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Love at First Sight?

How many people believe in it?

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TORONTO - British pop-soul star Dusty Springfield may have been on to something 40 years ago when she cooed in song about "The Look of Love." A new poll suggests more than half of Canadians don't just think falling in love at first glance is the stuff of syrupy romantic ballads or Hollywood fantasy - they believe it's the real deal. The Canadian Press Harris-Decima survey released for Valentine's Day found that 55 per cent of respondents believe in love at first sight. Men outnumbered women who were convinced of the phenomenon, with 59 per cent saying they were believers compared to 51 per cent of women. "I don't know whether that really speaks to men being a little bit kind of over-passionate in terms of how they react to the opposite sex, or women being a little bit more cautious in terms of how they respond, but one way or another there's about an eight-point difference between men and women," Harris-Decima president Bruce Anderson said Wednesday. Neal Talbot, founder of All-Star Dating Tips, a dating advice website launching Thursday, said one possible explanation is that men are more visually driven than women. "In that aspect, it's not entirely surprising," he said from Whistler, B.C. "Men, as much as I hate to say it, it's almost in some aspects lust at first sight." Some 38 per cent said they have fallen in love with their Mr. or Ms. Right at first sight. And 17 per cent believe it's possible, but haven't experienced it yet. Of those who've fallen in love at first sight, two out of three said they are still head over heels for the person they originally fell for. Talbot said he believes love at first sight is entirely possible provided that people are confident enough to approach the person who catches their eye. "A lot of people know the type of person that interests them, knows what physical features they're attracted to at first sight, so I don't see any reason that love at first sight isn't possible." Calgary-based dating expert Christine Hart said the people who are experiencing love at first sight are those who leave themselves open to the possibility it will become reality. "People that go around and say there's no such thing as love at first sight, they're just doing a disservice to themselves," she said. "There's no harm in believing in it because it could happen to you." Hart, founder of Your Date Coach, said it's often fear of rejection that keeps individuals from taking risks. She said she teaches in workshops and seminars that "No" is the opportunity for the next "Yes" from a potential paramour. Hart said during her six years at the helm of speed dating company Six Minute Dates, 60 couples who locked eyes for the first time during their mini-dates went on to get married. "Certainly I've had a lot of people tell me through speed dating that it was definitely love at first sight because they sat down and just looked across the table and went, 'Wow,"' she said. "I think that's why speed dating continues to be very popular, because we just kind of clear everything away, and we get right down to what matters - and that's chemistry." Overall, 98 per cent of the people surveyed said they've been in love at least once. The average number of loves a Canadian has in their lifetime is pegged at 2.3. Three per cent counted 10 or more loves. "So often we're fed this information that there's one person out there or 'The One,"' Hart said. "I don't think the love world is designed that way. I think we deserve to fall in love. If we're lucky to fall in love for our whole life then that's what's good for us, but if we're lucky to fall in love two, three, four times, I mean, Wow!" "Isn't that amazing that we can experience that?" she added. More than 1,000 Canadians were interviewed by telephone from Feb. 8 to Feb. 12, and the results are considered accurate within 3.1 percentage points, 19 times out of 20.

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love is so 90's. hate fuck and rough anal are the new love !!

I believe in lust at first site...love...not really.

In the chemical/biological sense, yes. After that, it takes work.


edit: Last week's issue of Time was all about love, lust, flirting, etc. Valentine's special.

don't believe in it.

I think it's just mutual physical attraction.. and when the peeps actually hook up and it works out... it's just more romantic to call it "love at first sight".

Correction...it was January 28th's issue.



http://www.time.com/time/covers/0,1...0080128,00.html

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Originally posted by *~LiSa-LoO~* I believe in lust at first site...love...not really.

+1 ...it's only physical attraction at first so i don't see how it's possible for me to fall "in love" with someone right away....lust would be more like it...love requires a lot more

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Originally posted by activate don't believe in it. I think it's just mutual physical attraction.. and when the peeps actually hook up and it works out... it's just more romantic to call it "love at first sight".

Agreed

I do have to say though, that pheromones do play a lot in attraction. I can get high as a kite from sniffing behind adam's ears, we are definitely a match as far as pheremones are concerned.

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Originally posted by *~LiSa-LoO~* I believe in lust at first site...love...not really.

