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Posted by MrJiveBoJingles on Jan-10-2008 03:31:

When were your closest friendships made?

All but one of mine were made in elementary through high school.

Do you find that friendships are easier or harder to make as you get older?

Do friendships made when you're older tend to have a different character (closer / not as close?) than ones made when you were a kid?


Posted by mezzir on Jan-10-2008 03:32:

Re: When were your closest friendships made?

quote:
Originally posted by MrJiveBoJingles
All but one of mine were made in elementary through high school.

Do you find that friendships are easier or harder to make as you get older?

Do friendships made when you're older tend to have a different character (closer / not as close?) than ones made when you were a kid?


all of my close friends were made freshman-junior year of high school, save for one decently close friend who i've known since i was little


Posted by Lebezniatnikov on Jan-10-2008 03:35:

Most of my closest friends were made in my senior year of high school and freshman year of college, though there are a few that I've become very close to just in the past few months.


Posted by Silky Johnson on Jan-10-2008 03:55:

I basically had ONE close friend growing up. I generally didn't like a lot of people when I was a kid...I just couldn't relate to most of them. So I found the weirdest and most obnoxious person other than myself and settled down with her for a good 8 years or so, lol.

Then yeah...I'd say towards the end of high school when I stopped being so much of a drifter and actually made some lasting friendships. Still tight with most of that crew.

I've made a couple more close friends in recent years, met my best friend when I was 22. Just made another good friend last year.


I dunno...I've never been about having a shit ton of friends, even though I made it my business to know a lot of people. I just don't think it's possible to have more than a handful of REAL friendships with people, because of the time and attention required.


Posted by Vivid Boy on Jan-10-2008 03:58:

quote:
Originally posted by jennypie



I dunno...I've never been about having a shit ton of friends, even though I made it my business to know a lot of people. I just don't think it's possible to have more than a handful of REAL friendships with people, because of the time and attention required.



so true especially as you get older and have more responsibilities. i hate to say it but then only new friendships im looking for are ones thatll advance my career. I love all my friends and always will. and the ones i have now will probably be around for a lot longer. but theres just too many sometimes. thats why the only friends i want to make now are professional friends.

ive got enough party friends lol.


Posted by Lira on Jan-10-2008 03:59:

For some reason, I've never studied with my most of my friends

And, no, I don't think there's any difference between my most recent friendships (and my oldest ones) regarding their nature. Either I "click", or I don't.


Posted by Project-K on Jan-10-2008 03:59:

Towards the end of HS, age 15-ish. We grew apart a few years later. I find that as I get older, I have a lot of trouble making new friends. That might not have anything to do with age though. I'm just not very frequently in environments with people I can relate to. I have very few friends left and I haven't made any new ones in over 5 years. Guess I've become a bit too self sufficient.


Posted by pkcRAISTLIN on Jan-10-2008 04:01:

all of my "friends" i consider best friends. never seen the point of a half-hearted friendship.

id say a third i met in primary or highschool, and the rest since uni.

i have loads of best friends coz im just fucking awesome


Posted by chimera66 on Jan-10-2008 04:03:

freshman and sophomore year in high school, those bitches are my friends for life. had a crew of close friends in college but i would only say i'm tight with one, she's pretty much family and her mom pretty much adopted me during college...I have made some really good friends in the last year too though.

I think you have to go through a lot with people before they become really close friends; my best friends are not like me at all and to tell the truth if I meet half of them now we probably wouldn't be friends period but those differences are what I think keeps us together among other things...nobody needs to make friends with essentially themselves.


Posted by l�cid on Jan-10-2008 04:06:

almost all of my friends are people that i've met in the last 5 years, and most of them i met through tranceaddict.

i still have two very close friends back in NY that i've known for 10 years and 7 years.

[edit: i forgot to mention - one of them i met after i applied for an internship at the company he worked at. he was in charge of contacting the applicants via AIM/e-mail, and i didn't take the internship but we stayed in contact ever since then. the other one i met during a drug and alcohol fueled weekend in my girlfriends dormroom. i hallucinated scorpions crawling out of his jeans, and the rest was history.]

beyond that, i've lost contact (or just never wished to stay in contact) with all my friends from elementary/middle/high school.


Posted by Vivid Boy on Jan-10-2008 04:09:

but yeah anyways to answer ur question my friends are made all over my life. im a pretty social person, and a huge joker so making friends has never been hard. people enjoy being around me and Im known as a fun guy. my closer friends are deffinately more genuine people. people who have opened up to me and i know things about. but yeah Ive met those people everywhere, a good majority tho where when i was younger either in HS or in elementary. but thats only cause i was in school for 13 years and ive only been out of school for 6, so its all relative


Posted by iammesol on Jan-10-2008 04:09:

quote:
Originally posted by l�cid
almost all of my friends are people that i've met in the last 5 years, and most of them i met through tranceaddict.
.


lolwhatanerd


I still have an almost brother from first grade. Every other friend is just a person I can relate to more easily than everyone else. Most of the people that I've met recently (freshman year of college) are more business type of friends such as roommates, coworkers, or promoter/djs.


Posted by MrJiveBoJingles on Jan-10-2008 04:10:

quote:
Originally posted by jennypie
I dunno...I've never been about having a shit ton of friends, even though I made it my business to know a lot of people. I just don't think it's possible to have more than a handful of REAL friendships with people, because of the time and attention required.

I agree.

