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Posted by ColorDancer on Apr-15-2006 10:30:

Is an Omission a betrayal?

Is not telling your significant other something the same as lying?

Posted by jonSun on Apr-15-2006 11:03:

NOPE

Posted by D-res on Apr-15-2006 11:11:

yes

Posted by edson on Apr-15-2006 11:12:

No, especially if you are sparing their feelings,,or your reasons for doing so are genuine. Or if it gets you out of a tight spot !!

Posted by D-res on Apr-15-2006 11:15:

complete honesty is the only way to go. just conveniently leaving things out can be very hurtful and completely kill your relationship

Posted by butterfly on Apr-15-2006 11:19:

Re: Is an Omission a betrayal?

quote:
Originally posted by ColorDancer
Is not telling your significant other something the same as lying?

no but it could be a betrayal depending what it is.

Posted by D-res on Apr-15-2006 11:24:

Re: Re: Is an Omission a betrayal?

quote:
Originally posted by butterfly
no but it could be a betrayal depending what it is.

it probably would be considering this person is asking

Posted by jonSun on Apr-15-2006 11:35:

quote:
Originally posted by D-res
yes

NOPE

Posted by trewqy on Apr-15-2006 12:02:

wtf is this? 5th grade?

Just dont tell her if you'd think she get mad!!

Posted by edson on Apr-15-2006 14:42:

Just dont tell her if you'd think she get mad!! [/QUOTE]
Tell it like it is brother. In fact its safer to tell 'em fech- all.

Posted by Pjotr G on Apr-15-2006 15:00:

you know whether or not it is.

Posted by Coup on Apr-15-2006 15:23:

it's not lying but its not being honest. If ur other said "have u slept with her" and u said no, that's lying. If she never asks, and u dont tell her, you're just not being honest.

Posted by Mr. Pink on Apr-15-2006 16:06:

The answer to this is easy.

Easy enough for you to never make a thread about this again.

Posted by Arbiter on Apr-15-2006 16:36:

If you know the proper definitions of all the words you wrote, then you should already know the answer. There isn't much to discuss.

Posted by Orbax on Apr-15-2006 16:43:

The only reason omission is painful is when you are omitting something hurtful you did.

For instance. The other day my GF wanted to stop by on her way out. for 15 minutes and then she was gone. Hadnt seen eachother in a day or so and it would have been nice.

I say Im going to be gone and it wont work.

I tell my other friend im going to gym for a bit and ill talk to him later.

She asks him where I am

he says the gym

her thought "he chose the gym over me...wow."

what actually happened is I stopped by the gym and then had to go see my uncle and give him his dog back that wed been keeping for a month and he was going to be here for 1 hour. The hour encompassed her 15 minute window.

Should I have told her all that?

No, its time consuming and a pain in the ass. Its a trust issue. If someone says "I cant, Ill be busy" if you ask "Doing what" for ANY other reason than PURE curiosity you are not only distrusting them but not respecting their ability to make good decisions. and you know, sometimes people need to be alone. So respect that as well and dont press it.

If its a constant game of hide and seek with your significant other...I cant imagine being in a relationship like that. How miserable.

Posted by igottaknow on Apr-15-2006 17:03:

the correct answer is...

yes but no

Posted by Nrg2Nfinit on Apr-15-2006 19:29:

quote:
Originally posted by igottaknow
the correct answer is...

yes but no

no its not lying if you dont say it

its simple algebra

Posted by kadomony on Apr-15-2006 19:57:

colordancer is a girl n00bs.

HI HEATHER

Posted by BTG on Apr-15-2006 20:00:

quote:
Originally posted by D-res
complete honesty is the only way to go. just conveniently leaving things out can be very hurtful and completely kill your relationship

you are a damn fool.

Posted by Orbital32 on Apr-15-2006 20:00:

If you forget to tell her, then it's not or fault. I'm sure being a busy person things can be easy to forget.

Posted by Zombie0729 on Apr-15-2006 20:03:

you'll be thankful i showed you this...

http://www..net/The_Ways_We_Lie.pdf

i had to write a 8 page mini-thesis on this article, it should answer all your quesitons

Posted by SomewhatDamaged on Apr-15-2006 20:11:

Yes of course it is!! I hate when I ask my guy what he did over the weekend or during the day and he says oh I went out to lunch with a friend and thats it. And then I find out later he did more than go out to lunch. It's exactly like lying.

Posted by Yan on Apr-15-2006 20:13:

If it has no real relevance to anything relating to your significant other than it's not lying.

Posted by kadomony on Apr-15-2006 20:14:

quote:
Originally posted by SomewhatDamaged
Yes of course it is!! I hate when I ask my guy what he did over the weekend or during the day and he says oh I went out to lunch with a friend and thats it. And then I find out later he did more than go out to lunch. It's exactly like lying.

i think she means like not saying anything at all.
like having a secret and not saying it whatsoever.

Posted by Nrg2Nfinit on Apr-15-2006 20:17:

quote:
Originally posted by Orbax
The only reason omission is painful is when you are omitting something hurtful you did.

For instance. The other day my GF wanted to stop by on her way out. for 15 minutes and then she was gone. Hadnt seen eachother in a day or so and it would have been nice.

I say Im going to be gone and it wont work.

I tell my other friend im going to gym for a bit and ill talk to him later.

She asks him where I am

he says the gym

her thought "he chose the gym over me...wow."

what actually happened is ...

I chose the gym over her..

lol

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