Is too much sexual experience a turnoff?

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Posted by MrJiveBoJingles on Jul-21-2008 20:40:

Is too much sexual experience a turnoff?

I've encountered a number of people who are wary of dating someone who has had "too many" partners -- what constitutes "too many" can vary depending on age and the person doing the judging...

What do you think?

Posted by elFreak on Jul-21-2008 20:41:

edit: and it shouldn't matter if you are not insecure.

Posted by MrJiveBoJingles on Jul-21-2008 20:43:

What is Pedobear doing in here?

quote:
Originally posted by elFreak
edit: and it shouldn't matter if you are not insecure.

I tend to agree; it seems like the notion of too much experience is a cover for fear -- either that you won't measure up to previous partners, or maybe simply fear of STDs.

Posted by Silky Johnson on Jul-21-2008 20:43:

It's not really about experience.

The numbers only matter to me in the sense that I want a partner with the same values and relationship goals as me. So if they've been with more than a dozen (and that's a high number, imo), I probably wouldn't want anything to do with them.

Posted by squirrelly on Jul-21-2008 20:43:

pfffft, who cares? As long as they're clean!

Do people really still ask the numbers question? I don't.

*edit*

I honestly don't hold past sexual experiences against anyone. I don't think it's fair, it's in the past. End of story. But I do require an STD test to be done.

Posted by UWM on Jul-21-2008 20:43:

quote:
Originally posted by MrJiveBoJingles
it seems like the notion of too much experience is a cover for fear -- either that you won't measure up to previous partners

That pretty much sums it up.

Posted by elFreak on Jul-21-2008 20:44:

well..if you are using a condom and being smart about it it shouldn't matter. STD tests exist for a reason.

how old are you?
(this is serious)

Posted by MrJiveBoJingles on Jul-21-2008 20:44:

quote:
Originally posted by squirrelly
Do people really still ask the numbers question? I don't.

I don't know whether many people ask, but I know that a lot of people still wonder about it.

Posted by elFreak on Jul-21-2008 20:45:

one day you won't care anymore.

these kind of questions are part of growing up.

Posted by UWM on Jul-21-2008 20:46:

quote:
Originally posted by MrJiveBoJingles
I don't know whether many people ask, but I know that a lot of people still wonder about it.

These are people who are young / immature / insecure, and it's usually a combination of the three.

I have no idea how many guys my girlfriend has been with, she has no idea how many women I've been with, and there's no reason either one of us needs to know.

Posted by squirrelly on Jul-21-2008 20:46:

quote:
Originally posted by MrJiveBoJingles
I don't know whether many people ask, but I know that a lot of people still wonder about it.

I don't. I don't even want to know! Whatever you did before me, you did before me. It's none of my business, just like it's none of his business who I have or haven't slept with. We don't discuss that stuff, nor do we EVER discuss past relationships (I don't even know how many gf's he's had - don't care). I think that's why we've never gotten in one fight since we started dating (almost a year ago).

Posted by Axer on Jul-21-2008 20:46:

Posted by MrJiveBoJingles on Jul-21-2008 20:47:

quote:
Originally posted by elFreak
one day you won't care anymore.

these kind of questions are part of growing up.

LOL.

This thread is just a general question, not about my life (I have been dating the same person for years and this issue never came up).

Posted by EXTREMUM on Jul-21-2008 20:48:

Amount of sexual experience and number of sexual partners aren't related. Don't get the two confused. Therefore, there's never such a thing as too much sexual experience.

I've been in three serious relationships, each lasting over three years. So, you figure, averaging around 7 - 10x a week having sex, multiply that by 52 weeks per year, times three years per relationship. That's about 364 - 520 times/year, 1092 - 1560 times per relationship, times the three relationships... 3276 - 4680 times total, and then add the few one-nighters (two or three at most) in my entire life, without giving away my dick around like the NHL Stanley Cup.

Posted by elFreak on Jul-21-2008 20:49:

yeah and i'm not really directing this to you but to your "friend"

all i am saying is the older you get and remain unmarried this becomes less of an issue. 12 people is really not alot if you can consider that in 10 years it is easy to have nothing but relationships AND monogamous sex and still be too much according to "friend".

Posted by MrJiveBoJingles on Jul-21-2008 20:50:

quote:
Originally posted by elFreak
yeah and i'm not really directing this to you but to your "friend"

LOL. This isn't about a "friend," either. Just something I was wondering about.

Really.

Posted by elFreak on Jul-21-2008 20:50:

make up your mind lol, i don't care what you call yourself.

Posted by MrJiveBoJingles on Jul-21-2008 20:51:

quote:
Originally posted by elFreak
make up your mind lol, i don't care what you call yourself.

Well, if all the COR threads I make are about personal issues, I must have a pretty screwed up life...

Posted by Dervish on Jul-21-2008 20:52:

I don't see the concern. Firstly you won't know it'll just likely be a guess ("how many times you been banged?" ain't a usual question). Secondly apart from the STD thing who cares?

It just means you aren't going to have to hold someones hand through it.

Posted by Silky Johnson on Jul-21-2008 20:53:

quote:
Originally posted by elFreak
if you can consider that in 10 years it is easy to have nothing but relationships AND monogamous sex

Exactly. To me that says a lot about how a person functions in a relationship/how serious they take relationships/etc. If I met someone who had 12 relationships in 10 years, I'd wonder what the fuck their problem is.

Posted by david.michael on Jul-21-2008 20:55:

quote:
Originally posted by jennypie
Exactly. To me that says a lot about how a person functions in a relationship/how serious they take relationships/etc. If I met someone who had 12 relationships in 10 years, I'd wonder what the fuck their problem is.

Yeah. It's much better to have one partner and lots of polygamous sex!

/MISCONSTRUING POSTER IS MISCONSTRUING!

Posted by Silky Johnson on Jul-21-2008 20:55:

Yeah no.

Posted by on Jul-21-2008 20:55:

quote:
Originally posted by UWM
These are people who are young / immature / insecure, and it's usually a combination of the three.

I have no idea how many guys my girlfriend has been with, she has no idea how many women I've been with, and there's no reason either one of us needs to know.

Pretty much hit the nail on the head. On the other hand,

If you can bungee from her piss-flaps then you can guestimate just how experienced she is without even having to ask.

Posted by david.michael on Jul-21-2008 20:56:

quote:
Originally posted by jennypie
Yeah no.

qft

Posted by squirrelly on Jul-21-2008 20:56:

quote:
Originally posted by jennypie
Exactly. To me that says a lot about how a person functions in a relationship/how serious they take relationships/etc. If I met someone who had 12 relationships in 10 years, I'd wonder what the fuck their problem is.

It works the other way around too though. (being single for a very long time and then going into a relationship)

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