I bring this up because within a year I'll probably face the prospect of moving away, maybe permanently, from the place I've lived for the past 21 years. Some of the friends I have here, I've had since first or second grade. Chances are that if I moved, I would move pretty far away since I wouldn't want to stay anywhere in the south other than Texas (I don't really like the south, but Texas is home). So I would probably hardly see any of these guys again.

I'm not sure why, but I haven't made any guy friends since high school, and I'm starting to wonder whether I'll ever be able to. Even if I do, I don't think I'll be able to come close to the kind of friendship I have with the guys I grew up with. But who knows.


Posted by UWM on Jan-10-2008 04:10:

I keep in contact with one person who I went to high school with, my ex-girlfriend of 1.5 years.

The rest of my friends I've made in college / post college.


Posted by l�cid on Jan-10-2008 04:12:

quote:
Originally posted by iammesol
lolwhatanerd

that's it. we're not friends anymore.

*blocks you from buddy list*


Posted by Vivid Boy on Jan-10-2008 04:14:

oh ya btw all my friends are in the in crowd.....



and my best friend, get this, we were born 2 months apart. we were next door nrighbors when we were born and basically shared the same crib. when i was 4 years old i moved from that house. somehow we have stayed in touch all those years, i remember when i moved i would get my mom to dial the number for me to talk to him on the phone to ask our parents to drive one another to eachother's house to play. we've honestly been through everything together. never been in a fight.....okay maybe 2, one he threw a beer bottl at my head when we were drunk, and the other we were smashed and just decided to play fight and it turned into a fight and a half. we were bleeding but still laughing abt it.


Posted by chimera66 on Jan-10-2008 04:15:

quote:
Originally posted by l�cid
...most of them i met through tranceaddict.


maybe I'm a dork too but the people I'm closest to now in NYC are mostly from TA. love my NYTAs


Posted by verndogs on Jan-10-2008 04:15:

Aside from 1 grade school and 1 high school friend I still keep in touch with, all of my other friends were made mostly during college and post college (made a ton of friends via TA from all over, not just NYC).


Posted by Fibonacci on Jan-10-2008 04:16:

I have a few different groups of friends. I have friends that I work with and will likely stay friends with after leaving. I have friends from high school who are undoubtedly my closest friends. I have friends I made in college. I have friends in the trance scene, friends who I go snowboarding with... Different groups offer at the very least a wide variety of fun for the weekends! And I really don't make it a habit of keeping "acquantinces", most people I keep in touch with are genuine friends or people with that potential. Acquantinces were more useful back in my younger days, when I needed to be sure that every friday and saturday night had something lined up! I usually just try to surround myself with people of similar character...


Posted by l�cid on Jan-10-2008 04:17:

quote:
Originally posted by chimera66
maybe I'm a dork too but the people I'm closest to now in NYC are mostly from TA. love my NYTAs

yeah i have no problem admitting it. i absolutely love all the friends i've made through MWTA ever since i moved to Wisconsin 5 years ago.

and boyfriends and future robot husbands too i guess.


Posted by Vivid Boy on Jan-10-2008 04:19:

quote:
Originally posted by MrJiveBoJingles
I agree.

I bring this up because within a year I'll probably face the prospect of moving away, maybe permanently, from the place I've lived for the past 21 years. Some of the friends I have here, I've had since first or second grade. Chances are that if I moved, I would move pretty far away since I wouldn't want to stay anywhere in the south other than Texas (I don't really like the south, but Texas is home). So I would probably hardly see any of these guys again.

I'm not sure why, but I haven't made any guy friends since high school, and I'm starting to wonder whether I'll ever be able to. Even if I do, I don't think I'll be able to come close to the kind of friendship I have with the guys I grew up with. But who knows.



i dunno if i moved away permanently which i have thought of before. i know id keep in touch with my friends here. it wouldnt be a big deal forme. I was in italy for a month and a half last year and eventhough i couldnt speak english i made a group of friends within the first 2 weeks. The only guy who could sorta speak english was some bartender at thepub near my grandmas and wed hang out all the time too. still stay in touch with all those people through email.

Meeting people isnt my problem. selling htem shit is haha fuckin bums


Posted by iammesol on Jan-10-2008 04:21:

quote:
Originally posted by l�cid
that's it. we're not friends anymore.

*blocks you from buddy list*



NOESSSSSSSSSSSSS

It was a jokealoke

<3


Posted by tubularbills on Jan-10-2008 04:23:

I've got three different groups of friends, really.

The ones in Chicago were all from high school....they are the ones i've known the longest, and we share a lot of experiences and stuff in common. they're the ones that no matter what happens, i know are always going to be there.

The second group of friends are down here in Shreveport....and mostly AF. real good guys that you can totally depend on - and take care of each other. i've only known them for the shortest amount of time, but instantly clicked.

The third group are the ones that are scattered all over the place, but were originally from college at Iowa State. So a mix of Air Force people, and a mix of my meteor friends. We're all over the world now, so it's hard to stay in touch aside from emails and phone calls. but we still have the memories, and whenever someone's going to another area, we try to get back together (had a buddy come down to new orleans, others met up back in iowa for new years, etc...).


Posted by Yohan on Jan-10-2008 04:24:

Being a shy kid and moving a lot during junior high and high school meant I didn't keep many friends. Just one from junior high and one from high school I keep in touch once in a while

Lots of casual acquintances, only few friends. Then again, I'm rather picky about who I deem friends.

The friend label gets thrown around too easily I think


Posted by Lebezniatnikov on Jan-10-2008 04:25:

Never met another TA before.


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