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Is it fair to say that life sux?

Got a question for you all: is it ok to say that your life sucks even though there are many people who have it worse than you?

My situation:
I'm a junior in high school now and it's really too much to handle. I also have a part time job. I have so many damn tests and homework assignments to do plus my job (which is 2 days during the school week btw), that I have hardly any free time during the day. I go out on the weekend but I'm so stressed from the week and stressed about next week that I'm still unhappy. To say the least, I'm really unhappy at the moment.

I was also planning on asking this girl to my prom but decided not to because it's much too expensive. I figured I would then probably ask her out pretty soon. Unfortunetly someone I know decided to take her to the prom and will probably then date her.

I was in Germany in February and met this really cool girl. We hung out and I even kissed her. I didn't want to get into much because I was there for only three weeks. She will be coming here in October for three weeks as well. I was hoping to hang out with her then and maybe have a little something going but not much cause once again, its only three weeks. Anyway, today she tells me in an email she has a boyfriend and was sorry that she was leading me into something with her. Now plans are fucked up for October.

I could go on with more problems but that's about it. Sure, I know everyone else has problems but I needed to get that out.

BACK TO THE TOPIC: Is it ok when you're in this kind of situation to say that life sucks? I know there's people who have so much harder for me. The whole thing is that I know life will get better for me...the Summer is close and I will be outta this whole thing then but nevertheless, life sucks at the moment.

FEEL FREE TO POST YOUR OWN PROBLEMS AS WELL

yeah i hear ya man,
but you are going trough these things that happens to most ppl.

i thought my life sucked when i was in high school. now whenever i have these thoughts, i just think about those poor hungry kids in africa, then my life isnt that bad anymore.

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I'm a junior in high school now and it's really too much to handle. I also have a part time job. I have so many damn tests and homework assignments to do plus my job (which is 2 days during the school week btw), that I have hardly any free time during the day.

if you think high school is this bad, you are really gonna have a fun time at a university if you go

yeah.. that kinda sucks, and i hear you man.. i get stressed out sometimes too. i work full time, 40 hours a week minimum, but i am here for 45, and usually more like 50 or 60 with overtime, which i don't get paid for.

but, like redhot says, a lot of people have it worse.

complaining is a slap in the face to about 4 billion people on this planet.

so.. just grin and bear it, and try to make things better for yourself.

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Originally posted by sothis if you think high school is this bad, you are really gonna have a fun time at a university if you go

Ah, I know it's still more work but I hear it's overall more fun. I don't plan on to a very hardcore college either. I have problems getting organized and I procrastinate too much. If I can fix these things by college it will be better. I'm really plagued with these problems now and its hard to fix them.

hmm I have the same prob highschool & shitloadz (and I mean SHITLOADS!!!) of homework.... anyway I dont party every weekend... I do it every other weekend.. the weekends I dont party I just rest.. Sleep long and just rest all day...

i remember feeling way too stressed in high school. for me, it only got worse through college. you have to learn to live with it and enjoy life at the same time, because chances are, it is not going to get easier.

when i started working full time i felt a lot less stressed, but it is so important to learn to have a good time while still meeting your responsibilities because even though I have less stress now, i've lost the freedom i had in college.

Just remember, the best things happen to you when you least expect them. Things will turn around.

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Ah, I know it's still more work but I hear it's overall more fun. I don't plan on to a very hardcore college either. I have problems getting organized and I procrastinate too much. If I can fix these things by college it will be better. I'm really plagued with these problems now and its hard to fix them.

well, its more fun until you realize that you need to get your act together and study... but in general i think its safe to say (this isnt meant to sound patronizing at all) that once you get to college you look back and realize how easy high school really was.. tho at the time, high school did seem difficult.

i procrastinate also, i have the same problem.. it took me two years to fix it at college, by that time i had fucked around too much, had too much "fun" so i had gotten behind in my classes, now, ill be lucky if i graduate in 5 years total (computer science major), and ive finally realized that school has to be the #1 thing in my life and my social life is on the side.

its a crappy lesson to learn... so it would be good if you could pick up those skills now, youll save yourself a lot of trouble at a university

I don't think its morally wrong to say "life sucks" when you're down because of people being worse off somewhere else in the world. That way only one person on the planet was ever entitled to utter the phrase.

