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wow.
i realize that this is going to sound pretty pathetic that i would write this here and not talk to 'real' friends about it, but i'm not at the point that i can share this with people i know well and deal with.
tonight i sat down with my husband of 3 years and had a talk because i felt like something was up. He told me he was no longer in love with me and he had cheated on me and he was seriously considering filing for a divorce. We have a 2 year old. This has come to a complete shock to me and i am totally gutted. To those who are on my facebook please don't post anything on my wall, i don't want to make this anymore difficult with him then it already is. I thought i knew him and what we had was real. He told me it was all fake and the only reason he wanted to get married was to have kids. Be careful who you trust.
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| Originally posted by wienerschnitzel i realize that this is going to sound pretty pathetic that i would write this here and not talk to 'real' friends about it, but i'm not at the point that i can share this with people i know well and deal with. tonight i sat down with my husband of 3 years and had a talk because i felt like something was up. He told me he was no longer in love with me and he had cheated on me and he was seriously considering filing for a divorce. We have a 2 year old. This has come to a complete shock to me and i am totally gutted. To those who are on my facebook please don't post anything on my wall, i don't want to make this anymore difficult with him then it already is. I thought i knew him and what we had was real. He told me it was all fake and the only reason he wanted to get married was to have kids. Be careful who you trust. |
WOW sorry to hear about it but I dont know in a way its good that he told you himself rather than you finding out yourself and being told by someone which would hurt 10 times more and you would be badly hurt.........I hope things work out for you.
your subject line said it all..
wow...
my initial recommendation is to sleep on it a couple days and let it soak in... dont be mean or do anything irrational... talk about it in a few days after both your shock and his shock to tell you are worn off a bit..
as bad as a thing this is it's still probably a big deal just to get it off his chest and tell you, so you both probably need a few days to let it sink in... his b/c its now him knowing you know about it now..
i wish you the best..
Holy fuck.
I wish you all the strength to see this through.
Wow, indeed.
WIENIES!!!!! NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOoooooooooo!!!!!!!!!
omg i'm sooooooooooooooo sorry! divorce blows so much ass
wienerschnitzel, start documenting everything, as painful as it may be. If you guys don't work this out (god knows, I wouldn't, but that's me) I recommend you take him to the fucking cleaners, legally speaking.
Wish you all the best.
Edit: I just re-read your post. If he's thinking of filing for divorce, then you should do so first, and quickly. Sorry
Holy shit. Really sorry to hear this. I hope it all works out for you in the end.
I just don't understand why people would get married for any other reason than love and teamwork. I wish you the best.
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| Originally posted by iammesol teamwork |
Wienie check your PMs.
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| Originally posted by inconspicuous it's marriage--not curling. |
guess i should have been a bit more specific.. there were no hurtful words. i took it with grace and dignity. I told him i would take rowan to my parents house and we would stay here and he could be alone in the house. When i was leaving, he went to kiss me, i pushed him away and told him "you can't make anyone happy until you are happy yourself" and i turned around and left. He's ruining his life, but i can't let him ruin ours. i will handle it with as much reason and respect as i can. i have alot of support from my family.
Pwn!
fuck.
What a fucking prick. I'm so sorry this happened sweetie
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| Originally posted by wienerschnitzel guess i should have been a bit more specific.. there were no hurtful words. i took it with grace and dignity. I told him i would take rowan to my parents house and we would stay here and he could be alone in the house. When i was leaving, he went to kiss me, i pushed him away and told him "you can't make anyone happy until you are happy yourself" and i turned around and left. He's ruining his life, but i can't let him ruin ours. i will handle it with as much reason and respect as i can. i have alot of support from my family. |
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| Originally posted by Sushipunk Nicely done. I wouldn't have been anywhere near as polite, so I have a lot of respect for you for that |
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| Originally posted by jonSun plus 1. im sure my shock-anger would have gotten the best of me. |
Unless he is on his knees begging for forgiveness from you [which it doesn't sound like that's the case], I suggest you get a lawyer right and fast.
He doesn't deserve your respect one bit, though it is graceful of you to grant it to him regardless. I'm not saying you should have every intent of ruining his life at this point, but take care to secure both your child and your way of life, if need be.
I am really sorry to hear this happen to someone who seems so great.
I don't know you as well as I wish I did, but you seem to be a dedicated wife and a fantastic mother. Nothing in life is ensured, even to the most deserving.
i'm sorry to hear this. i hope the best for you and your child.
dude that guy angers me so much. he totally took advantage of you in every way. he used u to fuckin procreate. thats fuckin disgusting. i wanna bash ppl in the head like this. treat a girl anyway u want while ur bf/gf (accept dont be abusive) cheat on them, kiss other chicks whatever. but once u put a ring on that finger that means no more. that means this is ur partner in life. and as a partner only then can u be abusive but u cant cheat anymore. and u deffinaely can't use ur partner
edit: sorry weiner i realizeim drunk and what im typing makes no sense and offers no solution or support. ill write something else tommorrow
you have taken this extremely well, cant even imagine the emotions you are going through right now, ending a r'ship is one thing but a marriage would magnify those feelings ten fold.
it is pretty sureal.. i have a great lawyer, i'm not so much worried about legalities at this point. Our house won't be hard to sell and we don't alot worth anything. Custody won't be much of an issue because he wants to go and work up north 11 hours away and i've got rowan with me at my parents. they are fully supporting rowan and i.
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