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I am curious... is it healthy for a couple NOT to argue or fight?

Is it normal for two people to never yell at each other, to never get really angry?

They can still have disagreements, but they talk them out and it's usually let go pretty much immediately, but there is never someone yelling, never an angry outburst...

Is that a good thing?

Re: Relationship thread # 5 billion

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Originally posted by Theresa I am curious... is it healthy for a couple NOT to argue or fight? Is it normal for two people to never yell at each other, to never get really angry? They can still have disagreements, but they talk them out and it's usually let go pretty much immediately, but there is never someone yelling, never an angry outburst... Is that a good thing?

i dont see anything wrong as long as the problems are being worked out.;

STFU and make me a turkey pot pie!

Me and G don't argue properly.

Basically I get in a strop and he puts up with me.

that's kind of a silly question. what's healthy for one relationship might not be so healthy for the next. it all depends on the way you and your partner communicate.

some couples are really good at fighting (not to say that's a bad thing - i think it's healthy to have a good argument every once in a while as long as you're not crossing lines or being an utter douche). other couples are really good at solving their problems/issues in a laid-back and mature manner.

as long as you feel your relationship is "healthy" then i don't think it really matters.

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Originally posted by l�cid as long as you feel your relationship is "healthy" then i don't think it really matters.

Bingo. My parents have never fought and they couldn't be happier. On the other hand, my grandparents from both sides of my family argue often and they've been together for 40-50 years.

Oh lord another thread.

You're almost as bad as EFeKz
Exactly what Myra said was what I thought when I was reading the title.

For a lot of couple arguing is their way of learning about one another, finding out what crawls beneath your skin, what ticks you off, what pleases you ,what to and not to say. I don't think that arguing is immature at all, it's a way of dealing. For the couples that don't argue at all ( which I find nearly impossible ) kudos to them. It takes a lot not to argue and if they can do that, cool. I so, however, think more things are solved verbally rather than not. Arguing doesn't necessarily mean hurtful nasty things are said, there are different levels that arguing can take place.

meh
my gf tells me that we're in a fight (lamest thing ever btw, and yes i know you're reading this liz) every couple days, but i mean who the hell cares? never over anything big, and never anything we couldn't work out very easily
arguments aren't always a bad thing
i live with my sister, and honestly we've never been in a fight, let alone a heated argument besides over music taste and such .

however, my best friend and i get into arguments every 10 minutes, and ones where it ends by him yelling at me at the top of his lungs and me sitting there laughing at him, and then 2 minutes later neither of us care

both situations work fine in the long run. so yeah, what lucid says. as long as you're both fine with the way you deal with differences of opinions, s'all cool

dump him theresa

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Originally posted by stren dump him theresa

LOL!!

I you Bart.

Mrs. Hazard and I have been together nearly 6 years now, no fights. No real arguments either. In our case we're just very good at finding compromise and finding it quickly. In cases were no compromise can be reached we're usually very good at recognizing that the issue at hand will mean more to one of us then the other and we will defer to which ever of us it means more to. We've never really found an issue to lock horns over... either we agree, find middle ground or one of us really just doesn't care enough to dig in our heels.

Personally, I dont think its a big deal... eventually youll find stuff to bitch about, I think it totally depends on the people... confrontational people are more likely to fight and argue, obviously the opposite for the latter.

What Vlad said... it all depends on their characters. Like a month ago, my ex and I went out with another couple, it was like the most fascinating thing I've ever seen, they completely understood eachother, it was just lovely seeing them together, not like those sticky couples you just wish they died, no this was different... And he told me they've been together for 2 years now, not one single fight, why? they're both very laid back and rarely give a shit about anything. And they have already been living together for almost a year too.

I guess when you find that special someone who you really connect with in a whole different level it is expected to rarely fight over anything.

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pinga

I don't know to what this thread should be attributed to but I find the concern to be somewhat lame.


If you had too many fights with him you'd complain about it but no it's the opposite and you are still confused as to your couple.

what are you dating, a door mat? do yourself a favor get a bad boy with balls. You might fight but the wild sex will be more than worth it.

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Originally posted by igottaknow what are you dating, a door mat?

