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Going to Clubs alone.....

First of all I just wanted to say that I just turned 19 and I'm now allowed to see some of my fav DJ's spin. But really sad to say, out of all my friends I'm pretty much the only one who listens to EDM or trance music.

I always never have anyone to go with or sometimes I shy away from going to events because I always though it would be rather weird or awkward going alone. I've actually backed out from going to a couple of events because of this, recently Armin at Plush. I would love to see PVD in May but I'm debating whether or not I should go. I asked a few friends but they don't want to drop 60 bucks on a show that they know nothing off. I actually gave a PVD set to a friend and told him to give it a listen. Told him if he liked it, the guys coming in May and we could go together, unfortunately his not really into that stuff.

I'm actually really shy and I'm not a crazy guy. I don't drink or smoke or do drugs. I'm not there to pick girls up, just want to listen to my favoirte DJ's spin for 2 to 3 hours. I mostly there for the music. I'd probably be just standing there throwing my head from side to side and tapping my foot on the floor. Not one of those guys would jump up and down like a monkey with his arms in air.

Just wanted to know your options on this, Would it be awkward to go to an event alone. How do you guys usually go down to big events, with friend, etc...

Love to see either Tiesto or PVD this summer.

A classic TA moment.

Dude, you just go! .. get a pair of balls and a personallity
and come on out and greet the people.

I moved here a year ago and knew noone as well so I know
how it can be .. Van's a snobby town, but .. whatever
keep rockin' at it and you'll find your crowd.

going alone ain't that bad. I've going a number of time to see DJs by myself.. its actually pretty nice, and you don't really talk to anyone that much at a trance event anyway. You could also meet some TA's there, like start a PVD roll call or something and meet someone there.

Recently though, whenever I decide to go to an event regardless of the fact that I may be alone, my friends realize that it is an event worth going to (or they feel sorry for me haha). Either way, it work out well.

You also have to start drinking. heavily.

hey know the exact feeling. Last year i convinced a few friends to see ferry corsten out at plush, they backed out at the last minute literally the night of and I sold the tickets just before the event. Luckily I went bymyself and was watching from the back enjoying myself until he threw on his mix of force of gravity. I was on the dancefloor till the end of the actual adaigo for strings. No more than a few drinks in me either. what a night and you do meet a lot of TA's. Here in toronto a lot of the TA's go out to the clubs bythemselves knowing there will be other ta's present. ask around, people in the TA community knows how to have a good time and by the looks of it, Van will be very busy the next couple of months. wish i was there.

Going alone can be nice. I don't spend a lot of time talking/hanging out with my friends most shows anyways so its no difference for me! There are always lots of friendly people you can talk to if you want too.. and heck I bet you most people won't even notice you are alone!

i usually go out with a group of friends to catch a big dj
but i've gone to shows solo
both are amazing experiences

i never do things alone. so boring. i always get at least someone to tag along.
thats just me thou.

i used to do it all the time... especially at guvernment...once your in . u meet SOO many ppl it doesnt matter who u came with .

My first club show was seb fontaine in 2001. I went alone. I got in to trance in 1999 and people thought i was nuts. At first I went to every show alone, but eventually i met some people. In 2003 i got rid of most of my friends who werent into trance and now most of my friends are. It was a choice i made. Britney the douche, justin timber douche, dr douche i couldnt stand it any longer. If you wait too long to do things that you like or to meet people who like what you like you could wait a quite while just like i did, and never be successful. Go to events, meet people who are there because they also like the music. Wow, you have something in common.

Hey, i think a lot of us have been in the same boat when moving to a new city. I travelled the country many times... and lived in many different places. And wherever i went, i never knew a soul. And each city or town i have left... i have incredible memories with incredible people.

althougth it is a different story if u are shy. The secret then is to let the people come to you... they will. I mean, dont stand there with ur arm cross (really negative feeling). Like here in winnipeg, when i went to my first event in this city, i was by myself. I went in, when people looked at me and smiled, i smiled back. Then i started dancing... and dancing... and closed my eyes and smiled because the music was awesome... let the flow take over me... (and i was sober). Then i would open my eyes.... and there would be people looking at me... and smiling. And they would come up to me and be like: dude, u are a so into it... u drop? And i would be like: nope. And they would be like: wow... man u can really feel it.... and then i start talking with them.

Then i started talking with promoters and producers. Coz i like to help at events... and when u do u get in for free. But i just like to help... so i did some security and setup and un-setup... and i met more people... and more... and more...

