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Are you a Sex/Love Addict???

Sex and Love Addiction

Love addicts go through life with desperate hopes and constant fears. Fearing rejection, pain, unfamiliar experiences, and having little faith in their ability or right to inspire love, they wait and wish for love, perhaps their least familiar real experience.

Addictive sexuality is like most other compulsive behaviors: a destructive twist on a normal life-enhancing activity. Defining sex addiction depends less on the behavior itself than on the person's motivation.

Sex addicts lack the ability to control or postpone sexual feelings and actions, with the need for arousal often replacing the need for intimacy. Eventually, thrill seeking becomes more important than family, career, even personal health and safety.

The sex addict follows a routine or ritual leading to acting out on desires, and is then fraught by feelings of denial then shame, despair, and confusion.

Addiction is characterized by the repeated, compulsive seeking or use of a substance or activity despite negative social, psychological and/or physical consequences. It is often (but not always) accompanied by physical dependence, withdrawal syndrome and tolerance.

Withdrawal consists of a predictable group of signs resulting from abrupt removal of, or a rapid decrease in the dosage of, a psychoactive substance or activity. The syndrome is often characterized by overactivity of the physiologic functions that were suppressed by the drug and/or depression of the functions that were stimulated by the object of addiction.

Tolerance is a state in which a drug or activity produces a diminishing response. That is to say, higher doses (or in the case of sex addicts, riskier behavior) is needed to produce the same effect that the user experienced initially.

Symptoms
For love addicts, love:

Is all consuming and obsessive
Is inhibited
Avoids risk or change
Lacks true intimacy
Is manipulative, strikes deals
Is dependent and parasitic
Demands the loved one's devotion
Sexual addictions usually are revealed in stages:

Preoccupation: continual fantasies about sexual prospects or situations, which can trigger episodes of sexual "acting-out"
Ritualization: a preferred sexual activity or situation is often stereotyped and repetitive
Compulsion: continual engagement in sexual activity despite negative consequences and desire to stop
Despair: guilt or shame over inability to control behavior or feel remorse
Other behavioral problems, particularly chemical dependency and eating disorders
Causes
In the situation of love addicts, often their own growth and development were thwarted earlier in life. Similarly, many sex addicts report some type of abuse or neglect as children and see themselves as damaged. Their parents are often sex addicts themselves.

Stress also encourages compulsive sexual behavior by feeding the addict's need for withdrawal and fantasy.

Levels of phenylethylamine (PEA)�a chemical in the brain involved in the euphoria that comes with falling in love�rise with feelings of infatuation, boosting euphoria and excitement.

Love and sex addicts, may simply be dependent upon the physical and psychological arousal triggered by PEA and stress-related neurotransmitters.

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i love having sex, could have it everyday really, does that make me an addict?

interesting read, thanks

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Originally posted by gypsygirl could have it everyday really

How many times a day?

So when is one considered a nymphomaniac?

Having sex every day doesn't make you an addict. I believe its only a problem when it negatively effects your life and is detrimental in some way.

what's wrong with having sex everyday?

Am a freaking SLUT!

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Originally posted by Techno_Twins Having sex every day doesn't make you an addict. I believe its only a problem when it negatively effects your life and is detrimental in some way.

Can the same be applied to drug use?

everyone in this thread now has aids!

im a virgin...

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Originally posted by R!CH everyone in this thread now has aids!

fck off rich, just b/c you have herpes doesn't mean you have to rip on others

We should have a thread title, "who wants to have sex?"

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Originally posted by gypsygirl fck off rich, just b/c you have herpes doesn't mean you have to rip on others

Ouch.

...Sex Laws...

1.The more beautiful the woman is who loves you, the easier it is to leave her with no hard feelings.

2.Nothing improves with age.

3.No matter how many times you've had it, if it's offered take it, because it'll never be quite the same again.

4.Sex has no calories.

5.Sex takes up the least amount of time and causes the most amount of trouble.

6.There is no remedy for sex but more sex.

7.Sex appeal is 50% what you've got and 50% what people think you've got.

8.No sex with anyone in the same office.

9.Sex is like snow; you never know how many inches you are going to get or how long it is going to last.

10.A man in the house is worth two in the street.

11.If you get them by the balls, their hearts and minds will follow.

12.Virginity can be cured.

13.When a man's wife learns to understand him, she usually stops listening to him.

14.Never sleep with anyone crazier than yourself.

15.The qualities that most attract a woman to a man are usually the same ones she can't stand years later.

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Originally posted by bas Can the same be applied to drug use?

I say yes because I am an expert in both areas, just kidding.

In my opinion its not the process so much that is the problem, its the outcome. For example, if one is engaging in compulsive sexual acts and or abusing drugs to the point where they feel they have lost control or feel continuous feelings of disgrace and guilt about their actions then there's a problem.

The viewpoint I feel that the article was trying portray was that just having sex everyday does not make you a sex addict. Sex addiction is comprised of compulsive sexual encounters that become self-destructive, unmanageable and are continuously acted out with no emotional fulfillment. SO that, they feel shameful and powerless after wards.
Even more so they are unable to stop even though it causes progressive problems in all aspects of their life, i.e. work, marriage, family. The addict uses sex to self-medicate in order to alleviate stress, emotional pain and attempts to confront or reenact any fears they have about sex, presumably because they were sexually abused as a child.

There are MANY people with enormous sex drives, and more power to them. So, to all freaks out there you have nothing to worry about because, the quantity of sex is not what is harmful its the quality so to speak. At least that's what I took from it.
Whoooooa that was a tangent, what can I say I love stuff like this, that's why I'm studying it

Quality is what matters.

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Nothing improves with age.

Oh yes it does but it also depends.

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Originally posted by TSG Quality is what matters. Oh yes it does but it also depends.

Agreed but I was referring more to the negative emotional side effect afterwards. If your not feeling good about it then quality probably isn't good, meaning quality of life.

Wow thanks for this bullshit article.

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Originally posted by RickyRoma Wow thanks for this bullshit article.

Wow thanks for this bullshit reply.

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Originally posted by DJ Taj Wow thanks for this bullshit reply.

You tell 'em baby!!

Usually it wouldn't be considered an addiction if it has no negative affects on a persons life.

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