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Posted by IpLaYWiTLiGhTs on Oct-06-2008 21:02:

Music vs Relationships

Having some problems with my other half...

I guess she doesn't understand my hobby of music and all the things that come with it - reading up on all the articles/forums, hunting down music, all the money spending, etc.

It's come down to the point where I really have no time to session or go clubbing because she rather me spend time with her. She's a real stay at home person who likes to watch tv, read books, etc.

Pretty much comes down to shes jealous and feels unimportant, which I think is uncalled for because I spend lots of time with her. I know it's about balancing things out, but she really has no respect for MY hobbies...

Anyone else have problems like this? Does it really seem we're obsessed with the music thing or do they just not understand the hobby?

Posted by elFreak on Oct-06-2008 21:04:

there are more important things in life than music and clubbing. If you have nothing in common why are you with her?

also: i bet if she was posting we would hear a different side. Do you think she is lying to you?

the jealousy argument is never a good one, come on now...you read the forums

Posted by Silky Johnson on Oct-06-2008 21:06:

If it wasn't music, it'd be something else. You either trust someone and can allow them their freedom to pursue things you have no interest in, or not.

I mean unless you aren't balancing your time between music and her, then it's understandable.

Posted by idoru on Oct-06-2008 21:09:

quote:
Originally posted by jennypie
I mean unless you aren't balancing your time between music and her, then it's understandable.

I have $10 that this is what's going on.

Posted by elFreak on Oct-06-2008 21:10:

same here, hence my post.

Posted by Silky Johnson on Oct-06-2008 21:11:

Hmm...how many times a week do you tow have sex?

Posted by IpLaYWiTLiGhTs on Oct-06-2008 21:12:

4/7 average?

Give or take every now and then...

Posted by Alex on Oct-06-2008 21:12:

quote:
Originally posted by jennypie
tow

Alright there Googooly, get off Jennypie`s account you rat bastard.

Posted by Silky Johnson on Oct-06-2008 21:13:

Shit.

Posted by elFreak on Oct-06-2008 21:13:

the better question is...would you rather be without her?

Posted by Silky Johnson on Oct-06-2008 21:15:

You should never invalidate someone's feelings, btw. Who are you to say "It's uncalled for" that she feels jealous and unimportant?? If that's how she feels, that's how she feels! A better boyfriend would be asking what they could do to make her feel better, or suggesting that he make more time for her.

Posted by IpLaYWiTLiGhTs on Oct-06-2008 21:16:

quote:
Originally posted by elFreak
the better question is...would you rather be without her?

of course not. I would never choose music or any hobby over her.

I just think shes being unfair.

I think one of the biggest problems is that she doesn't have that many hobbies herself which makes it harder for her to pass time, thus making me her entertainment.

Posted by whiskers on Oct-06-2008 21:16:

Re: Music vs Relationships

quote:
Originally posted by IpLaYWiTLiGhTs
She's a real stay at home person who likes to watch tv, read books, etc.

FAIL

quote:
Originally posted by elFreak
there are more important things in life than music and clubbing.

Of course. Like feeding the hungry or helping the needy. Doesn't mean anything.

quote:
Originally posted by elFreak If you have nothing in common why are you with her?

Ding ding ding!

Also, she sounds a bit selfish.
And so do you.

Posted by whiskers on Oct-06-2008 21:17:

quote:
Originally posted by IpLaYWiTLiGhTs
making me her entertainment.

FAIL.

how many days until you break up and you hear a ring at you door at 3 am and find a teddy bear on the steps with a knife through its eye. huh? HUH?

Posted by elFreak on Oct-06-2008 21:17:

Re: Re: Music vs Relationships

quote:
Originally posted by whiskers
FAIL

Of course. Like feeding the hungry or helping the needy. Doesn't mean anything.

let me guess...still in college.

Posted by elFreak on Oct-06-2008 21:18:

quote:
Originally posted by IpLaYWiTLiGhTs
of course not. I would never choose music or any hobby over her.

I just think shes being unfair.

I think one of the biggest problems is that she doesn't have that many hobbies herself which makes it harder for her to pass time, thus making me her entertainment.

is it at all possible though that she might be right just a little? even an iota?

Posted by IpLaYWiTLiGhTs on Oct-06-2008 21:19:

Of course I'm being biased about the situation, but I can attest that we spend the ass load of time together. We live together, go to school together, used to work at the same job, go out all the time for dinner/random activities.

People need time alone sometimes, as much as I enjoy her company.

Posted by Silky Johnson on Oct-06-2008 21:19:

quote:
Originally posted by IpLaYWiTLiGhTs
of course not. I would never choose music or any hobby over her.

I just think shes being unfair.

I think one of the biggest problems is that she doesn't have that many hobbies herself which makes it harder for her to pass time, thus making me her entertainment.

So then invite her out to your parties, show her your music, teach her about what you love. If she has no interest in that either, then she should stfu.

Posted by elFreak on Oct-06-2008 21:20:

i thought you said she never wants to go out, yet you go out all the time.;p

the reality here is that you live with it, or you live without it.

it really is that simple...you can't always have everything the way you want it.

Posted by whiskers on Oct-06-2008 21:20:

Re: Re: Re: Music vs Relationships

quote:
Originally posted by elFreak
let me guess...still in college.

let me elaborate for you. a person who likes going to clubs and listen to music complaining about dating a person who likes to read books and stay at home... FAIL.

have you tried anal?

Posted by IpLaYWiTLiGhTs on Oct-06-2008 21:21:

quote:
Originally posted by jennypie
So then invite her out to your parties, show her your music, teach her about what you love. If she has no interest in that either, then she should stfu.

tried.

she's not into it. she doesn't like staying out late, doesn't like drinking, and doesn't like the music.

Posted by l�cid on Oct-06-2008 21:21:

quote:
Originally posted by IpLaYWiTLiGhTs
I think one of the biggest problems is that she doesn't have that many hobbies herself which makes it harder for her to pass time, thus making me her entertainment.

be careful with people like this. if she is relying on you for entertainment what does that say about who she is as an individual?

Posted by MeLLyMeL on Oct-06-2008 21:22:

Music is a big part of my life too and I'm glad I have a boyfriend who knows more about it then I do - but it's not all that great either.

We fight about what's good and what's not too

He's mostly into Trance and not so much party, PARTY, "party" - I'm into anything with a good beat and especially a damn good party.

Posted by elFreak on Oct-06-2008 21:22:

Re: Re: Re: Re: Music vs Relationships

quote:
Originally posted by whiskers

have you tried anal?

you didn't see the pics?

Posted by IpLaYWiTLiGhTs on Oct-06-2008 21:22:

Re: Re: Re: Re: Music vs Relationships

quote:
Originally posted by whiskers
have you tried anal?

the answer is as simple as that?!

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