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Forgive me if this is a subject that's already been discussed in the c0r... I'm still a spring chicken by TA standards.

Anyway, I want to share a little experience and see if you all feel the same way I do. I visited one of my old friends this past weekend who had her first baby 9 months ago. She is one of the few people left from my original clique dating back to the 3rd grade, and the 2nd one of my true inner circle of friends to have had a baby recently.

So, there I am at lunch with her and her baby... watching the circus that appears to be parenthood. I saw my friend all "amazed" and "wowed" at every little motion and/or sound the baby would make, and in my head I was saying, "I don't get it. That baby is just wriggling around with no control of its body... where's the amazement?" Then she would talk to it as if she was having a conversation with someone who truly undertsands what is being said. Again, I'm there thinking, "Ugh... how boring that must be. You know the kid doesn't know what you're talking about. Why are you wasting your time?" I know you have to communicate with them of course, but I feel stupid talking to babies and kids who obviously don't know what I'm saying... which is part of the reason I can't stand to be around them.

You see, I have practially no experience with babies/infants/little kids. I want to like them, but I just can't find a shread of emotion for them. Everyone says, "well wait till you have your own... you'll fall in love instantly and undersand how amazing it is and blah blah blah." But what if that doesn't happen? I try to think, "well I feel this way because it's someone else's kid," but I really don't know.

It's very discouraging but whatever... I can't force myself to enjoy their company. They seem so complicated, and why would I want to complicate my life for something that won't really understand me for possibly 20 years, is a financial burden, and has no guarantee at actually becoming someone productive or worthwhile?

Anyone else get where I'm coming from?

It's amazing because there are certain developmental milestones one can expect as an infant ages. The presence or absence of certain reflexes is one major indicator early on, hence why every little movement or coo, or whatever the fuck is so awesome and exciting to new parents.

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Originally posted by jennypie It's amazing because there are certain developmental milestones one can expect as an infant ages. The presence or absence of certain reflexes is one major indicator early on, hence why every little movement or coo, or whatever the fuck is so awesome and exciting to new parents.

It's even more bizarre for me when I see people who don't have kids to get all gooey around other peoples' kids. I'm a really emotional person too, which freaks me out in that I can't find emotion for babies and little kids.

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Originally posted by The17sss Forgive me if this is a subject that's already been discussed in the c0r... I'm still a spring chicken by TA standards. Anyway, I want to share a little experience and see if you all feel the same way I do. I visited one of my old friends this past weekend who had her first baby 9 months ago. She is one of the few people left from my original clique dating back to the 3rd grade, and the 2nd one of my true inner circle of friends to have had a baby recently. So, there I am at lunch with her and her baby... watching the circus that appears to be parenthood. I saw my friend all "amazed" and "wowed" at every little motion and/or sound the baby would make, and in my head I was saying, "I don't get it. That baby is just wriggling around with no control of its body... where's the amazement?" Then she would talk to it as if she was having a conversation with someone who truly undertsands what is being said. Again, I'm there thinking, "Ugh... how boring that must be. You know the kid doesn't know what you're talking about. Why are you wasting your time?" I know you have to communicate with them of course, but I feel stupid talking to babies and kids who obviously don't know what I'm saying... which is part of the reason I can't stand to be around them. You see, I have practially no experience with babies/infants/little kids. I want to like them, but I just can't find a shread of emotion for them. Everyone says, "well wait till you have your own... you'll fall in love instantly and undersand how amazing it is and blah blah blah." But what if that doesn't happen? I try to think, "well I feel this way because it's someone else's kid," but I really don't know. It's very discouraging but whatever... I can't force myself to enjoy their company. They seem so complicated, and why would I want to complicate my life for something that won't really understand me for possibly 20 years, is a financial burden, and has no guarantee at actually becoming someone productive or worthwhile? Anyone else get where I'm coming from?

You friggin' asshole, there was a study that said talking "goo goo gaga" to your baby was not as helpful as talking to it in plain english, because when you talk in plain english, the baby develops language skills faster.

I'm also pretty sure that you will be fascinated too when a baby human being comes out of your vagina (or penis). Not a cat, not a frog, not a moose, but another human being.

Have you no compassion?

Holy shit, were you raised by wolves?

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Originally posted by The17sss It's even more bizarre for me when I see people who don't have kids to get all gooey around other peoples' kids. I'm a really emotional person too, which freaks me out in that I can't find emotion for babies and little kids.

Meh w/e. Kids aren't for everyone.

What's the difference between a Cadillac and a pile of dead babies?











































the17sss doesn't have a Cadillac in his garage.

Wait. I've figured it out. The17sss is Rorshach.

Seriously, think about it. Look at his fucking title.

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Originally posted by Renzo Holy shit, were you raised by wolves?

This is my dilemma. I have a great family, loving parents, and so on... which gives all indications that I should be fine in that arena. I love my cats even though they don't really understand what I'm talking about, so maybe there's hope.

