the guy most have a n00b computer if he cant get the applet to load.

you have GOT to be kidding me thats the response you gave this thread

Posted by TweeK on Sep-29-2005 06:39:

quote:
Originally posted by allcentury18
you have GOT to be kidding me thats the response you gave this thread

oh yeah i forgot.

Stick it in teh p00per?

Posted by Floorfiller on Sep-29-2005 06:39:

i'm with you though theresa...i'm just going to be blunt about stuff...i think it is for the best in the long run.

Posted by RandomGirl on Sep-29-2005 06:39:

quote:
Originally posted by allcentury18
if this was a sober one night stand there was something there you are clearly attracted to(still i'm sure). remember attraction isn't a choice. i feel as if your own pyschological "boundry" as most call it is easily accessible during times but you throw on a thick hide when in fear.

you have congruency issues and thats me being honest

No, I was drunk when it happened.. more than a year ago.

Posted by Zenchowdah on Sep-29-2005 06:40:

quote:
Originally posted by allcentury18
remember attraction isn't a choice.

thats the kinda thing people say to justify rape.

Posted by TweeK on Sep-29-2005 06:40:

quote:
Originally posted by Theresa
No, I was drunk when it happened..

yeah thats what they all say, but they know they likked it.

Posted by RJT on Sep-29-2005 06:41:

quote:
Originally posted by allcentury18
if this was a sober one night stand there was something there you are clearly attracted to(still i'm sure). remember attraction isn't a choice. i feel as if your own pyschological "boundry" as most call it is easily accessible during times but you throw on a thick hide when in fear.

you have congruency issues and thats me being honest

Wow, are you just on TA for the sake of posting in relationship threads, because it's seems as though you've just got everyone's relationship/attraction/sex issues all figured out...

Posted by RandomGirl on Sep-29-2005 06:42:

quote:
Originally posted by TweeK
yeah thats what they all say, but they know they likked it.

Well yea, the sex was awesome... like I said, I'm a fiend. However, I don't think I would have followed through with it if I had been sober.

Posted by Floorfiller on Sep-29-2005 06:42:

quote:
Originally posted by TweeK
yeah thats what they all say, but they know they likked it.

well yeah...drunk sex is fun and meaningless...but i see theresa's point. i mean, basically she said that she could choose to just sleep with this dude again, but she doesn't really need to and that she'd just rather only sleep with people she knows like her for more than just sex...

Posted by RandomGirl on Sep-29-2005 06:44:

quote:
Originally posted by Floorfiller
well yeah...drunk sex is fun and meaningless...but i see theresa's point. i mean, basically she said that she could choose to just sleep with this dude again, but she doesn't really need to and that she'd just rather only sleep with people she knows like her for more than just sex...

Ding ding!

You are a winnar!

Posted by allcentury18 on Sep-29-2005 06:45:

quote:
Originally posted by DJ RJT
Wow, are you just on TA for the sake of posting in relationship threads, because it's seems as though you've just got everyone's relationship/attraction/sex issues all figured out...

my thesis is on this subject. i'm also writing an e-book on men & women communication. i find it fascinating.

and DJ R2-D2 i'm glad you like it

Posted by Floorfiller on Sep-29-2005 06:45:

quote:
Originally posted by Theresa
Ding ding!

You are a winnar!

so like...what's the prize?

Posted by Axolotyl on Sep-29-2005 06:45:

quote:
Originally posted by Zenchowdah
thats the kinda thing people say to justify rape.

Uh... not really. Maybe 'violent penetration without consent isn't a choice' but not just... 'attraction isnt a choice' It doesnt exactly sum up the act of rape as such...

Posted by Omega_Blue on Sep-29-2005 06:47:

i suck at literati.

Posted by Floorfiller on Sep-29-2005 06:47:

yeah...what's literati...sounds like something i'd like if it's nerdish and about words and stuff hehehe

Posted by Clovis on Sep-29-2005 06:49:

lol...that dude had no shame...

Posted by RJT on Sep-29-2005 06:49:

quote:
Originally posted by allcentury18
my thesis is on this subject. i'm also writing an e-book on men & women communication. i find it fascinating.

and DJ R2-D2 i'm glad you like it

I officially take back any ill will I ever wished you, b/c I think being called DJ R2-D2 might be one of my favorite things to have ever happened on this forum... so thanks for that.

Good luck on your thesis, though I must say, I respectfully disagree with some of your views... but whatever, at least you're articulate, which is more than I can say for myself or a lot of the of CORe whores, so go nuts...

Posted by RandomGirl on Sep-29-2005 06:49:

quote:
Originally posted by Floorfiller
yeah...what's literati...sounds like something i'd like if it's nerdish and about words and stuff hehehe

Just like scrabble, but more fun.

And for the record, I will smoke anyones ass in Literati, so if you're challenging me, consider this a warning!

Posted by Omega_Blue on Sep-29-2005 06:49:

quote:
Originally posted by Floorfiller
yeah...what's literati...sounds like something i'd like if it's nerdish and about words and stuff hehehe

it's a yahoo game like scrabble, but like ten times harder. i'm usually really good at word games too, but i suck it up at this one.

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