/end thread.

it has to happen to you for you to beleive it. it has happened to me.

love at first sight, not so much. i believe it is possible to fall in love with someone after the first encounter with them though, and it has happened to me.

I fall in love way too easily. As such, I believe in love at first sight.

i believe in order to love someone truly you must hate them too.. since love and hate go hand-in-hand...

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Originally posted by jsibilin i believe in order to love someone truly you must hate them too.. since love and hate go hand-in-hand...

I agree.

jesse you have to hate someone to love them?
i think you need to explain yourself a bit

i honestly dont believe in love
an extended infatuation and obsession.. yes
but the whole..i love you forever and so on .. no
so love at first sight is an obvious no here.

still waiting to test out if this love at first sight is true or not...

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Originally posted by fayraree I fall in love way too easily. As such, I believe in love at first sight.

HAHAHA

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Originally posted by jsibilin i believe in order to love someone truly you must hate them too.. since love and hate go hand-in-hand...

TOTALLY disagree...love and hate don't go hand-in-hand AT ALL

Maybe hate certain things about the person, but not hate them as a person


Dude, i don't hate ANYBODY, let alone the ppl i love.
I love my sisters above anything else on this planet and i DEF don't ever hate them.
Again, i may not like some things they do, but as a whole i can only love them


Whoever told you or wherever you came up with this idea of love and hate going hand-in-hand is whack

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Originally posted by jsibilin i believe in order to love someone truly you must hate them too.. since love and hate go hand-in-hand...

I disagree
that would be some sort of masochistic one way relationship
and that's not even close to being true love, or even love at all
obsession? yes

My perspective on the love/hate thing is that I get easily disappointed by the things that people I love do. I guess when I love someone, I develop certain expectations (I know that's wrong, for some reason that gets programmed into my mind as part of my strong feelings for someone). I've been doing a lot of introspection lately to isolate these "exepctations" because it's not fair for me to get so easily disappointed when ppl don't meet my high standards of their actions.

I have specific issues in mind that I don't have the time to get into detail; I'm not a love nazi or anything (lol) I'm only referring to people's intentions when you're in a serious relationship. So, when I find that those intentions aren't demonstrating love back to me, I get that feeling of hate. I truly hate it when the person I love ignores me without cause. But that feeling of hate (I guess a part of my personality is that I swing back and forth very easily from happiness to disappointment) makes me love sick...cuz I miss the person.

I know I probably don't make any sense but I guess my point is that to me, it's important to feel both sides of the spectrum with someone (the strong love I can give, and the bitter hate from disappointment) in order to assess that I will be with this person forever. I don't think j was speaking about family; that's unconditional love as you're stuck with those ppl (lol don't mean that in a bad way; I love my sissies) for the rest of your life. But for a partner, you'd have to know how you feel through the good times AND the bad to be sure that he/she's a keeper.

^ but why would you want to be with someone who disappoints you?

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Originally posted by FunkyCrew ^ but why would you want to be with someone who disappoints you?

Because everyone disappoints me at some point and it's how I manage it + how the other person reacts that will compel me to stay with that person. Keep in mind, I'm only talking about "little" disappointments and not "big ones" like cheating or what not.

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Originally posted by fayraree Because everyone disappoints me at some point and it's how I manage it + how the other person reacts that will compel me to stay with that person. Keep in mind, I'm only talking about "little" disappointments and not "big ones" like cheating or what not.

Ya ppl will disappoint you inevitably..the question is how badly and to what extent...and how much do they care that they did

Your preceding post tho i can understand, especially the fam love part.
But it still doesnt change what i said.
When its about the person you love aka your partner or whatever, you can hate things about them, but not the actual person imo.

Love is pure...so if you hate someone at times its just not pure love...
OR you're just not defining what u feel towards that person properly.
Anger, disappointment, or hating what the person did to you - ya
Hating the person - NO

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Originally posted by TheVrk Love is pure...so if you hate someone at times its just not pure love... OR you're just not defining what u feel towards that person properly.

If you're hating someone at times either you :
a) don't really love the person
b) genuinely care about them but don't actually love them...you may just think you do
b) don't love them at all and are infatuated with them or just physically attracted to them

Loving someone means you CAN'T hate them

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Originally posted by barbina i honestly dont believe in love an extended infatuation and obsession.. yes but the whole..i love you forever and so on .. no so love at first sight is an obvious no here.

Exactly what I believe.

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