The fact of the matter is that you compare yourself with your immediate surroundings and thus determine whether you have reason to be depressed from these comparisons. That's why you tend to feel your love life sucks when you've just visited recently engaged friends, your financial situation stinks when you see the sparkling new car in your neighbours garage etc. Being depressed has nothing to do with disregarding the poor of this world - it's simply a matter of understanding yourself and your position in the world that is real to you and finding out you're at a loss. Believe me - I know!

On another note: you should definately tell people if your feeling down (instead of just saying "I'm fine" to avoid questions), but don't make it a part of your personality - people hate being with persons that keep whining.

Re: Is it fair to say that life sux?

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Originally posted by tranceDJ Got a question for you all: is it ok to say that your life sucks even though there are many people who have it worse than you? My situation: I'm a junior in high school now and it's really too much to handle. I also have a part time job. I have so many damn tests and homework assignments to do plus my job (which is 2 days during the school week btw), that I have hardly any free time during the day. I go out on the weekend but I'm so stressed from the week and stressed about next week that I'm still unhappy. To say the least, I'm really unhappy at the moment. I was also planning on asking this girl to my prom but decided not to because it's much too expensive. I figured I would then probably ask her out pretty soon. Unfortunetly someone I know decided to take her to the prom and will probably then date her. I was in Germany in February and met this really cool girl. We hung out and I even kissed her. I didn't want to get into much because I was there for only three weeks. She will be coming here in October for three weeks as well. I was hoping to hang out with her then and maybe have a little something going but not much cause once again, its only three weeks. Anyway, today she tells me in an email she has a boyfriend and was sorry that she was leading me into something with her. Now plans are fucked up for October. I could go on with more problems but that's about it. Sure, I know everyone else has problems but I needed to get that out. BACK TO THE TOPIC: Is it ok when you're in this kind of situation to say that life sucks? I know there's people who have so much harder for me. The whole thing is that I know life will get better for me...the Summer is close and I will be outta this whole thing then but nevertheless, life sucks at the moment. FEEL FREE TO POST YOUR OWN PROBLEMS AS WELL

That's a shame about the German girl. About the assignments and tests: Do these FIRST, obviously! I care more about my education then almost ANYTHING in my life! When it comes to school/tests/assignments, I do my best, no matter HOW LONG IT TAKES! This seems to be why my social life is almost non-existant, because I don't care about it more than my education. The people that ask "how are you having fun", etc., are the same ones who don't care AT ALL and are getting low test scores. In others words, if you don't pay attention to what really matters in your life, it's harder to get ahead.

dude... after going through the radio program at the college here... i can honestly say that i could do what you're going through right now standing on my head...

i've been through it and i can say it sucks at the time, but looking back on that now after college, it's so miniscule in terms or what i had to go through...

life is a series of challenges, you have to take each one, prioritize, and tackle each one in pieces

so sit down, write a list even, and figure out what you have to do, how you can do it, and in what order you take on those challenges

i thought of something else to add.

tranceDJ:
heres what i do to try to get myself to do homework/prioritize/get things done.

ok, so im really obsessed with console rpgs. whenever i get a new one, all i want to do is play it. i take advantage of this fact... what i do is ill tell myself ok, you can play your game for an hour, but only after you get this math assignment done. or only after you have written the outline of this paper. etc. if there is something you really like to do as well, you might try that approach.

Thanks for all of your help guys...hopefully once Summer rolls around I'll have less stuff to do and therefore be happier.

Having a lot of shit going on while trying to have a social life is really hard and I guess I just have to learn how to do it over time.

