Life and Relationships - Dreams and Love

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Posted by RandomGirl on Jul-15-2008 04:11:

Life and Relationships - Dreams and Love

So I am curious... what is more important to you?

Love, or Dreams?

Let's create a hypothetical scenario:

Person A is in love with person B.

Person A is outgoing, and craves adventure and traveling, loves change and experience, doesn't really worry about stability and likes to live for the moment. Their goals are to travel and be adventurous.

Person B is laid back, doesn't like change at all and in fact rejects opportunities to be adventurous and has no desire to travel. They value stability and their goals are buying a house and having kids.

Now you are one or the other, and you suddenly get to the point in the relationship where these goals are conflicting. Person A wants to fly away and live in some foreign country for a while, and Person B wants to stay and buy a house.

Do you give up what you want, your life desires, to be with the one you love, or do you make the choice to follow your dreams and lose someone you care about?

I wonder if your life dreams will always come back to haunt you. If person A chooses to stay and live person B's life, will they one day just realize that it isn't what they want and fly away anyway? Or what if person B decides to go with person A on a world adventure and then realizes they want to go home and just picks up and leaves the other?

Or, can you change your life dreams to adapt to your other life choices? Can person A truly let go of their wanderlust and be content? Or vice versa?

I want to know what you guys think.

Posted by jastiC on Jul-15-2008 04:13:

who needs love or dreams wen u got it in a siringe

Posted by Cetra� on Jul-15-2008 04:40:

Your argument presented is biased towards Person A. You have focused on their needs rather than the needs of Person B. Also people generalising relationship issues or treating them like an equation which has a clear answer.

To Person A: I think maybe you should consider what Person B wants

To Person B: Compromise. get a house boat :\

Posted by kadomony on Jul-15-2008 04:42:

I think if person A really craves adventure and new experiences, Person A should not get hung up with society's views on monogamy.

Posted by aNYthing on Jul-15-2008 04:44:

To answer your question: Yes, let him take you up the Hershey highway. After all, it's all about butthole pleasures.

Posted by kadomony on Jul-15-2008 04:45:

do you like salad?

Posted by aNYthing on Jul-15-2008 04:49:

quote:
Originally posted by kadomony
do you like salad?

I like it tossed.

Posted by Silky Johnson on Jul-15-2008 04:51:

Re: Life and Relationships - Dreams and Love

quote:
Originally posted by Theresa
I wonder if your life dreams will always come back to haunt you. If person A chooses to stay and live person B's life, will they one day just realize that it isn't what they want and fly away anyway? Or what if person B decides to go with person A on a world adventure and then realizes they want to go home and just picks up and leaves the other?

They will both certainly learn to resent each other, lol.

Posted by Lilith on Jul-15-2008 04:53:

Re: Re: Life and Relationships - Dreams and Love

quote:
Originally posted by jennypie
They will both certainly learn to resent each other, lol.

Yes, but its the hate that makes it special!

(Buy the house)

Posted by Axer on Jul-15-2008 04:54:

*flips a coin*

Posted by Silky Johnson on Jul-15-2008 04:57:

I think the problem with this question is that you're saying love and dreams are mutually exclusive. What if having love in your life IS one of your dreams?

Posted by Lilith on Jul-15-2008 04:58:

quote:
Originally posted by jennypie
What if having love in your life IS one of your dreams?

You're a deluded under achiever relying on others for your own happiness?

Posted by Silky Johnson on Jul-15-2008 04:58:

LoL...so cynical!

Posted by Lilith on Jul-15-2008 05:00:

hehe

(buy the house!)

Posted by Silky Johnson on Jul-15-2008 05:00:

Posted by Axer on Jul-15-2008 05:01:

Theresa is more important to me!

Posted by Lilith on Jul-15-2008 05:11:

quote:
Originally posted by jennypie

Oh you laugh now...
10 years from now it could be a case of having your 3rd husbands name being burnt off your arse with a laser in the morning (Chucky isn't a good name anywhere though) and tying a leash to the 4yr old ADD brat for a walk down to Walmart sometime in the afternoon for cheap cotton Y fronts... if you don't buy that house!

Posted by Silky Johnson on Jul-15-2008 05:12:

Well shit, I'm not gonna buy it now!

Posted by Lilith on Jul-15-2008 05:14:

FOLLOW URE DREAM GIRLFRIEND!

Call me:

When you get to hell, I'd like to know if its warm

Posted by Axer on Jul-15-2008 05:17:

Give a head to A and a pussy to B. Fixed? LOL

Posted by Silky Johnson on Jul-15-2008 05:17:

quote:
Originally posted by Lilith

When you get to hell, I'd like to know if its warm

Pshyeah, s'if you won't already be there.

Posted by Axer on Jul-15-2008 05:22:

Who's turn is it now?

Posted by Lilith on Jul-15-2008 05:24:

quote:
Originally posted by jennypie
Pshyeah, s'if you won't already be there.

But I'm so sweet and nice!

I never ripped off anyone in real estate that someone else wouldn't have done if they got in first.

Posted by Fibonacci on Jul-15-2008 05:27:

people aren't rocks - they change. Maybe one person will become more adventurous, maybe the other will become more relaxed and contended. It's a roll of the dice.

If neither person is willing to secede on occasion to the occasional overseas vacation, or a weekend spent in pajamas watching all seasons of futurama... If you can't find a common ground here, you'll be unlikely to find a common ground on anything. If it's that important to you, then do it.

Shit or get off the pot!

Posted by Axer on Jul-15-2008 05:33:

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