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-- need help with advice for a friend please!!
need help with advice for a friend please!!
hey guys
so this friend of mine is having some serious issues with her roommate and is looking for a solution asap...
her roommate is possibly the most irresponsible and laziest person anyone could ever meet, doesnt know how to help herself or take anything into her own hands...she lives like a slob, she is rude and just doesn't care about anything that goes on unless it's important to her.
My friend has a place to live this coming September, but is looking for a solution sooner but a couple problems arise...if she finds a new place, she can't break the lease on the new place she already has for september, and her current landlord just doesn't care at all about the situation.
Is there some kind of legal action she can take very soon? It is starting to effect her health both mentally and physically and its bringing her grades down as well because she cannot concentrate on anything much anymore...
any advice help is appreciated!
thanks!
if hygeine is a problem, ur friend should clean up the roomies mess and throw out a million valuable things of hers while at it with the excuse tahtshe was just cleaning up
(make sure ur friend doenst have any of her own valuables in sight that the roomie may decide to throw out to take revenge)
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| Originally posted by El Kay Dee if hygeine is a problem, ur friend should clean up the roomies mess and throw out a million valuable things of hers while at it with the excuse tahtshe was just cleaning up (make sure ur friend doenst have any of her own valuables in sight that the roomie may decide to throw out to take revenge) |
Legal action for a roommate that's a slob? Most likely not. Unless you call the Health Department, but that would have to be a pretty serious case of slobbiness (is that a word?).
Only 1 roommmate though? That sounds suspiciously like residence at uni or college. In situations like that you can take it to the housing authority on campus and they will deal with the problem roommate, issuing warnings and the like or just move your friend to a different room. There's only like 2 weeks of classes left anyways. Is the roommate going home for the summer? If so, problem solved.
If it's a private residence, I would recommend mentioning something to the landlord. I'm sure he/she would like to know what kind of shape someone else is keeping his/her house in.
buy a snake and take it a friend's house after a week without telling her.
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| Originally posted by Aaron Joseph wasnt quite the answer i was looking for, but expected from you |
Re: need help with advice for a friend please!!
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| Originally posted by Irishaddict Legal action for a roommate that's a slob? Most likely not. Unless you call the Health Department, but that would have to be a pretty serious case of slobbiness (is that a word?). Only 1 roommmate though? That sounds suspiciously like residence at uni or college. In situations like that you can take it to the housing authority on campus and they will deal with the problem roommate, issuing warnings and the like or just move your friend to a different room. There's only like 2 weeks of classes left anyways. Is the roommate going home for the summer? If so, problem solved. If it's a private residence, I would recommend mentioning something to the landlord. I'm sure he/she would like to know what kind of shape someone else is keeping his/her house in. |
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| Originally posted by Aaron Joseph and her current landlord just doesn't care at all about the situation. |
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| Originally posted by Aaron Joseph |
You can always you know, "mention" to him that this is a reasonable course of action if you know, he "doesn't care" about the situation.
Who is the official renter? Also is there an official sub-lease contract? If not, there will probably be little chance of resolving these issues before September.
If the roomie is just being a total slob, just throw all the crap she leaves around the house onto her bed. So if she leaves a pile of potato chips somewhere, dump them under her covers. She leaves bags around the house, dump them back on her bed. That usually does the trick, but if it doesn't you still had fun doing it
if she isnt on the lease at all she can leave whenever. If the places is rented as a whole unit she can sublet. If its rented by individual rooms with a seperate lease per room she can give 60 days notice and leave.
PS i bet most people dont realize that they are entitled by law to 6% per year interest on the deposit for first and last payable on the 12 month of every year?
usually works out to be $40 or so.
Your friend should move out. Bottom line I doubt she can legally do much unless her firend is dangerous to her physical well being.
Obviously this roommate has more issues than simple slobbiness. A beligerant attitude towards your friend trying to talk to her about it only proves immaturity.
The roommate obviously hasn't lived alone for too long and she needs to learn the hard way. She loses friends and makes her life so much more difficult by not respecting others. Hell her parents prolly kicked her out for the same reasons.
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| Originally posted by AwakenedAddict If the roomie is just being a total slob, just throw all the crap she leaves around the house onto her bed. So if she leaves a pile of potato chips somewhere, dump them under her covers. She leaves bags around the house, dump them back on her bed. That usually does the trick, but if it doesn't you still had fun doing it |
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| Originally posted by El Kay Dee or that too...lol PS. i would imagine u do this for christina all the time...lol (im so dead) |
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| Originally posted by El Kay Dee i would imagine u do this for christina all the time...lol |
I have also used the put it in the bed tatic. it works. things get crazy for a week or two then they usually give up and comply.
my other solution was to set up my punching bag in the garage and pound the crap out of it everytime the room mate pissed me off. with all of the banging everytime they fu'ked up they got the picture it was time to smarten up or become my new target shortly.
Along similar lines, every time I had to do her dishes I would slam the pot really hard against the counter and yell FU*K! she would come upstairs and ask what was wrong... I would point the dishes and leave.
oh also stink bombs rolled under her door when she had a guy over. first date she had had while living with us... he left. she cried. we felt bad. until we reminded ourselves of how we had put up with her shit for 8 months. (we were just going to wait it out but she said she liked us all for being so friendly that she was going to re-sign for the next year too... we couldn't have that, she was tearing us apart and making us fight with each other.)
From a psychological stand point the horrible room mate usually feels 'too at home' in the living situation which is why they feel that they can behave any way they choose. Because your friend no longer feels it is very homey to her she is likely trying to retreat to her private spaces when in the residence. This is the opposite of what they should do. You essentially want the situation reversed, so go to greater efforts to make the shitty roomate feel as though it is not her house. Make her feel unwelcomed and like she is an inconveince. Expand your belongings around the mutual space areas and try pushing her back into a smaller and smaller region of the house. Manners usually improve when we stay in other peoples houses... make it feel like she is a vistor and should tread litely.
Do unto others what they do to do...
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| Originally posted by EvilTree Do unto others what they do to do... |
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| Originally posted by DigitalMP buy a snake and take it a friend's house after a week without telling her. |
^^^u siiiiick fuck
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| Originally posted by VERTiG0 WE GOT SNAKES IN THIS MUTHAFUCKIN' HOUSE PS: Tell the good friend to give the bad friend a Hot Lunch, or, if said good friend is male, give the bad female friend the Arabian Goggles or, if they're feeling saucy, a Santa Cruz. |
piss on her pillow case.
and rub shit on her toothbrush.
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