I'm definitely feeling you, remembering how much I stress I was put through in highschool, and it took away from even the most fun things I did with my friends, unless it was during break, and I didnt have work to worry about. i think a big probelm in the American school system is that we spend the most time inside a classroom, and we have the most homework. The way it works in elsewhere is exams are much less frequent, there is less busy work, just a couple of HUGE exams during the course. I think this is best.
I go to the University of Illinois, and I have to say college it MUCH LESS stressful than highschool. In highschool, I had to socialize and learn at the same place, whereas in college, I separate the two completely. I go to class max 3 hours a day, which is normal load(remember sitting on your ass for eight hours straight in highschool?!). I have the rest of the day to have a good time with my friends, and balance out time to study. I have way less busy work, I actually enjoy what I am studying and feel like work is also fun, I enjoy going out and travelling much more...
all in all, you should look forward to college. Life is completely different, and you'll learn to deal with stress by realizing tht a lot of things are not worth stressing over.


cheers
Ilina

take care

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Originally posted by Eu4ea_18 I'm definitely feeling you, remembering how much I stress I was put through in highschool, and it took away from even the most fun things I did with my friends, unless it was during break, and I didnt have work to worry about. i think a big probelm in the American school system is that we spend the most time inside a classroom, and we have the most homework. The way it works in elsewhere is exams are much less frequent, there is less busy work, just a couple of HUGE exams during the course. I think this is best. I go to the University of Illinois, and I have to say college it MUCH LESS stressful than highschool. In highschool, I had to socialize and learn at the same place, whereas in college, I separate the two completely. I go to class max 3 hours a day, which is normal load(remember sitting on your ass for eight hours straight in highschool?!). I have the rest of the day to have a good time with my friends, and balance out time to study. I have way less busy work, I actually enjoy what I am studying and feel like work is also fun, I enjoy going out and travelling much more... all in all, you should look forward to college. Life is completely different, and you'll learn to deal with stress by realizing tht a lot of things are not worth stressing over. cheers Ilina take care

Wow...that gives me hope for college that I won't go completely crazy. American HS is shit though, I remember when I went to Germany and saw that high schoolers have soooo much less homework and tests and therefore more time to socialize. I do know that school is worse in Japan, I think they have the toughest schooling in the world...sumthing like 5hrs of HW a night.

one word bro. Alcohol. It was the missing piece that made the puzzle of my life a wonderful picture. Sad? Go into your room and drink alcohol and listen to music. Some people say it isnt cool to drink by yourself. Those people are called "not alcoholics". ha! small joke. but seriously folks, as long as maybe once a month you drink with other people, its fine to drink by yourself every day. Now the key to this is having a freezer cup. This cup has water in it that freezes and keeps beer after beer cold and frosty. Definitely a must. Thats about all you need. Beer and music. Some people are like "alcohol is a depressant!" and such nonsense. Its all mental. you just gotta think "If I drink ill be happy" and then you will be. A minor side effect will be that you will soon NEED alcohol to be happy, but whats wrong with having to drink beer for the rest of your life? And if you master the art of telling girls "Just one more beer...for me?" your girlfriend problems will be gone! It works! just give them puppy dog eyes!

also...highscool was pathetic. all you have to do is half of the homework and ace all the tests...not hard at all. Dont sweat it that much. It sucks to do because you hate the subjects and they are taught by boring pathetic people. College has cool subjects that are taught by weird scary people. So you are interested. I partied for my four years of highschool and I was a lot happier than the poor shmucks I saw toting around 80 lb backpacks and had looked like they were developing hernias. And a sidenote because a lot of people look into this field for jobs (Sothis is gonna hate me) but if you are doing computers... 4 years of job experience is worth more than 8 years of training. I took MCSE (yeah yeah EVERYONE has it) and got a job as a Network Admin for a 200 employee company. The time I spent there made me realize that stuff you learn from books means nothing. The real thing they are looking for is dealing with morons who cant use computers and are constantly finding new and revolutionary ways to mess them up. When you walk into a room with an exec being paid 300 grand a year and he tells you his computer is broken and you look down and it isnt turned on...nod and smile. Thats what employers are looking for. Coding is a little different but still you want to be able to walk in and show them the programs youve done in the last year or so and say "ive been coding for 4 years" and stuff... (I get to talk to many industry people because we own a high tech consulting firm). So IF you are going into computers...dont even worry about highschool lol! You dont need to go to college. and the only companies that will ever require a degree for advancement are IBM and microsoft and who wants to work up the corporate ladders THERE =P


uhm. yeah. Also dont think. (see my previous post if you need help with not Thinking) Thinking F****s you up and makes you realize what a sap you are. Everyones a sap in their own minds. So dont let your mind get out!

