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Posted by wizniz on Nov-11-2005 15:50:

a girl thread... yes yes i know

so this girl im goin out with... wow.

its her first relationship and shes so obviously new to it and it bothers me. (this is the main problem i think... shes new to everything)

not because shes not a slut but because shes nervous all the time and tends to say insensitive things... but on instant messenger shes the girl i want.

for instance yesterday im on IM and im like "im goin to hard bean open mic night (cafe) to play w/ my friend - want to come?"

shes like "cool"

im like "come by at 7:00 and then we'll leave at 7:30 and we can just talk or something until then"

her "or something "

me "something it is lol"

she comes over and we sit down on the couch and i sit right next to her (were going out so im chill) and her body language is SO NEGATIVE... arms crossed, legs crossed in a direction away from me shes leaning away a little bit (lol my breath always smells good fyis).

this is frustrating and insulting to me... (weve been going out for like 3 months so its not like im shy...)

her answers are, unlike on instant messenger, completely unsexual, constrained and vague. i hear "i dont know" "kind of" "i guess" and this sort of shit ALL THE TIME!

i find that im the one talking and she just listens but doesnt say much except maybe laugh or say "that wasnt funny"...

a 1/2 hour goes by watching tv and one of my friends arrives and we head out to the cafe.

the entire time at the cafe she sits by herself though my friends invite her to join them laughing and such but she just sits there looking peeved (i told them about her before and how shes awkward and after this time they all told me they didnt know it was "that bad".)

on the ride home its pretty quiet because im slightly mad at her but i dont let it show itself except for in lack of talking. she of course doesnt offer any verbalization... i talk with my friend whos in the back seat and she just stares ahead... we get to her house and shes gone.

now this is how it goes... then ill talk to her on IM and she'll be suggestive as hell, talkative as hell, funny and cute.

im confused, sad, and thinking about breaking up with her because i dont want to get hurt like this.

thoughts? trying to get as many opinions as i can.

in replies plz be serious

or at least very funny

Posted by Arbiter on Nov-11-2005 15:55:

She's obviously just shy.

Posted by HardTranceProd on Nov-11-2005 16:01:

Do you realize how ridiculous and immature you look posting this shit on a public forum?

Posted by wizniz on Nov-11-2005 16:03:

where no one knows me personally and i wont hurt any of the involved persons feelings?

yea pretty fucking stupid of me.

btw that wasnt funny

btw... who are you?

Posted by Arbiter on Nov-11-2005 16:04:

quote:
Originally posted by HardTranceProd
Do you realize how ridiculous and immature you look posting this shit on a public forum?

0/10 on the troll-o-meter for lack of originality. Try harder.

Posted by HardTranceProd on Nov-11-2005 16:06:

quote:
Originally posted by Arbiter
0/10 on the troll-o-meter for lack of originality. Try harder.

Try harder to be 'Offline', moron u need that for your mental health

Posted by Lepanto on Nov-11-2005 16:07:

HardTrancePod kinda had a point but w/e ...

Dude, why do you go out with someon like that? Please, tell me you didn't meet her/got to know her online? Cause if so break up with her immediatly. Actually do it eitherway, it's her first relationship, supposedly, so why are you going to be a lab rat for her?

Posted by wizniz on Nov-11-2005 16:07:

hardtrance-

try harder not to hijack the thread...

I need that for my mental health.

kthxleave

Posted by Palladium on Nov-11-2005 16:07:

IM is always a cover for what you really are...if she says "cool""omg""sex""bang bang bang""fuck" on it....then that's the real she

just carry a laptop with u...so she can communicate with u thru it

Posted by Floorfiller on Nov-11-2005 16:07:

the internet has ruined people's social skills. people are the people they'd like to be on IM or whatever, but then they are socially awkward and shy.

Posted by wizniz on Nov-11-2005 16:09:

im the same me all the time... so i guess i cant understand this very well...

Posted by Lepanto on Nov-11-2005 16:11:

dump her

Posted by Palladium on Nov-11-2005 16:11:

quote:
Originally posted by Lepanto
HardTrancePod kinda had a point but w/e ...

