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I have a quandry. This isnt probably the best place to ask for advice but hey you never know.

Problem is, got an amazing place to live, in an amazing part of town. Worked really hard to get it, got a pretty nice job...good money and that.

But all my mates live in another city at least 70 or 80 miles away, all the guys i grew up with. You know the mates you need around to shoot the shit with and go clubbing with. I've met some cool people in the year i've lived here but they arent the same as my best mates.

Bottom line is, do i give up a nice flat, an ok job and all the stuff i worked hard for and move halfway across the country to be closer to my mates? plus its on the east coast so a lot closer to my family. Was talking to my mate about it and she was saying that 'whats the point of having nice things if you dont have anyone to enjoy it with'

That kinda hit the nail on the head but im not sure.

Any suggestions?

Parting with people is a sadness; a place is only a place.

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Originally posted by flymo-meek I have a quandry. This isnt probably the best place to ask for advice but hey you never know. Problem is, got an amazing place to live, in an amazing part of town. Worked really hard to get it, got a pretty nice job...good money and that. But all my mates live in another city at least 70 or 80 miles away, all the guys i grew up with. You know the mates you need around to shoot the shit with and go clubbing with. I've met some cool people in the year i've lived here but they arent the same as my best mates. Bottom line is, do i give up a nice flat, an ok job and all the stuff i worked hard for and move halfway across the country to be closer to my mates? plus its on the east coast so a lot closer to my family. Was talking to my mate about it and she was saying that 'whats the point of having nice things if you dont have anyone to enjoy it with' That kinda hit the nail on the head but im not sure. Any suggestions?

What's more important to you? Good job/career, or partying/hanging with your friends?

If you do move, will you be able to get another good job (with whatever your qualifications are), with good pay as well?

u make new friends?

Jesus christ.

jobs come and go.

friends will always be a pain in the ass.

either way... you lose.

to be honest my friends are much more important, we've known each other 20 odd years. I have made some ok friends here but i always get the feeling we're on a different wavelentgh, its hard to explain. I'm swaying towards moving as i think in the long run it will be better i.e. i'm more likely to settle down (which is good as i've moved 5 times in 6 years)

70miles is nothing, just drive up there on weekends if you're really stuck for something to do, ditching a career and job for them is just daft.

ya 70 miles is what? an hour if you go 70 miles per hour? thats not too bad.

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Originally posted by flymo-meek to be honest my friends are much more important, we've known each other 20 odd years. I have made some ok friends here but i always get the feeling we're on a different wavelentgh, its hard to explain. I'm swaying towards moving as i think in the long run it will be better i.e. i'm more likely to settle down (which is good as i've moved 5 times in 6 years)

But what will be the impact on your career? Will you get stuck in some shitty job you hate, making crap money, and then whine to your friends about it (ie. feel pissed off that you made the wrong decision)?

And what city are you moving to/from?

go back. it's where your heart is, but don't be surprised if everyone else moves on.

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Originally posted by Spacey Orange go back. it's where your heart is, but don't be surprised if everyone else moves on.

Indeed.

Usually friendship doesn't really last forever.I'd say stay where you are and get used to it and make new friends.

70 miles? Why are you even talking about moving when you only live like an hour away from them.

I have been travelling for nights out, have done it for years. Just think it'd be easier if we all lived in the same city. Theres like 30 of us.

The job im doing is ok, but its not a career just got lucky when i got it. Not overly bothered about the job as can always get another one.

Think the clincher was, coming home after a shitty day at work and wanting to go for a pint with my mates and not talk about work, just have some banter. Cant really do that just now.

Moving from glasgow to edinburgh.

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Originally posted by flymo-meek Theres like 30 of us.

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Originally posted by flymo-meek I have been travelling for nights out, have done it for years. Just think it'd be easier if we all lived in the same city. Theres like 30 of us. The job im doing is ok, but its not a career just got lucky when i got it. Not overly bothered about the job as can always get another one. Think the clincher was, coming home after a shitty day at work and wanting to go for a pint with my mates and not talk about work, just have some banter. Cant really do that just now. Moving from glasgow to edinburgh.

Based solely on the cities in question, I would move from Glasgow to Edinburgh in a second But that's because I absolutely adore Edinburgh haha.

Mate, if you wanna move, and you think you can get a good job, with good pay, and get a decent place to live there, then do it. Maybe.

May I ask how old you are? Tell me to piss off if you want lol.

Edit: Nevermind the last part, I forgot I can see it in your profile again now.

at the end of the day, and by that, i mean when you're on you're deathbed, will you think 'i should have worked more and made more money' or will you think 'i should have spent more time with friends lovers and family'. there is your answer.

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Originally posted by Spacey Orange at the end of the day, and by that, i mean when you're on you're deathbed, will you think 'i should have worked more and made more money' or will you think 'i should have spent more time with friends lovers and family'. there is your answer.

With his friend's lovers? That's not so good!

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Originally posted by Sushipunk With his friend's lovers? That's not so good!

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Originally posted by Spacey Orange

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Originally posted by Sushipunk Based solely on the cities in question, I would move from Glasgow to Edinburgh in a second But that's because I absolutely adore Edinburgh haha. Mate, if you wanna move, and you think you can get a good job, with good pay, and get a decent place to live there, then do it. Maybe. May I ask how old you are? Tell me to piss off if you want lol. Edit: Nevermind the last part, I forgot I can see it in your profile again now.

Yeah i know i wouldnt have a huge problem getting a job + i'm training to be microsoft certified and will be done in 6 months. Thats my career, i just need a job to pay the bills and afford the luxuries in life in the meantime.

I know what you mean about edinburgh and glasgow, i'm an east coast boy. Grew up in st andrews and i've been away since i was 17. Always thought it would be cool to live in loadsa different places. But done that now, had fun met loadsa good friends(who all coincidentally live in edinburgh now haha) and think its time to move closer to home. Gonna live with my two best mates in a nice area and flat. So it looks all good.

Guess i just think its a shame to give up my current place, worked damn hard to get it. But whats the point if you aint happy.

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Originally posted by Spacey Orange

thats fuckin great
i need a giant interrobang

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Originally posted by flymo-meek Guess i just think its a shame to give up my current place, worked damn hard to get it. But whats the point if you aint happy.

Finish up the course, save some money and move back when there's a job there, 6months isn't so long.

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Originally posted by Sunsnail

ya, time to start culling!

Use the extra money to build a teleportation device.

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Originally posted by flymo-meek Yeah i know i wouldnt have a huge problem getting a job + i'm training to be microsoft certified and will be done in 6 months. Thats my career, i just need a job to pay the bills and afford the luxuries in life in the meantime.

Get your MS cert. I would assume that the company you currently work for is paying for it? It will do you well.

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Originally posted by flymo-meek I know what you mean about edinburgh and glasgow, i'm an east coast boy. Grew up in st andrews and i've been away since i was 17.

Golf! And rich people!

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Originally posted by flymo-meek Gonna live with my two best mates in a nice area and flat. So it looks all good.

Ah, well it sounds like you've already made up your mind, and just wanted a bit of reassurance just now?

Seriously though, get your MS cert first. Six months is bugger all to wait, and it'll get you a job that is potentially that much better.

Also, start applying for jobs in Edinburgh BEFORE you leave your current job. I can't stress that enough. It's way way way easier to get a new job if you have one already

I wish you well, just make sure you're not fucking up your whole life lol

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