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Originally posted by Orbax one word bro. Alcohol. It was the missing piece that made the puzzle of my life a wonderful picture. Sad? Go into your room and drink alcohol and listen to music. Some people say it isnt cool to drink by yourself. Those people are called "not alcoholics". ha! small joke. but seriously folks, as long as maybe once a month you drink with other people, its fine to drink by yourself every day. Now the key to this is having a freezer cup. This cup has water in it that freezes and keeps beer after beer cold and frosty. Definitely a must. Thats about all you need. Beer and music. Some people are like "alcohol is a depressant!" and such nonsense. Its all mental. you just gotta think "If I drink ill be happy" and then you will be. A minor side effect will be that you will soon NEED alcohol to be happy, but whats wrong with having to drink beer for the rest of your life? And if you master the art of telling girls "Just one more beer...for me?" your girlfriend problems will be gone! It works! just give them puppy dog eyes!

Dude, how is being dependent on something such as alcohol only a minor thing. I would drink by myself but I would seriously feel like an alcoholic. And are you saying to give girls beer and then they'll like you? Ah, UR Crazy I can only see those things creating even more problems.

calling being dependant on alcohol to be happy "minor" was a joke lol. The whole thing was 2 parts false and 1 part true. Party more alcohol at low levels is a vasodilator and that means your musccles and skin loosen up at the capillary level and you feel more relaxed. and at low levels its known to increase cognitive functioning because of the increased blood flow to the brain I did a 30 page reasearch paper on this for my neuroscience class is why Im sayin hehe. Dude and that girl thing works... ok they wont be your girlfriends probably...youll probably have to marry them after what happens! haha small joke again. nah im just joking with you. Girls are just fun to get drunk. Some of em get frisky though so watch out

Hehe...I def know what you mean about girls getting frisky. The thing is that I try as hard as I can to never use drugs or alcohol to feel better just because I'm down. I feel this would eventually lead into addiction which is something that could easily ruin your life. Alcohol and drugs are for partying and having a good time. If you go out and get drunk only because you are pissed off or depressed it shows you can't find happiness any other way and therefore will use alcohol again and again to feel happy. Although if it is only used occassionally to party...alchohol can be a great thing, yes.

I wouldn't hold too much praise on alcohol though...it's very bad for you even though it makes you happy and lets you get girls. Plus, getting really wasted and ending up sleeping w/ girls is only to create more problems and get you STDs

post a pic of both girls and i'll tell you which one you should go for, that should make your life less sucky

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Originally posted by lMIlk post a pic of both girls and i'll tell you which one you should go for, that should make your life less sucky

Hehe...doesn't matter (I'm too lazy). The one from Germany is hotter but she's well...in Germany and has a boyfriend. The one here in America is pretty nice but doesn't look like it's going to work out with her either. Soooo, time to start looking elsewhere I guess

actually.... studies show that people who abstain from alcohol are at two times the risk for heart disease, stroke, diabetes, and about 15 other major diseases than moderate drinkers. Moderate drinking is defined as a 2 beers a day for 4 out of the 7 days of the week. Or a glass of wine. Wine is better because it also has tannins which are good for you. People who drink in excess of course are 6 times more likely to die than anyone but thats constant binge drinking. Like I said I did a 30 page report for neuro-science and alcohols affect on the brain and body... got an A too! ... doctors dont reccommend drinking for health purposes but the studies definitely indicate that people who DO drink and drink moderately are healthier in many respects.


and yes yes the whole dependency issue and getting girls drunk and having sex with them is a joke ...except for the drinking to be happy and getting girls drunk and having sex with them parts. those are serious

or just smoke weed.

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Originally posted by Damo or just smoke weed.

Hehe...true. Costs too much though and hard to sneak around my parents, if I were to get caught I would be f000ked. But I do smoke occassionally.

As for the alcohol thing, I'm only 17 and so I don't want to be sneaking two beers everyday. I don't see how 2 beers would make you feel a lot better anyhow especially if you got a tolerance.

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