And here i am today.... still raving my ass off... havent been in winnipeg for a full year yet (10 months actually). Even today i still walk into an afterhour or rave by myself (coz i never can stay with the same person for 8 hours or have a puppy follow me). And when i go in, i know a shitload of people.

And you know what... even if i know a shitload of people i still do the samething... i go on the dance floor...close my eyes... let the flow take over me... and smile...and dance... and still open my eyes and smile back at people... and talk...

Sorry... i got caught in the flow... im smiling to write this. And im about to go see infected mushroom.

Sorry for the long post... but i am happy... and that is the way to be.

I think doing things alone is empowering and you'll find if you go alone, you'll meet people and probably end up making friends you'll go to parties with in the future. Perhaps one of the key things is to talk to people if you are alone. Try not to be shy and chat it up with the other people standing at the back of the room...chances are a few are in the same situation you are in.

posting on TA in a local forum was a good step in the direction of meeting people

dude i feel the same, i personally cant stand going alone, i tried to for 2 years, now i go only if my friends go. otherwise its worthless


thats just me

P.S: i am moving to vancouver this week for good , so i can tag along!

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Originally posted by mylespower posting on TA in a local forum was a good step in the direction of meeting people

what he said


im a chick, so it was a concern for me to go to parties alone, at first. i met some people on TA, went out alone, met them, and now even though i technically go out alone, im never alone at parties cause there's lots of people that i know

you just gotta make that first step. say hi to us, and you'll be good for life

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Originally posted by apri_peel you just gotta make that first step. say hi to us, and you'll be good for life

What she said

Meet normal people

oh but are any of us really normal??

Hey elena - when am i gonna SEE you again?!
(hey we could be considered TA friends orignally! See it works!:P)

hey i feel you nsamadi... im on the exact situation as you are... none of my friends like trance (and im pretty sure they wont go to this type of event) i dont really want to go to clubs all alone then feeling awkward and weird all night especially that i dont go to clubs very often...

im 20 and never been to any trance event so ive missed out on a lot and i really want to see tiesto and pvd next month!

Re: Going to Clubs alone.....

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Originally posted by nsamadi Just wanted to know your options on this, Would it be awkward to go to an event alone. How do you guys usually go down to big events, with friend, etc...

i usually go with the gf to a club or party. when i was single, i would go to events with a handful of friends. but i would NEVER not attend a show if nobody wanted to go with me. its not like you and your buddys are going to make a circle on the dance floor and dance like a bunch of meatheads to radio rap... Then again, winnipeg isnt a very big city, and everywhere i go i always know a ton of people. then again, i'm just so damn cool. but aside from all that, i would definately say going to events alone is fine. ive done it a few times. you dont have to worry about losing your friends, or having to drive them home at the end of the night, or them leaving thier shit in your car...ect ect.

same situation! i never have a friend to go with me in the trance event, i just come to vanc 3 years ago and barely speak english but
yeah most of my friends dont know anything about electronic music, although i have some buddies to go with me in house music event.. but yeah its cool if u have buddies with u so u guys can share the taxi bill, so far it always cost me minimum 60$ to go to the rave alone (excluding the ticket)

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Originally posted by JVP oh but are any of us really normal?? Hey elena - when am i gonna SEE you again?! (hey we could be considered TA friends orignally! See it works!:P)

holy shit, julsie!! where have you been? dont see you at the gym anymore

oh and yes yes, julie and i met through TA

just dive into the community, i know it can be difficult to do, especially when it seems like everyone already knows each other, but once you do it, its a lot easier from then on

guys, stop being afraid of being 'alone'
sure you'll feel awkward if you just stand all by yourself in a corner. you have to make an effort in order to meet likeminded people, things aren't that easy in life, you gotta work for them

My first time to see Armin @ the Roxy, NYC back in '04 and brought a friend with me. We left before Remy finished his opening set cuz my friend wasn't "feeling" the vibe. From then on out, I go solo. If someone is coming with me, I let them know in advance I'm there until the end. So be prepared to take a taxi home if you want to leave early

Well, first of all I just want to apologize for not writing back to my post in a long time, I've been kind of busy lately.

Just wanted to say thanks for anyone who wrote in, and I guess overall I need to get out onto the scene to meet the people who share the same interests in music.

So far I got PVD at Plush on the 14th set up. I'm going to see him and I'm so excited Hopefully I'll get to meet some really cool TA's there. See you guys there.

if i come out, i'll make sure to buy you a drink to make you feel a little more at ease around TAs

Elena,

I stand alone in the corner all awkward and judgmental and I feel great! I guess it's all due to that jager and/or tanq in one hand.

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