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I find myself totally introverted to the point of being angry when I have to deal with situations involving more than a few of my close friends.

I can go maybe a day with dealing with groups of people I don't know very well, but after that I just kinda go "fuck this" and shut down and become bitter.



I also enjoy being alone but get jealous of other people when they go out and do something fun, even if I am totally unrelated to the people doing it.




ahhh FML /emothread

I kinda understand what you're saying, in a less bitter way. In the past year or so, I find myself actively avoiding social situations I would have gladly underaken in the past... and staying at home doing nothing instead. If I had enough money to retire, I think I'd be perfectly happy moving to some remote sea-side town in Italy or something where I don't know anybody and don't have any obligations to talk to people or be around people I recognize. lol

That's one reason I use the Internet so much. You get to interact with other minds, but without all the hassle of obligations and having to set up times to meet and pick places to go. It's easier. And it's also much less difficult to find people who share your interests.

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Originally posted by The17sss I kinda understand what you're saying, in a less bitter way. In the past year or so, I find myself actively avoiding social situations I would have gladly underaken in the past... and staying at home doing nothing instead. If I had enough money to retire, I think I'd be perfectly happy moving to some remote sea-side town in Italy or something where I don't know anybody and don't have any obligations to talk to people or be around people I recognize. lol

The urge in me to pick up and leave everything and just go away someplace and never talk to my friends or family again is very strong.

The odd part is that I have no ill will towards any of them. It just feels like I need to GTFO.

i fucking hate people. making small-talk with someone you don't give a shit about is painful.

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Originally posted by MrJiveBoJingles That's one reason I use the Internet so much. You get to interact with other minds, but without all the hassle of obligations and having to set up times to meet and pick places to go. It's easier. And it's also much less difficult to find people who share your interests.

Yea, I like the internet becsuse there is no obligation to continue communication...

If I were to talk about this in real life... either people wouldn't care or they'd care too much.

If I want to I can go to bed right now. No obligation to continue talking at all.

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Originally posted by pkcRAISTLIN i fucking hate people.

I lol'd

I is introvert. Retail selling and customer service are two things I won't ever do.

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Originally posted by pkcRAISTLIN making small-talk with someone you don't give a shit about is painful.

seriously.
but it's necessary for interaction so i do it anyway ;\

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Originally posted by MrJiveBoJingles That's one reason I use the Internet so much. You get to interact with other minds, but without all the hassle of obligations and having to set up times to meet and pick places to go. It's easier. And it's also much less difficult to find people who share your interests.

What I find disturbing is that I see that it works the other way round for more and more people.

You might use the Internet alot because of your introversion, but many people are becoming more and more introvert (or even antisocial) because they spend so much time on the Internet.

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Originally posted by Krypton I is introvert. Retail selling and customer service are two things I won't ever do.

I am getting more and more introverted too. And I am in the selling business. I fucking hate small talk.

Some of the feelings posted here aren't due to introversion, they're symptoms of other issues that are best dealt with in therapy, and I really recommend doing so if it's affecting your life. You'll be so much happier if you do, and it's usually covered by major health-care providers.
For those with actual introversion, check out a book called 'The Introvert Advantage" (I forget the author). It gives lots of insight into the condition, and ideas on how to deal with most situations that extroverts seem to have no problem with. Introversion seems limiting, and it can be in many ways that extroverts take for granted, but it has some pretty amazing positive traits too.
As for using the internet to fill social needs, it really only works a little bit. Being around friends or people you feel comfortable with fills a basic human need. The brain actually releases a chemical when you socialize (in person). I'm not saying it doesn't work at all, I do it, just that if you're using it for a majority of your social interaction, it's not healthy.

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Originally posted by WittyHandle Some of the feelings posted here aren't due to introversion, they're symptoms of other issues that are best dealt with in therapy

Hating people is not a symptom of something that needs therapy. That's just common sense. It takes a really strong (or naive) person to realize how much shit humanity has done over the years of its existence and NOT hate people.

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Originally posted by creon444 Hating people is not a symptom of something that needs therapy. That's just common sense. It takes a really strong (or naive) person to realize how much shit humanity has done over the years of its existence and NOT hate people.

I hate people. A lot of people hate other people, that's why it's so fucking hard for our species to get along with each other most of the time. You don't need to sit there and whine about how you hate people to some fucking therapist who is going to give you some prozac or something to help get over it. I hardly ever party these days, mostly because I hate putting up with a bunch of assholes that I don't know.

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Originally posted by ziptnf I hate people. A lot of people hate other people, that's why it's so fucking hard for our species to get along with each other most of the time. You don't need to sit there and whine about how you hate people to some fucking therapist who is going to give you some prozac or something to help get over it. I hardly ever party these days, mostly because I hate putting up with a bunch of assholes that I don't know.

That's why I carry my old prison shiv with me when I go out. Say something stupid? Lose a kidney.

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Originally posted by pkcRAISTLIN i fucking hate people. making small-talk with someone you don't give a shit about is painful.

It's so bad for me since i live in the barracks. I know a shit ton of people and they think we are friends and just start talking about shit that i have no interest in hearing.

