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Posted by Laun19 on Jan-25-2002 13:36:

A Little bit of advice?

Hello all,

once again it is me with prbs. wow that is a shock, i have realized that i am over my ex-gf and by best friend being togather, but yet an other bump in the road has risin their is this one girl that i really like her name is jennifer and she is a cheerleader. but my delema is that i don't know if she too likes me, and if she does how do i make her see me as a person that doesn't want to hurt her like every other guy has? she has that cute small cheerleader body and probally what i think is the best physical feature about her is her nose, not normal, comes to a point at the end, not a hedious point, just a cute one. i am not intrested in a "quick lay" or anything like that, what i want is someone that i can talk to and make her feel special. i know that i am probally rambeling on about shit that doesn't matter, but that is what i do, i find the answers to my problems through telling other people, and you guys are the most helpful and accepting group of them that i know. back to her, what has happened to her in the past is that guys will tell her that she means something to them just so that they can "get some" that isn't me. i want her to know that their are people that care about her for who she is deep inside and not just outward apperience, sure she is hot as fuck, but that isn't what i am after or what i am about. so how do i go about this, i know that you guys will have some kind of answer for me but thankx again for helping me through this shitty time in my life.

much thankx,
Johnny

Posted by ABTsportsline on Jan-25-2002 16:16:

well johnny there really is no polite way to tell a girl you want to like her for who she is and not just a lay ....

the best way (i would guess) would be just to talk to her in the hallways and stuff.... just act like a friend first. Let her get to know you, then make the moves. That's what i guess i would do.

Then again i am not the best person to ask, i haven't had to play the pursuer role in years!

-ABT-

Posted by Fraggle on Jan-25-2002 16:24:

ya just go out and do stuff & have fun together

i think i kinda know what u're talking about, 'cos i feel like i'm in a similar thing right now

i'm on holidays & haven't had much to do other than ask her out for dinner/movies/cafe/city/breakfast/lunch/art gallery/afternoon in the park/icecream etc.

just share some fun times have a good chat as often as you can & just enjoy each other's company

hmm, yeah i'm prolly not best person to say either...'cos this is like my first relationship 'n i'm like 23 LOL

anyway, i really wish you all the best!

good-luck Johnny!!!

Posted by SYNthSRI on Jan-25-2002 16:32:

personally

don't beat around the bush...just TELL her how you feel as SINCERE as possible and get it over it!
cuz if you don't, some slacker is gonna come along and pick her up with some cheesy line

best way is the direct way
don't play games and just say it like it is.
No use in going around in circles, cuz that only wastes time ...and damn is time very precious

[edit]
huffin n puffin from f'en joggin after like a 2 week period of sitting down all day killz an ol man like me! *sigh*

Posted by Laun19 on Jan-25-2002 20:42:

Dude you guys rock, how in the fuck do you people know how to handle all this shit? it is great thankx a lot, and mor advice would be great. i'll keep ya posted.

Johnny

p.s. I LIKE JENNIFER

Posted by JM on Jan-26-2002 02:46:

quote:
Originally posted by ABTsportsline
well johnny there really is no polite way to tell a girl you want to like her for who she is and not just a lay ....

the best way (i would guess) would be just to talk to her in the hallways and stuff.... just act like a friend first. Let her get to know you, then make the moves. That's what i guess i would do.

Then again i am not the best person to ask, i haven't had to play the pursuer role in years!

-ABT-

i totally agree with ABT, and i can relate to ABT as well....it's all about the confidence and how u carry yourself.....

just talk to her, if she's interested in a good way, she will be willing to get to know you back....if not, move on or try harder

>JM<

ps. ABT is one hella of a smart guy...he gives nothing but quality advice, so it wouldn't hurt to listen to him

how do i know that??? well cos i feel the same way as he does about many topics here (and i'm smart too), but he beats me to the reply, so i can only support his claims....

Posted by JM on Jan-26-2002 02:48:

quote:
Originally posted by Laun19
Dude you guys rock, how in the fuck do you people know how to handle all this shit? it is great thankx a lot, and mor advice would be great. i'll keep ya posted.

Johnny

p.s. I LIKE JENNIFER

a little bit of life experience, a little bit of getting screwed over by a few peepz...(and learning from that and my and others mistakes, mainly from others mistakes though)

live and learn!!!!

good luck to you in your girl pursuits

>JM<

Posted by Cosmo on Jan-26-2002 22:38:

EVRIKA!

