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when you state you have a boyfriend or girlfriend after someone asks for your number and they say "but we can just be friends"...does this irritate you? when some peeople can't take no for an answer? it irritates the hell out of me. what are your opinions?

It irritates me when people can't take the hint that I obviously want nothing to do with them.
If I want to be their friend,if they get on with me and seem sound,I invite them to be my friend, if I don't want nething to do with them,I say that.

no it always gets me yippy! like because that means that new friend will buy me a few rounds, or carry my books to class, or brush my hair, or bring me an extra Strawberry fruit roll for lunch, or give me rides and always means i'll have extra pages full of popular notes in the back pages of my yearbook. DUH

Why would this bother you so much? What makes you assume that they wanted you in the first place? Maybe they really do want to be just friends.

What I wonder is why can't a girl be the one to initiate a friends with benefits situation?

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Originally posted by Theresa What I wonder is why can't a girl be the one to initiate a friends with benefits situation?

she sure can! A female friend of mine from high school initiated it with me

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Originally posted by Theresa Why would this bother you so much? What makes you assume that they wanted you in the first place? Maybe they really do want to be just friends.

because a guy who asks for your number doesn't want to be your friend, he wants to sleep with you hhehe he's just saying "let's be friends" in hope that you'll eventually break up with that boyfriend and move onto him...

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What I wonder is why can't a girl be the one to initiate a friends with benefits situation?

nothing. but the thing here is the boyfriend...

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Originally posted by Floorfiller because a guy who asks for your number doesn't want to be your friend, he wants to sleep with you hhehe he's just saying "let's be friends" in hope that you'll eventually break up with that boyfriend and move onto him... nothing. but the thing here is the boyfriend...

yes and yes

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Originally posted by Theresa Why would this bother you so much? What makes you assume that they wanted you in the first place? Maybe they really do want to be just friends. What I wonder is why can't a girl be the one to initiate a friends with benefits situation?

no... it's true

just an hour ago i was walking back to my dorm and some guy was like "what you doin' on the phone, come talk to me" and to basically sum it up he was flirting and when i declined because i had a boyfriend he was like "oh well we can be friends". so that would mean if i did date this guy, he would accept other girls as "friends"....he can't respect a relationship. i can't even count how many guys have asked me to be their "friends" after i declined their number. it's flattering but then it's jsut irritating when they keep pushing. don't get me wrong, i love having male friends but there's no need to overlook a basic sorry and a reason.

"let's be friends" usually means one of two things... "i'm not attracted to you" OR "let's keep in contact just in case one of us dumps our significant other and we're lonely"

think about it, if you really wanted to be friends with someone you wouldn't even need to use that line.

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Originally posted by Estella no it always gets me yippy! like because that means that new friend will buy me a few rounds, or carry my books to class, or brush my hair, or bring me an extra Strawberry fruit roll for lunch, or give me rides and always means i'll have extra pages full of popular notes in the back pages of my yearbook. DUH

you better offer someone a salary to do that shit for you girl.

Re: we can just be friends

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Originally posted by AndreaCKY772 when you state you have a boyfriend or girlfriend after someone asks for your number and they say "but we can just be friends"...does this irritate you? when some peeople can't take no for an answer? it irritates the hell out of me. what are your opinions?

i dont run into that problem. generally when i can see something similar to that on its way i end up being overly blunt and tell them straight up that i dont like them at all and they should stop talking to me.

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Originally posted by Slylee you better offer someone a salary to do that shit for you girl.

Props!

damnit

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Originally posted by D-res i dont run into that problem. generally when i can see something similar to that on its way i end up being overly blunt and tell them straight up that i dont like them at all and they should stop talking to me.

haha but suppose they ask "well why did you come up to me in the first place?" what will you say??

girls with boyfriends must avoid me.
once contact has been initiated, its all downhill from there.

that's what happens when you chics play head games all the time. us guys get to thinking no means maybe and we just have to work you down more. besides when you get shot down, what's the harm when you have nothing to lose? hey, it's happened enough to me and my friends to know it works! no, no, no, no, ok... boink! and to probably half the girls out there, bfs/committments don't mean anything when they aren't around. in the end what seperates the assholes from the players is tact... how well you can push the issue without coming off as annoying

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Originally posted by Theresa What I wonder is why can't a girl be the one to initiate a friends with benefits situation?

are you suggesting something?

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