Dude, why do you go out with someon like that? Please, tell me you didn't meet her/got to know her online? Cause if so break up with her immediatly. Actually do it eitherway, it's her first relationship, supposedly, so why are you going to be a lab rat for her?

disagree

cyber date/love FTW

Posted by Arbiter on Nov-11-2005 16:12:

quote:
Originally posted by HardTranceProd
Try harder to be 'Offline', moron u need that for your mental health

0/10 again. You really suck at this.

Posted by Lepanto on Nov-11-2005 16:14:

quote:
Originally posted by Palladium
disagree

cyber date/love FTW

you're...kidding me right?! just cause you do it doesn't make it right hehe

Posted by wizniz on Nov-11-2005 16:14:

no i didnt meet her online she in orchestra here at the school with me

and she used to be flirty in person until we started dating... which confuses me to this date.

im thinking i should either:

force a move though extremely awkward

dump her

thx for the replies so far this is helping w/ my... reallyhappyreallydepressedness?

Posted by Lepanto on Nov-11-2005 16:15:

If you met her in real life, she still pretends to be all diff online, i've met plenty of ppl like that. mainly because i've talked to alot of girls who were flirty online or on the fone and then were all shy and stuff.

regardless all that, as you've said, it's her first relationship so why would you wanna have to guide her through all that shit?

Posted by Mebot on Nov-11-2005 16:16:

lol @ hard bean cafe

Posted by chojin on Nov-11-2005 16:16:

i would have said stick with it, as it can take a while until you're totally comfortable. but if its been 3 months, fuck that. kick it to the kerb.

Posted by sooper on Nov-11-2005 16:18:

if you like her, try talking to her - tell her how you feel and what's on your mind. Let her know you like her and you want things to work out, but you need to let her know what you are feeling - remember, she can't read your mind, she may have no idea you have these concerns.

without open & honest communication relationships sucks hairy donkey balls.

Posted by raph93 on Nov-11-2005 16:19:

Let Carl Cox bang her

Posted by Arbiter on Nov-11-2005 16:19:

quote:
Originally posted by sooper
without open & honest communication relationships sucks hairy donkey balls.

You get a gold star!

Posted by wizniz on Nov-11-2005 16:19:

well im im'ing her now but i just asked her:
"how do you feel about our relationship?" lol

im a noob about dealing w/ problems lol i dont have these...

Posted by euphoria on Nov-11-2005 16:20:

Re: a girl thread... yes yes i know

quote:
Originally posted by wizniz
so this girl im goin out with... wow.

its her first relationship and shes so obviously new to it and it bothers me. (this is the main problem i think... shes new to everything)

not because shes not a slut but because shes nervous all the time and tends to say insensitive things... but on instant messenger shes the girl i want.

for instance yesterday im on IM and im like "im goin to hard bean open mic night (cafe) to play w/ my friend - want to come?"

shes like "cool"

im like "come by at 7:00 and then we'll leave at 7:30 and we can just talk or something until then"

her "or something "

me "something it is lol"

she comes over and we sit down on the couch and i sit right next to her (were going out so im chill) and her body language is SO NEGATIVE... arms crossed, legs crossed in a direction away from me shes leaning away a little bit (lol my breath always smells good fyis).

this is frustrating and insulting to me... (weve been going out for like 3 months so its not like im shy...)

her answers are, unlike on instant messenger, completely unsexual, constrained and vague. i hear "i dont know" "kind of" "i guess" and this sort of shit ALL THE TIME!

i find that im the one talking and she just listens but doesnt say much except maybe laugh or say "that wasnt funny"...

a 1/2 hour goes by watching tv and one of my friends arrives and we head out to the cafe.

the entire time at the cafe she sits by herself though my friends invite her to join them laughing and such but she just sits there looking peeved (i told them about her before and how shes awkward and after this time they all told me they didnt know it was "that bad".)

on the ride home its pretty quiet because im slightly mad at her but i dont let it show itself except for in lack of talking. she of course doesnt offer any verbalization... i talk with my friend whos in the back seat and she just stares ahead... we get to her house and shes gone.

now this is how it goes... then ill talk to her on IM and she'll be suggestive as hell, talkative as hell, funny and cute.

im confused, sad, and thinking about breaking up with her because i dont want to get hurt like this.

thoughts? trying to get as many opinions as i can.

in replies plz be serious

or at least very funny

The solution is - feed her a roll

Posted by chojin on Nov-11-2005 16:20:

quote:
Originally posted by Arbiter
You get a gold star!

*insert 'you win the prize!' image>?

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