WOW!!!
I HAVE AN IDEA!!!!

quote:
but my delema is that i don't know if she too likes me, and if she does how do i make her see me as a person that doesn't want to hurt her like every other guy has?

quote:
what has happened to her in the past is that guys will tell her that she means something to them just so that they can "get some" that isn't me. i want her to know that their are people that care about her for who she is deep inside and not just outward apperience, sure she is hot as fuck, but that isn't what i am after or what i am about

Mate, you need to have her see this thread!! If she's smart (and romantic) it WILL make her think
So, if she's "plugged" to i-net she needs somehow receive url of this page...accidently...otherwise (once again, if she's smart ) she will think u did it all on purpose...so no walks in the evenings...
If u have friend who know well both of you (and he also "plugged") he can arrange it .
Good luck!
P.S. Trust me, I know it will help

Posted by lMIlk on Jan-26-2002 23:01:

hi im just visiting don't mind me

Posted by Cosmo on Jan-26-2002 23:24:

quote:
Originally posted by lMIlk
hi im just visiting don't mind me

Hm? Is it some kind of museum?

Posted by bluE_Neon on Jan-27-2002 06:56:

Posted by Fir3start3r on Jan-27-2002 10:25:

quote:
Losers always whine about their best. Winners go home & fuck the prom queen! - John Mason (Sean Connery), The Rock (1996)

Not reeeally what I wanted to say, I just thought that fit somehow...

To be honest though she'll like you if:
a) you listen to her (you don't have to say much; she'll think you're a good listener)
b) you're not chicken to go out of your way, even just to say, "Hi!"
c) play it slow; you'll know the right time, believe me. (Warning: to some this may seem like a lifetime of waiting, but it'll be WORTH it, trust me on this one).
Best of luck!

Posted by Slylee on Jan-28-2002 07:03:

Re: A Little bit of advice?

quote:
Originally posted by Laun19

so how do i go about this, i know that you guys will have some kind of answer for me but thankx again for helping me through this shitty time in my life.

much thankx,
Johnny

quit thinking so much and be yourself...and a little confidence (but not TOO much) is always a turn on...for me at least...just dont over do it. and uhh,let's see what else? oh yea, i wouldn't just bust out and tell her all your feelings, might scare her off. just let things flow. feel her out first, what if she's a snob?? hehe dont wanna make a fool of yourself.

sly

Posted by Laun19 on Jan-28-2002 14:15:

thankx for the great advice you guys, i think that shit between me and jennifer is going better on saturday i went over to see her and give her the two CD's that i make her, i am introducing her to the greatness of trance the message must be spread. maybe if i try hard enough then we can get a trance radio station in louisville ok, back on the subject, for two hours we sat and talked and listened to the CD's that i had made her, it was just fun. and then tonight i am going to call her and just talk and get to know her better. once again, thankx this has been a big help and i will keep you guys posted in what happens.

Peace and Love,

Johnny

Posted by Rostros on Jan-29-2002 12:05:

I can give loads of advice and this is probably the best advice you can have, it�s all down to you.
As IM not sure on the situation I can�t really be precise. Ok she is a cheerleader so hey she must be good looking, good looking girls get attention of many lads, some girls want attention and some just want a normal guy , If this girl has a big image she might not want to spoil it buy going out with a person who she might loose this image. My advice is to get talking to her don�t go jumping on her yet save that for later, its always best to talk to her outer school / college or whatever, find out where she goes like clubs, always look your best, as if she sees you scruffy smelly she ain�t gonna suck you off. Get an image for your self.

Once you have said Hi etc , don�t talk too long unless she is liking it , 99% if she is in a bar she is gonna be with friends and girls like to stick together, say ill see you later give her that look in her eye like stair 100% into the black bit into her pupil and a slight smile , do this while your turning away to walk off, trust me she will remember it, if you see her later on try and dance behind her and let her stand on your foot by accident , now make your move tiger, dance behind her and do the dance close upto the arse and slowly move your hands onto her hip�s , now if she pulls away you have blown it , goto the bar and get a double. Play the game mate, pretend she is a board game, and roll the dice.

I had a crush on a girl for 4 years and I failed she is 18 and she is engaged with a 32 year old joiner , but you have to have a shot at it. If it doesn�t work out then fuck it there is loads cheerleaders out there .

Hope this advice helps