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Vicarious happiness

How often are you happy for others?

Right now I'm really happy for my girlfriend. She was applying for a research position in Nagoya (Japan) and that chairwoman (about whom I�fm often talking about) tried to send someone else on her place. She was really obnoxious to my girlfriend, trying to discourage her. Turns out that there was so much pressure for more transparent decisions this time that she had to form a committee and, eventually, my girlfriend was chosen.

I'm so happy for her that I don't even care about the time we'll spend apart. She had fought really hard for this, and it's nice to see that justice prevailed.

So, how often are you happy for the success of others?

Admit it, you have the hots for the chairwoman. You'd hit it.

I'm happy for the success of others all the time. In fact I try to surround myself with equally (or more) happy and successful people because it raises my game.

I'm only happy for others if I percieve there is a benefit to me.

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Originally posted by Moral Hazard I'm only happy for others if I percieve there is a benefit to me.

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Originally posted by eRRaTiK Admit it, you have the hots for the chairwoman. You'd hit it.

I would... with a sledgehammer!

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Originally posted by Moral Hazard I'm only happy for others if I percieve there is a benefit to me.

Wouldn't you be happy for ChemEnhanced if he got something he had always dreamed of?

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Originally posted by Moral Hazard I'm only happy for others if I percieve there is a benefit to me.

+2!!!! Im too greedy and self involved to give 2 shits for anyone else unless it helps me, lol.

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Originally posted by Lira Wouldn't you be happy for ChemEnhanced if he got something he had always dreamed of?

Of course... Scott's my brother and his happiness has a direct impact on mine due to our frequent interaction... his happiness benefits me.

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Originally posted by Moral Hazard I'm only happy for others if I percieve there is a benefit to me.

everyone is this way but in my case the benefit is happiness in itself...

i like being happy, therefore i am often happy for others as well.
no harm

Rarely.

what goes around, comes around - Justin Timberlake.

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Originally posted by Moral Hazard Of course... Scott's my brother and his happiness has a direct impact on mine due to our frequent interaction... his happiness benefits me.

What if it interrupted your frequent interaction? (e.g. if he suddenly converted to Buddhism and were offered an English teaching position in a Nepalese temple)

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Originally posted by Lira What if it interrupted your frequent interaction? (e.g. if he suddenly converted to Buddhism and were offered an English teaching position in a Nepalese temple)

sorry, but picturing Chem as a Buddhist monk is fuckin' funny.

Provided that he and I were still interacting then his being happy benefits me; however, if it were to lead to a complete end to our interaction then I suppose rather then being happy for him I would be lamenting my own loss.

i'd say pretty often. if my friends/family are happy, or if they succeed at something they've put a lot of effort into, it's hard for me not to be happy for them. if it's just some random person or acquaintance, i might be like "hey that's cool - good for you!" but i wouldn't get all emotional about it.

I can care less now days. If they succeed...good for them, but if it doens't benefit me then I can care less.

I used to be everyone's cheerleader, but that gets old quick, and not getting any feedback from cheer-ee jaded the experience.

"oh, good! anyways..."

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Originally posted by SuspicionVandit "oh, good! anyways..."

Pretty much the saying now.
It gets followed by, "...What an assh*le"

A prudently self-interested sort of empathy would be that which maximizes vicarious happiness and minimizes the vicarious experience of any negative emotion such as sadness, anger, et cetera.

When the other person is happy, you feel happy for them. But if they're feeling down, it's schadenfreude time, baby.

All the time, I am genuinely happy for my friends or family when good things happen to them. It feels good to see the people I care about happy and smiling.
If it's just a random person I don't really care for, then I'm completely indifferent.

I love reading a post ever so articulately put by someone like Arbiter followed by some bumbling idiotic cretin such as Enigmatik. The contrast in intelligence makes me feel plentiful happiness. Not so much vicariously though - More so directly.

I'm often happy for others' good fortune; however, I'm also often happy for others' misfortune. I think of myself as well-rounded.

That's funny, I think of you as an absolute cunt

Exactly, you fuckin' moron.

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