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Originally posted by igottaknow what are you dating, a door mat? do yourself a favor get a bad boy with balls. You might fight but the wild sex will be more than worth it.

ha! I lol'd hard!

lose the zero, get with a level 70 WoW player

my gf and i almost never get in fights. to be honest we're too busy to let stupid things get in our way. we're both very motivated people and deal with rejection on a daily basis so if we're not supportive of each other we pretty much disregard the need for each other.

make sense? in sales if you get rejected you either barrel through it by talking it out or you move on to a better client. *for us* same rule applies, we're not dependent on each other but if we at anytime don't enjoy something the other is doing we confront each other, see if we're willing to compromise and move on. usually it involves trying to schd more time together since we're swamped.

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Originally posted by igottaknow what are you dating, a door mat? do yourself a favor get a bad boy with balls. You might fight but the wild sex will be more than worth it.

Hate fuck ftw!

my thing is that i always have to be right and if im not i get fukkin right mad...in that it has cost me so many potentially good relationships with great people.just recently, maybe a week or so ago, another one ended cause i just cant calm the fuck down. i regret it yes, regret it alot actually cause the other party doesnt want to have anything to do with me, it fukkin kills me knowing this.
if its a dispute that is worthwile that has a positive outcome then voice raising yelling standing ground is fine cause its in the right context...if its one of those pointless fukkin travelling around in circles fukkin things that just gets out of hand then thats the problem one...now if you can sit and chill and work it out like the English some 100+ yrs ago over tea, that is the shit right there.there are times when i watch the couple i live with fukkin tear eachother a new one sometimes it goes for dayz and i just want to kill both of them,other times they are calmly talking about whatever the fukk is the issue...i really dont know what im saying anymore so im gonna stop b4 my brain actually starts working again...but like others have already said its more or less based on the parties that are involved, if both are laxy day then things are savvy, you got two competitors then it could get nasty, got opposites...well, who knows then cause anything is possible.
Enjoi

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Originally posted by DJM104D my thing is that i always have to be right and if im not i get fukkin right mad...in that it has cost me so many potentially good relationships with great people.just recently, maybe a week or so ago, another one ended cause i just cant calm the fuck down. i regret it yes, regret it alot actually cause the other party doesnt want to have anything to do with me, it fukkin kills me knowing this. if its a dispute that is worthwile that has a positive outcome then voice raising yelling standing ground is fine cause its in the right context...if its one of those pointless fukkin travelling around in circles fukkin things that just gets out of hand then thats the problem one...now if you can sit and chill and work it out like the English some 100+ yrs ago over tea, that is the shit right there.there are times when i watch the couple i live with fukkin tear eachother a new one sometimes it goes for dayz and i just want to kill both of them,other times they are calmly talking about whatever the fukk is the issue...i really dont know what im saying anymore so im gonna stop b4 my brain actually starts working again...but like others have already said its more or less based on the parties that are involved, if both are laxy day then things are savvy, you got two competitors then it could get nasty, got opposites...well, who knows then cause anything is possible. Enjoi

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Originally posted by Zoso bitch go make me a sammich!

fixed.

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Originally posted by DJM104D my thing is that i always have to be right and if im not i get fukkin right mad...in that it has cost me so many potentially good relationships with great people.just recently, maybe a week or so ago, another one ended cause i just cant calm the fuck down. i regret it yes, regret it alot actually cause the other party doesnt want to have anything to do with me, it fukkin kills me knowing this. if its a dispute that is worthwile that has a positive outcome then voice raising yelling standing ground is fine cause its in the right context...if its one of those pointless fukkin travelling around in circles fukkin things that just gets out of hand then thats the problem one...now if you can sit and chill and work it out like the English some 100+ yrs ago over tea, that is the shit right there.there are times when i watch the couple i live with fukkin tear eachother a new one sometimes it goes for dayz and i just want to kill both of them,other times they are calmly talking about whatever the fukk is the issue...i really dont know what im saying anymore so im gonna stop b4 my brain actually starts working again...but like others have already said its more or less based on the parties that are involved, if both are laxy day then things are savvy, you got two competitors then it could get nasty, got opposites...well, who knows then cause anything is possible. Enjoi

i've fought with stubborness for most of my life. it only started to end about a year ago. there are some good techniques out there to help you overcome it but it's mostly caused by insecurity(insecurity to be wrong). i use to work for a motivational coach in college he would tell people if you CAN'T see the other person's side then your sole ability of relating to others is gone. if you can't relate to others you can't make relationships(for him it was in the business sense but makes sense for other relationships too).

you need to start understanding others perspectives before assuming you know the right answer.

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