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a topic that really needs to be covered...

How do you exactly define a boyfriend or girlfriend? When two people are labeled "boyfriend/girlfriend".

ie. dating? making out? etc

When two people mutually agree to exclusively see eachother only.

Or when their Facebook profile says so

ya but some people have multiple bfs/gfs

when facebook profile says so.


don't have to be exclusive to be boyfriend/girlfriend. I know peeps that swing.

Regular sex with the occasional pillow talk?

Or how about just whenever you decide you want to call each other that, instead of having an exact definition.

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Originally posted by Dr. Z How do you exactly define a boyfriend or girlfriend? When two people are labeled "boyfriend/girlfriend". ie. dating? making out? etc

neither at the dating/making out stage

you really become bf/gf when you actually talk about it and come to agreement. otherwise its all fair play

been burned/lucky about it lol

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Originally posted by Invasionmix When two people mutually agree to exclusively see eachother only.

yeah but people also have open relationships

lets not forget about friends with a benefits package

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Originally posted by DigiNut Regular sex with the occasional pillow talk? Or how about just whenever you decide you want to call each other that, instead of having an exact definition.

Yes, but what if you don't decide to call each other that, but other people decide to call you that?

lol other ppl call u a dweeb? are u a dweeb?

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Originally posted by Invasionmix When two people mutually agree to exclusively see eachother only. Or when their Facebook profile says so

ha! what about people who don't use facebook?...or a computer for that matter.

my cousin has been with the same chicky for years....he seriously doesn't know how to turn on my comp.

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Originally posted by Invasionmix When two people mutually agree to exclusively see eachother only. Or when their Facebook profile says so

I think its more when two people decide to have a romantic commitment to each other.
As some people mentioned already some people do have open relationships, however I would still think they have a romantic commitment to one another... they may go off and sleep with another person but will still come home to their bf/gf..
That being said I think it is important that a couple has an understanding of what their commitment to each other means.

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Originally posted by Intangible ... they may go off and sleep with another person but will still come home to their bf/gf..

WHAT?!
LOL Tara go back to sleep baby... or clarify

If my bf went off to sleep with another chick and then came home to me - he would be greeted with a punch in the nose and a "good-bye jerk!"


To answer the OP - if you don't know whether you are bf/gf or not, then you definitely aren't. A commitment like that comes hand in hand with an open willingness to discuss such things. If you can't ask your prospective gf if she is your gf or not, then you definitely aren't close enough with her to bring your relationship to an exclusive status.

When she says you are.

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Originally posted by Ania_xox WHAT?! LOL Tara go back to sleep baby... or clarify If my bf went off to sleep with another chick and then came home to me - he would be greeted with a punch in the nose and a "good-bye jerk!"

I agree... If my boyfriend slept with another chick Im pretty sure it would be worse than a punch in the nose. To me a relationship is an exclusive commitment to each other. However not for everyone. So I tried to give a definition that was simple and qualified for every type of relationship. Thats why I said it was important for a couple to have an understanding of what their commitment to each other means.

when it would no longer be appropriate to make out/sleep with their friends or family

lol this thread is useless

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Originally posted by Ania_xox WHAT?! LOL Tara go back to sleep baby... or clarify If my bf went off to sleep with another chick and then came home to me - he would be greeted with a punch in the nose and a "good-bye jerk!"

If someone was to have an open relationship - the rules and things like that would be discussed. If you were in a closed relationship and your BF came home saying "Hey, I just fucked around with Sally", a punch in the nose would be expected.

But, if you guys had agreed to an open relationship - then that wouldn't be the case.

To me, becoming 'partners' BF/GF, boyfriends, girlfriends, open/closed or whatever combination of the two comes when both parties agree to a romantic/emotional commitment to each other. It may or may not be sexually exclusive, but usually at some point "the talk" happens that clarifies your status to the other person/and the other way around.

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Originally posted by Intangible I agree... If my boyfriend slept with another chick Im pretty sure it would be worse than a punch in the nose. To me a relationship is an exclusive commitment to each other. However not for everyone. So I tried to give a definition that was simple and qualified for every type of relationship. Thats why I said it was important for a couple to have an understanding of what their commitment to each other means.

yah agreed
nothing is worse then being committed to someone who can't commit back

every damn girl on here has a BF... FFS...

okay..

what ladies are currently single???

(no i am not being desperate)

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Originally posted by jsibilin every damn girl on here has a BF... FFS... okay.. what ladies are currently single??? (no i am not being desperate)

LOL

When you are exclusive with each other with time behind that (like longer than a month) - "threesomes only upon permission" you could call it too

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Originally posted by ChemEnhanced When she says you are.

yup.

and why is this "a topic that really needs to be covered"?

Sorry if this offends anyone:

"Open relationships" are for cowards and/or sluts.

When two people decide to spend time together because they enjoy eachother's company - that is called being friends. (this does not qualify as a romantic/serious relationship)

When two people decide to have sex with one another because they are attracted to eachother - that is called being "fuck friends", if you will. (this ALSO does not qualify as a relationship)

When two people decide that they would rather spend their time with their respective mate than with anyone else AND voice this commitment - THAT imo is a relationship.

BF/GF just feels real. Sounds corny but you just know. If you're not sure - you're not there yet.

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Originally posted by Ania_xox Sorry if this offends anyone: "Open relationships" are for cowards and/or sluts.

you are a fucking idiot.

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