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3some help.

Ok well my girlfriend of 2 and half years finally has agreed to doing a threesome with antoher girl. Now this completely blind sided me cause I never expected her to agree to it in a million years. Now that she wants to do it....the thing I need help with is where and how should I look. Should I go for a stranger or one of her friends or my friends? If with stranger should I go at it alone to pick the girl up then bring her back or should both me and my gf be at bar or club to pick girl up? Im just trying to figure out the way to conduct the next step. Any ideas or personal experience would be greatly appreciated.

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Keep it within the group, meaning someone you two are mutual friends with. From experience, you won't regret it. Don't ever bring a stranger into the mix - it fucks up everything.

Good luck!

make your girlfriend do the work. it's less sketchy than you going out and picking up a new girl, and will make your girlfriend less jealous/posessive when all is said and done.

Like Lucid said, let her get the other woman. After all she's the one who agreed to this little plan so she's going to want pick someone she feels she'll be comfortable and confident with.

Ususally it's easier if the girl is someone you know, but wont pose a "threat" to your relationship.
A stranger may be hot to you but when the nitty gritty goes down,
she may fell nervous and back out...unless she's drunk..LOL!

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Originally posted by Frenchie Like Lucid said, let her get the other woman. After all she's the one who agreed to this little plan so she's going to want pick someone she feels she'll be comfortable and confident with.

I slightly disagree. I believe if it's going to be a 'group thing', then make the choosing a 'group effort', to where both parties are comfortable with the third individual, not just the woman.

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Originally posted by DigitalPhoenix pose a "threat" to your relationship.

Dr. Drew says your relationship is going to fall apart

Pffft, the guy doesn't care. As long as he has another hot pussy in his bed he's set.

EDIT: And besides, it's not like she's going to get a girl that is going to look like she got run over by a truck or seems like she won't do it, her boyfriend wants this obvious very much so she's going to get someone (good), and she doesn't want to do a 3some with some butter face either.

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Originally posted by Frenchie Pffft, the guy doesn't care. As long as he has another hot pussy in his bed he's set.

And, if it's not a hot pussy, then he'd withdraw. Us men are not as simple, as you think we are.

cool thanks so far guys...i figured it would of been better to keep it in the group but a friend of mine said that might make things weird or awkard. Also the other thing is setting, should like we all go bar hoping get little drunk to lossen things up...or just give them both rophie collada's lol.

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Originally posted by EXTREMUM It slightly disagree. I believe if it's going to be a 'group thing', then make the choosing a group effort, to where both parties are comfortable with the third individual.

it can still be a group thing. i just think it's more fair for the chick to do the choosing/flirting/etc... i mean the guy is already winning either way, he gets to hook up with his gf and another chick at the same time. at least let the girl have her fun and make it seem like it's all for her... that way she won't get jealous or paranoid about her man with another chick.

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Originally posted by SuspicionVandit Dr. Drew says your relationship is going to fall apart

i def dont want relationship falling apart, it sounds like it wont if both or you, esp my girlfriend is comfortable. Im sure if everyone is comfortable it can go smoothly and be enjoyable for all parties.

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Originally posted by drivingforce cool thanks so far guys...i figured it would of been better to keep it in the group but a friend of mine said that might make things weird or awkard. Also the other thing is setting, should like we all go bar hoping get little drunk to lossen things up...or just give them both rophie collada's lol.

Good luck on your decision, but I think it's a bad idea to handpick a random chick, to have a threesome with. Personally, I wouldn't even even do that, when I'm single. Call me modest, but I hold trust as a factor, no matter who I get into bed with. Count that, plus your girlfriend to have sex with another girl.

Don't be surprised if this ends in disaster as far as your relationship goes. Your girlfriend may be doing it just because she knows you want to and she is trying to please you. Things can get ugly quick once jealousy rears its ugly head.

Personally, I wouldn't be into doing this with a girl I actually cared for. If she was just a fuck, then sure why not.

Without question, the other woman involved should be of your girlfriend's choosing. Contrary to what Andrea has said, I would strongly caution against involving any woman that you already know and/or interact with on any regular or even semi-regular basis. Threesomes can bring forward all sorts of feelings, insecurities, jellousy, that you simply cannot anticipate. You may react differently to something this third party does, give her too much attention, seem too interested in the other woman, etc, and it may bother your girlfriend... conversly she may do the same. If any of these little problems that tend to crop up in threesomes does happen and it's someone you already know or have regular contact with they will be magnified. Play it safe, have your girl invite someone you don't already know and will likely never see again into the mix... that will mitigate any insecurities or jellousy that may develop (trust me, I wish I had incisted on this).

Another tip... no matter what you may think; THIS IS NOT FOR YOUR ENJOYMENT EXCLUSIVELY, IT IS NOT ABOUT YOU. If you girl is willing to do this it's likely because it's something she wants. Let her take the lead, don't be pushy or demanding, and don't be surprised if there are times when you are largely ignored.

Finally, if you really love this girl but the relationship has any sort of instability then don't do it. Threesomes can be good in a stable relationship where both partners are equally open to the idea and very secure in their standing with the other, however, if there is any instability or insecurity this will likely be the begining of a horrible downward spiral in your relationship. Unless you have a rock solid relationship, this is a bad idea.


PS... Craigslist.org

Thanks...But the idea bout bar hoping with me the gf and the other girl to kind of chill and see where it goes? What did everyone else do to lead to it...just invite them over or actually go out and try to go have a good time?

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Originally posted by Moral Hazard PS... Craigslist.org

good tips, Craig... but that'd be the last place i'd look...

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Originally posted by l�cid good tips, Craig... but that'd be the last place i'd look...

I'd think it's less scary then grabbing a random whore at a bar.

ahaha craigslist..

Hmmm random whore on line, random whore at a club..what an ultimatum.

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Originally posted by Moral Hazard I'd think it's less scary then grabbing a random transexual at a bar.

agreed.

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Originally posted by drivingforce No im def goign to keep it in the group...

Seriously, DON'T DO THIS! My ex (NOTE EX) and I engaged in a number of 3-somes over our years together. The ones with random girls were good and generally had no fall out, the ones with girls we knew were horrible due to the aftermath. My girl was, for months afterwards, suspicious of her friends or of me. We lost several friends due to this (either from her insecurities or the other girls'). Any regular contact with the woman who shares your bed will just exacerbate any problems that may happen. Trust me, 3-somes are not just fun and excitement... they are a world of emotional termoil.

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Originally posted by Moral Hazard I'd think it's less scary then grabbing a random whore at a bar.

at least his email inbox wont get filled up with cock photos!

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Originally posted by Frenchie ahaha craigslist.. Hmmm random whore on line, random whore at a club..what an ultimatum.

point of order... that's not an ultimatum.

I post the craiglist idea because it's much easier then picking up a chick at the bar who's a) bi and b) ready to fuck and suck ya both

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Originally posted by l�cid at least his email inbox wont get filled up with cock photos!

clearly you've posted an ad!

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