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so tonite one of my friend invited me and some friends to a house party the fact is that my friends and myself realized we so didn't want to go over tonite and spend the whole nite and sleep over there .
my friend who organizes the party is living in a shithole in the countryside and well better to be honest we spent the whole nite with our friend and her guys's friends and we so didn't appreciate them and almost didn't talk to them at all so .....my point is should i call my friend to tell her that i would prefer we do something in town like bars clubbing and so on or should we go to the house party because it's after all our friend but at like 10 pm or something just say we have to go and go party on our own ?

or ....make up a lame excuse and just say we all can't go ?

advices needed please!

Don't make up lame excuses...be upfront with your friend.

ya dont pull excuses, my buddy and his GF pull that crap all the time, like if they come over, they leave at 6:30 because "they worked all day and are tired and want to go to bed" i work 12 hour days, and still have enough energy to go partying after.

just be honest...... not brutally honest tho.... telling your friend that you think their house is an absolute shite hole wont help you at all, but just point out that you dont feel like going all the way to the country

well the fact is yesterday she was telling in front of her friends "aww so happy that my best friend is comming tomorrow i love you marie !!" so well now what can i do?
be honest but im scared to be i don't want to be mean !

i don't want to make efforts!

well if you want my honest opinion. just suck it up and go spend some time with your friend. if she is a good friend, you owe her that. i have some old friends taht arent ont he same page as i am anymore (they went off the deep end) but i still make time to hang out as they are my friends and would still bend over back wards for me if i needed them.

In the end youll feel better about the whole stiutation. besides, last time i checked, the weeekend was more than one night. go out and party one of the nights, go see your friend the next!

Are you needing to reavaluate your friendship with this person or you just don't want to go there ( now or ever as a matter of fact ) ?
You made plans and pulling out isn't cool. Whenever people do it to me it pisses me off ( but usuallly they tell me when it's too late ).
Having acquaintances is easy but having long term friends takes some work on both parts to stay alive. Be honest the earliest!

lie but make it good

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Originally posted by jdat Are you needing to reavaluate your friendship with this person or you just don't want to go there ( now or ever as a matter of fact ) ? You made plans and pulling out isn't cool. Whenever people do it to me it pisses me off ( but usuallly they tell me when it's too late ). Having acquaintances is easy but having long term friends takes some work on both parts to stay alive. Be honest the earliest!

im a loyal friend but well i just can't stand the friends of her bf so boring and stupid .Add the fact these guys are real playa thinking they are so cool because they are in the police and trying to show off
one of them the last time i went to a party with these guys spent his whole nite hitting on me while i was drunk half sleeping and at the end i felt like slapping this guy so well u understand why i don't want to go AT ALL !

so anyway im off gotta bring back home a friend so i need to think about it

i didnt have time to read tru your girl babble but this link might help with your excuse question.

http://www.askaninja.com/tags/question-22

they are all cops eh?


show up sporting a NWA "Fuck Da Police" tshirt. bring an appetizer like pigs in a blanket, or baccon wrapped scallops.... make oinking noises all night, and only call the friends of the BF by the name 50, Narc and Po-Po all night.

This will A- make for a funny story on TA tommrow, B- they wont hit on you, well maybe not anyways

piggys

if you make up and excuse and hit the clubs instead, chances are you'll feel guilty, or else you wouldn't even be asking this question right ?
so .... make an excuse ( say you're not up for it tonight or somehting)
and get drunk at home.

I am not saying I could handle such a situation any better or easier but do you realize how cowardly and dishonest some of you are?
Wouldn't really be interested in being real life friends with you lot!