I'll go out in the smoke pit to enjoy a cig and sit off to the side indicating i don't want to talk to anyone. Low and behold some douche bag wants to talk about something i have no interest in hearing. It's fucking annoying. If i'm in a good mood i'll drift off and nod my head making them think im listening to them. When im in a bad mood i tell them straight up i dont care. I did that yesterday when i was at the store and this ****** starts talking about his girl and i said I. Don't. Care. and he giggles like i was joking and kept on talking so i acted super interested and turned on my sarcastic switch on till he walked away. That's right fag boy go take your cowboy hat somewhere else. Fuck him. HA!

I am better than everyone. i don't need them. We don't need them. We needs it. Must have the precious. They stole it from us. Sneaky little hobbits.
No, not master.
Yes. Precious! First, they will cheat you, hurt you, lie.
Master's my friend.
You don't have any friends! Nobody likes you!
Not listening. Not listening.
You're a liar and a thief.
No!
Murderer!
Go away, go away! I hate you. I hate you.
Where would you be without me! I saved us. It was me. We survived because of me.
Not anymore.
What did you say?
Master looks after us now. We don't need you.
What?
Leave now and never come back.
NOOO.
Leave now and never come back! Leave now and never come back!


I am an introverted person. The best way to deal with this is not believe that everyone out there is an annoying chatty asshole. No, don't believe that. Know that.

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Originally posted by creon444 It takes a really strong (or naive) person to realize how much shit humanity has done over the years of its existence and NOT hate people.

You're somewhat right if you go with the 'strong' option. I wasn't saying that hating anyone is a sign of needing therapy, but a desire to remove yourself from people altogether is a flag. You also don't have to factor in all of humanity's history to form your view on life. Hating the people you see everyday for things people in the past (that you will never meet) have done won't make you happy.

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Originally posted by Chris Crossland I know a shit ton of people and they think we are friends and just start talking about shit that i have no interest in hearing.

It feels strange to me too, but honestly this is how a lot of people think. It's not a bad thing, it's just different. Lots of people think of anyone they have a casual conversation with as a friend. Personally, I think of a friend as someone I have a good amount in common with (at least in the way we think). I wish I could handle small talk as well as most people do, I really do, but I can't. I just accept that we think differently.

gotta say i agree with wittyhandle. its one thing to hate someone because of something they did, but to hate people in general because you think humanity is fucked is not the way to go. there are still good ppl. out there, and you'll never meet them if you hate anyone and everyone all the time and withdraw into your own world.

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Originally posted by Chris Crossland It's so bad for me since i live in the barracks. I know a shit ton of people and they think we are friends and just start talking about shit that i have no interest in hearing. I'll go out in the smoke pit to enjoy a cig and sit off to the side indicating i don't want to talk to anyone. Low and behold some douche bag wants to talk about something i have no interest in hearing. It's fucking annoying. If i'm in a good mood i'll drift off and nod my head making them think im listening to them. When im in a bad mood i tell them straight up i dont care. I did that yesterday when i was at the store and this ****** starts talking about his girl and i said I. Don't. Care. and he giggles like i was joking and kept on talking so i acted super interested and turned on my sarcastic switch on till he walked away. That's right fag boy go take your cowboy hat somewhere else. Fuck him. HA!

you're still IN? WTF I thought you were out of the service?

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Originally posted by pkcRAISTLIN i fucking hate people. making small-talk with someone you don't give a shit about is painful.

haha!! oh man can I realate to this. I consciously take the long alternative route when going somewhere if I see someone I recognize so I can avoid small talk. Unless it's a real friend that I talk to on a regular basis, I avoid them at all costs. It started in college when I'd come back from Christmas vacation... the first 2 weeks afterwards, any time I'd see someone I recognized on campus it would be the same fucking thing.
Random Person: "Hey... how was your vacation?"
Me: "Fine, yours?"
"Fine. Good... get anything cool?"
"Meh.. the usual. You?"
"Yeah you know."
"Cool."
"Sucks to be back in school man."
"Yeah for sure."
"Ok I gotta get to class, see you around."
"Ok see ya."

So, I just started hiding out for the first 2 weeks after classes resumed to avoid all of that and it has carried over into my regular routine. I was in the post office yesterday and saw some guy I hadn't seen in like 6 years that I used to be decent friends with. I was standing 2 feet from him and he didn't see me... I made sure I got my mail and scurried out of there before he could see me. Nothing against him but I knew exactly how the "what have you been up to, how have you been" discussion would have gone and I wanted nothing to do with it.

tl;dr. however

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Originally posted by Joss Weatherby The urge in me to pick up and leave everything and just go away someplace and never talk to my friends or family again is very strong. The odd part is that I have no ill will towards any of them. It just feels like I need to GTFO.

why don't you try this then, maybe for a year or so? fuck, if it feels right, do it.

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Originally posted by pkcRAISTLIN i fucking hate people. making small-talk with someone you don't give a shit about is painful.

I agree with this.

So how've you been?

Ygrene is so introverted, he doesn't answer PMs.

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