how hard are long distance relationships??

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Posted by hiram on Sep-12-2006 17:49:

how hard are long distance relationships??

anyone in here had any experience on the matter? i dont think i know what i may be getting myself into. at least i know itll be crazy sex once we see eachother after months apart=)

Posted by StanVoid on Sep-12-2006 17:52:

depends on how long u been together, how long it will be before you can see each other again, how often you'll visit, etc etc

but usually there's a high chance of relationship damage and most likely a complete ending.

Posted by THE_Chris on Sep-12-2006 17:52:

I predict a 5 page thread.

I havent been in one, I cant imagine they'd be easy, but heres what I read and will live by "If you like each other, then make it work, circumstances be damned".

Posted by Ivand on Sep-12-2006 17:53:

usually you masturbate a lot

Posted by bas on Sep-12-2006 17:54:

It sucks and the probably of cheating is relatively high.

Posted by Nrg2Nfinit on Sep-12-2006 17:55:

Re: how hard are long distance relationships??

quote:
Originally posted by hiram
anyone in here had any experience on the matter? i dont think i know what i may be getting myself into. at least i know itll be crazy sex once we see eachother after months apart=)

i decided to go on break with my girlfriend for 4 months cause long distance meant that we wouldnt see eachother for that long.

i fell in love with another girl and my gf (ex gf now), she interogated me so much when i got back and i realized the relationship would not have worked out

so we broke up it was mutual.

my advice long distance will only work if you really love the person your in a relationship with.

Posted by stan229 on Sep-12-2006 17:55:

im in one right now
its hard, but do-able
after going out for over 2yrs its' possible.. and i usualyl ocme back once/twice a month at least.. its not THAT FAR... only 200mi

Posted by Tigo on Sep-12-2006 17:55:

About as hard as my penis!

Posted by DarkAngel on Sep-12-2006 17:56:

Requires extreme amounts of patience, dedication and other attributes of that class. Good luck.

Posted by Ivand on Sep-12-2006 17:57:

quote:
Originally posted by DarkAngel
Requires extreme amounts of patience, dedication and other attributes of that class. Good luck.

I'd say it requires more patience than love

Posted by psiico111 on Sep-12-2006 17:57:

Good luck, you'll need it. It all boils down to trust. You can be as faithfull as you like but if your partner doesn't trust you, it's over. Same goes the other way. Then, if you pass the trust test there's the faithfull test. After that comes the drunk and horny test. The odds are against you.

Posted by david.michael on Sep-12-2006 17:59:

Mine ended in disaster; that's all I'll say about that.

Posted by hiram on Sep-12-2006 17:59:

lol i wish it was 200 miles, shes in FSU and im in Miami, 500 miles.. i went labor day weekend and it was one hell of a drive.. so i cant imagine ill be going once a month. she really wants to try to make it work but im not sure i want a g/f so far away. its a new relationship by the way. we started dating about 5 months before she left. its mostly her wanting to get into a relationship. ive also got my ex begging for me back here at home, but i dont wanna get back into that shit. 5 years and she treated me like shit, i was tempted at first tho

Posted by DigitalPhoenix on Sep-12-2006 17:59:

sorry but...

one night...late at night...while you're getting head from a fine chick..

she'll be gettin' pounded doggystyle by a nearby college guy...

meh,... that's life...

Posted by hiram on Sep-12-2006 18:02:

quote:
Originally posted by THE_Chris
I predict a 5 page thread.

I havent been in one, I cant imagine they'd be easy, but heres what I read and will live by "If you like each other, then make it work, circumstances be damned".

lol i think 5 pages is much too little, i knew this would be a long thread and id get all the opinions i needed from this post

Posted by DarkAngel on Sep-12-2006 18:04:

Re: sorry but...

quote:
Originally posted by DigitalPhoenix
one night...late at night...while you're getting head from a fine chick..

she'll be gettin' pounded doggystyle by a nearby college guy...

meh,... that's life...

Sad but true.

Posted by Nrg2Nfinit on Sep-12-2006 18:04:

Posted by jdat on Sep-12-2006 18:14:

If the relationship starts off by already being long distance from day one I would say the probabilities of it being doomed are extremely high.

As the cohabition, the everyday feeling of love with near proximity to the other and relative ease of building the relationship are all not there when you start off long distance it makes it near impossible or it takes some form of supernatural efforts for it to work.

If the relationship is existent and the two must part there is already a basis to the link between the two people which facilities the upkeep of the relationship even if such a situation isn't particurlaly easier ( perhaps actually harder ) from an emotional point of view.

C0r version:
Start off the relationship being long distance = no no
Go from a regular relationship to it becoming long distance = bigger probability of working.

Posted by Akridrot on Sep-12-2006 18:14:

You can always pretend that nothing happened while you were separated, but you will never know for sure.

How many people would turn down an opportunity to cheat on their partner if there was absolutely no way of getting caught?

Posted by l�cid on Sep-12-2006 18:27:

quote:
Originally posted by hiram
lol i wish it was 200 miles, shes in FSU and im in Miami, 500 miles.. i went labor day weekend and it was one hell of a drive.. so i cant imagine ill be going once a month. she really wants to try to make it work but im not sure i want a g/f so far away. its a new relationship by the way. we started dating about 5 months before she left. its mostly her wanting to get into a relationship. ive also got my ex begging for me back here at home, but i dont wanna get back into that shit. 5 years and she treated me like shit, i was tempted at first tho

if you're unsure about it, it's probably not a good idea.

in my experience, long distance relationships only work if you're both extremely committed to each other and to making the relationship work. you need to establish very strong bonds when it comes to trust, communication, etc...

they're a hell of a lot harder if you live very far apart and can only see each other once a month or less. i'm in a long distance relationship but we're only 150 miles apart so we get to see each other every single weekend, and even sometimes on days during the week as well. when you're dealing with further distances though, most young people don't have the dedication to staying true to someone they only see once a month or less, especially if they're away at college and making other friends and partying.

the fact that you even mention your ex tells me your heart isn't in it with the new girl 100%. she honestly shouldn't even matter one bit when it comes to deciding how you're going to deal with your current situation.

i wish you luck, regardless of what you decide... it'll be hard to say goodbye but maybe the best thing you can do for each other is just to end things for now and try to stay as friends for a while.

Posted by MeLLyMeL on Sep-12-2006 19:26:

Posted by hiram on Sep-12-2006 19:33:

quote:
Originally posted by MeLLyMeL
wtf.

that's pussy shit.

my bf and i are 3 hours away by plane. Only been dating since April but we have seen each other a total of 4 times

i wish we were atleast in the same state. it sucks but it's good cuz i'm not the best gf out there so gf duties are limited to once a month or once every other month

its either drive to tally for 8 hrs and spend maybe 40 on gas or fly and pay i dunno how much for the ticket.. im pretty sure driving is cheaper.. plus it gets my mind off things while i drive..120 on the turnpike requires concentration

Posted by Marc Summers on Sep-12-2006 19:35:

quote:
Originally posted by hiram
its either drive to tally for 8 hrs and spend maybe 40 on gas or fly and pay i dunno how much for the ticket.. im pretty sure driving is cheaper.. plus it gets my mind off things while i drive..120 on the turnpike requires concentration

how about a train?

Posted by all-nite-freak on Sep-12-2006 19:38:

it wont work if you only see each other 1 a month.
From experience, a relationship involving distance works only as much as those involved do to keep it good.

cor answer:fuck off and buy a cock pump

Posted by jonSun on Sep-12-2006 19:39:

wtf this shit is nuts. The farthest i ever lived from a gf was 1/2 hour drive & i thought that was nutty.

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