Re: in need of advices

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Originally posted by CranberryJuice so tonite one of my friend invited me and some friends to a house party the fact is that my friends and myself realized we so didn't want to go over tonite and spend the whole nite and sleep over there . my friend who organizes the party is living in a shithole in the countryside and well better to be honest we spent the whole nite with our friend and her guys's friends and we so didn't appreciate them and almost didn't talk to them at all so .....my point is should i call my friend to tell her that i would prefer we do something in town like bars clubbing and so on or should we go to the house party because it's after all our friend but at like 10 pm or something just say we have to go and go party on our own ? or ....make up a lame excuse and just say we all can't go ? advices needed please!

dont be so deceiving

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Originally posted by colonelcrisp they are all cops eh? show up sporting a NWA "Fuck Da Police" tshirt. bring an appetizer like pigs in a blanket, or baccon wrapped scallops.... make oinking noises all night, and only call the friends of the BF by the name 50, Narc and Po-Po all night. This will A- make for a funny story on TA tommrow, B- they wont hit on you, well maybe not anyways

CLASSIC!

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Originally posted by CranberryJuice so tonite one of my friend invited me and some friends to a house party the fact is that my friends and myself realized we so didn't want to go over tonite and spend the whole nite and sleep over there . my friend who organizes the party is living in a shithole in the countryside and well better to be honest we spent the whole nite with our friend and her guys's friends and we so didn't appreciate them and almost didn't talk to them at all so .....my point is should i call my friend to tell her that i would prefer we do something in town like bars clubbing and so on or should we go to the house party because it's after all our friend but at like 10 pm or something just say we have to go and go party on our own ? or ....make up a lame excuse and just say we all can't go ? advices needed please!

is jason going ? if not you should probably do something wiht him

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Originally posted by jdat I am not saying I could handle such a situation any better or easier but do you realize how cowardly and dishonest some of you are? Wouldn't really be interested in being real life friends with you lot!

EMO ALERT!

In need of engrish lessons.

no we are going ....our friend is more important that some stupid people
and john well it's not because i was thinking about not going that im not a good friend because finally u see im going !

we still can go clubbing like tomorrow nite so it's not a big deal

Re: in need of advices

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Originally posted by CranberryJuice so tonite one of my friend invited me and some friends to a house party the fact is that my friends and myself realized we so didn't want to go over tonite and spend the whole nite and sleep over there . my friend who organizes the party is living in a shithole in the countryside and well better to be honest we spent the whole nite with our friend and her guys's friends and we so didn't appreciate them and almost didn't talk to them at all so .....my point is should i call my friend to tell her that i would prefer we do something in town like bars clubbing and so on or should we go to the house party because it's after all our friend but at like 10 pm or something just say we have to go and go party on our own ? or ....make up a lame excuse and just say we all can't go ? advices needed please!

USE FUCKING PERIODS.

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Originally posted by CranberryJuice no we are going ....our friend is more important that some stupid people and john well it's not because i was thinking about not going that im not a good friend because finally u see im going ! we still can go clubbing like tomorrow nite so it's not a big deal

Translation:

No, we are going. Our friend is more important than some stupid people.

John, it's not because I was thinking about not going, that made me think I was not a good friend, but because you will finally see that I'm going.

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Originally posted by eXo Translation: John, it's not because I was thinking about not going, that made me think I was not a good friend, but because you will finally see that I'm going.

LOL, That still makes no sense after translation.

What a bloody butchering.

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Originally posted by Ygrene Don't make up lame excuses...be upfront with your friend.

Ya, just be upfront & honest. Honesty is always the best way.

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Originally posted by jonSun Ya, just be upfront & honest. Honesty is always the best way.

thats so bull shit. you lie every day

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Originally posted by eXo LOL, That still makes no sense after translation. What a bloody butchering.

welcome to the internet... not everyone's first language is English.


Marie - i think you should just be honest with your friends. they deserve to be treated fairly and with respect, and that means being honest to them about how you feel. i don't know if it's the same way in France, but in America there are sooo many groups of girls who are "friends," yet they lie to each other, talk behind each other's backs, and just act like catty bitches. you'll feel a lot better if you're just honest with them, rather than lying to save their feelings.

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