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moving in with a significant other

well... it looks like I'm taking the plunge.


she better not turn into a douche bag, cause I'm giving up a sick apartment!

vairy naice


good luck

oh man..

my GF moved up to Toronto for a job, and i am looking to as well. Will move in with her for month or 2 at first till i can find my own place.

but Good Luck to YOu!

Eww.. horrible idea guys. When things go bad (and they inevitably will), the move out procedure is ROUGH.

No living together until I'm engaged, thanks.

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Originally posted by activate cause I'm giving up a sick apartment!

thats the risk, eh. would be the hardest part, why i think it would take a long while for me to wanna give up what i have (unless i was dissatisfied w/ my current place) to move in.

I really wanna feel "sure" and secure that i really thought shit was gonna last and go the distance.

it would too too much a shame for it not to, and then lose out like that

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Originally posted by activate well... it looks like I'm taking the plunge. she better not turn into a douche bag, cause I'm giving up a sick apartment!

get two bedrooms. make one an office/spare bedroom/tv room. you'll need that extra space to go when someone throws a fit. plus no fighting over tv, or her addiction to porn

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Originally posted by spitty or her addiction to porn

BWAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHAHAH!!! LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL! i fucking love it.

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Originally posted by spitty get two bedrooms. make one an office/spare bedroom/tv room. you'll need that extra space to go when someone throws a fit. plus no fighting over tv, or her addiction to porn

she's got a 2 bedroom already.. so do I.. but mine is bigger an 2 floors.

and I'm the one with the porn problem... trust me

Been living with my gf for two years. It can be tough sometimes, but its been the best two years of my life.

GL to you.

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Originally posted by activate and I'm the one with the porn problem... trust me

lol

good luck!

I've lived with two bf's. (not at the same time obviously. ha.)

It really, really sucks to have to break up and move out. That said, my current arrangement is one I was apprehensive about at first but it's worked out really well.

I would not want to get engaged to someone without living with them first. If you can't compromise, even on the smallest things, you will drive each other INSANE.

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Originally posted by activate well... it looks like I'm taking the plunge. she better not turn into a douche bag, cause I'm giving up a sick apartment!

Best of luck dood, but i dont like the sounds of you giving up a sweet apt.

Good luck Evan!!

Remember; talk about things that are bothering you, share the chores, never go to bed or work on an argument and make plenty of time for sex. Laugh off silly issues and work through big ones - I am sure you will love it .

P.S. I am doing exactly the same... And I couldn't be more excited!!

Done it before... don't do it unless she's a long term prospect. Otherwise things can get nasty.

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Originally posted by Abercrombie Done it before... don't do it unless she's a long term prospect. Otherwise things can get nasty.

It should only be done with someone you intend to spend the rest of your life with, that's for sure! Moving in is like getting married but without the 50k wedding.

I have done it before too - breaking up is naaaaaaaaasty when you have all your stuff to sort out but you can't let the fear of that get in the way of a potentially wonderful thing.

I have to say though, when it works, it is really really awesome and it makes you very glad you took the plunge. Having someone to laugh with and talk with at the end of every day is amazing.

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Originally posted by Skipper I have to say though, when it works, it is really really awesome and it makes you very glad you took the plunge. Having someone to laugh with and talk with at the end of every day is amazing.

And wake up every morning with a loving arm around you and feathery kisses planted in the nape of your neck mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm.

Soz! Don't know what happened there *slap* hahah

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Originally posted by English Rachel It should only be done with someone you intend to spend the rest of your life with, that's for sure! Moving in is like getting married but without the 50k wedding. I have done it before too - breaking up is naaaaaaaaasty when you have all your stuff to sort out but you can't let the fear of that get in the way of a potentially wonderful thing.

*sigh* also to add... if you're together for more than a year, you may be considered as common law spouses in the province of Ontario.

So Zoran, Helena is your common law wife! Eye opener eh? Give her a hug for me :P

get a dog instead

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Originally posted by Spin Laden get a dog instead

Or as well

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Originally posted by English Rachel Or as well

OR A CAT!

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Originally posted by Skipper I have to say though, when it works, it is really really awesome and it makes you very glad you took the plunge. Having someone to laugh with and talk with at the end of every day is amazing.

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Originally posted by English Rachel And wake up every morning with a loving arm around you and feathery kisses planted in the nape of your neck mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm.

I couldn't agree more with both of the above mentioned. My bf and I had a lot of fights when we first moved in together, it's a huge adjustment. We've been living together for about 9 months, and we've worked most of the kinks out, and it'e been by far the best 9 months of my life. One os the best decisions I made in my life to move in with Chris.

Hope it works out for you and your GF!!

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Originally posted by English Rachel It should only be done with someone you intend to spend the rest of your life with, that's for sure! Moving in is like getting married but without the 50k wedding.

yeah that's true. you can't really know someone until you've lived with them. and moving in together before getting hitched is a much better choice than doing it after. the living together thing didn't work out for me but i'm glad i tried. one word of advice... don't make too many compromises. if you need to give up too many things just to keep the peace or make her happy then it's not worth it. you'll be unhappy and she's really not the one for you if you need to change that much.

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Originally posted by Tordan yeah that's true. you can't really know someone until you've lived with them. and moving in together before getting hitched is a much better choice than doing it after. the living together thing didn't work out for me but i'm glad i tried. one word of advice... don't make too many compromises. if you need to give up too many things just to keep the peace or make her happy then it's not worth it. you'll be unhappy and she's really not the one for you if you need to change that much.

Agreed! Compromise is a funny thing really, I felt in past relationships that I had to give up a whole side of me to keep the peace - in this relationship, I feel more 'me' than I have ever felt.

I hope he feels the same.

Yah, compromise is a tricky balance often.

A totally selfless person will never be happy bc everyone will forever and always come before them.


At what point are u comprising too much for someone else and not being true to urself?

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