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Originally posted by The17sss This is my dilemma. I have a great family, loving parents, and so on... which gives all indications that I should be fine in that arena. I love my cats even though they don't really understand what I'm talking about, so maybe there's hope.

Shut up, liar! You're a masked anti-hero. You don't have a family!

You won't understand it until you have one of your own.

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Originally posted by Lebezniatnikov the17sss doesn't have a Cadillac in his garage.

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Originally posted by Akridrot Shut up, liar! You're a masked anti-hero. You don't have a family!

This is my hero, son!

I see. How does your girl feel about kids? Actually, I think I've seen your girl. I think you might have posted a pic or seven thousand.

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Originally posted by Renzo I see. How does your girl feel about kids? Actually, I think I've seen your girl. I think you might have posted a pic or seven thousand.

haha... she LOVES kids, wants kids, and is ready when I am. I see bickering on the horizon.

You need a son, man. Carry on the family name. Besides, who else are you smoke weed with when he turns one?

good point

All in due time. If you love your cats as much as you say you do, a son or daughter will show you an even deeper love.

Soon enough you'll be listening to Air Supply and having cuddle parties.

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Originally posted by The17sss Forgive me if this is a subject that's already been discussed in the c0r... I'm still a spring chicken by TA standards. Anyway, I want to share a little experience and see if you all feel the same way I do. I visited one of my old friends this past weekend who had her first baby 9 months ago. She is one of the few people left from my original clique dating back to the 3rd grade, and the 2nd one of my true inner circle of friends to have had a baby recently. So, there I am at lunch with her and her baby... watching the circus that appears to be parenthood. I saw my friend all "amazed" and "wowed" at every little motion and/or sound the baby would make, and in my head I was saying, "I don't get it. That baby is just wriggling around with no control of its body... where's the amazement?" Then she would talk to it as if she was having a conversation with someone who truly undertsands what is being said. Again, I'm there thinking, "Ugh... how boring that must be. You know the kid doesn't know what you're talking about. Why are you wasting your time?" I know you have to communicate with them of course, but I feel stupid talking to babies and kids who obviously don't know what I'm saying... which is part of the reason I can't stand to be around them. You see, I have practially no experience with babies/infants/little kids. I want to like them, but I just can't find a shread of emotion for them. Everyone says, "well wait till you have your own... you'll fall in love instantly and undersand how amazing it is and blah blah blah." But what if that doesn't happen? I try to think, "well I feel this way because it's someone else's kid," but I really don't know. It's very discouraging but whatever... I can't force myself to enjoy their company. They seem so complicated, and why would I want to complicate my life for something that won't really understand me for possibly 20 years, is a financial burden, and has no guarantee at actually becoming someone productive or worthwhile? Anyone else get where I'm coming from?

Bingo. I feel exactly the same way. Kids are little cunts too.

Thank god my gf feels the same way.

wait till she's 35 before u knock her up.

after she's 35 you wont get none so it doesnt matter what her veg will look like after the pregnancy

I don't like kids and I don't even like being around them.
I don't think they're funny, cute, or special.

I avoid them because I cannot summon a sufficient display of feigned awe and I end up offending the parents.

I like to touch other peoples babies.... with my 9000 penises.

i didnt even like children when i was a child. and nothing bores me more than people who have nothing to talk about other than their kids. i use kids more as a means for talking to the parents. 'and hasn't mummy got tremendously big boobies at the moment!' i'll coo. but as far as giving a fuck about them, couldn't care less. they're like a pet but less obedient and less fun.

To be fair though, the little new-borns are pretty cute, in their weird little way.

I love their tiny little, perfectly formed hands, with tiny little fingernails.

Makes my dick look huge.

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Originally posted by The17sss It's very discouraging but whatever... I can't force myself to enjoy their company. They seem so complicated, and why would I want to complicate my life for something that won't really understand me for possibly 20 years, is a financial burden, and has no guarantee at actually becoming someone productive or worthwhile? Anyone else get where I'm coming from?

If you're thinking about the pay off then you're definitely not ready to have kids. Buy a dog. Have a kid when you're ready to give 100% to it, place all your needs second to the child's and not expect a anything in return.

re babies.. I find them fascinating to interact with. in the first 5 years of their lives they are learning faster than any animal or adult human can. You can literally shape their personalities. I find watching/participating in that learning process amazing. It's awesome watcing my nephew figure stuff out for the first time.

The other thing is babies are meant to be the epitome of cute. Evolution has made us have protective instincts towards babies, so we love them for no reason in particular. In fact the only reason we find puppies and kittens cute is because they happen to share some of the same proportions as babies.. triggering the protective response. generally: smallness of frame; disproportionally large heads in relation to bodies; large eyes in proportion to face; and softness/baby fat are all factors that trigger the cuteness response.

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