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What if you could start a new life?

I've been thinking a lot about this lately, but if you were about to move to a whole new continent, where you don't know a single person, what would you change about your life? Would you try and become a whole new person, fix all of your flaws that you don't like about yourself, try and be that person you never were; or would you remain the same person that you are, and just go with the flow?

Re: What if you could start a new life?

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Originally posted by Saint John I've been thinking a lot about this lately, but if you were about to move to a whole new continent, where you don't know a single person, what would you change about your life? Would you try and become a whole new person, fix all of your flaws that you don't like about yourself, try and be that person you never were; or would you remain the same person that you are, and just go with the flow?

Are you unhappy with yourself?

You can run, but you can't hide (from yourself)!

id try not to be such an intolerant prick. and id also learn how to fly.

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Originally posted by pkcRAISTLIN id try not to be such an intolerant prick.

Seriously though, even with no desire to make major personal changes- I've accepted who I am and I'm cool with it- I wouldn't mind peacing out and moving to another continent anyway. I think it would be kind of cool to spend 10 years or so elsewhere and get some new experiences, meet some new people, learn new customs, etc. I get cabin fever if I'm in one place for too long.

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Originally posted by pkcRAISTLIN id try not to be such an intolerant prick.

Apologies mate, but you're too old to change now

Frankly, it's only going to get worse!

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Originally posted by Sushipunk Frankly, it's only going to get worse!

Well, I mean, in my own case, I'm moving to Australia, and there are two major things I'm trying to change about myself when I move. The first is I'm trying to become more confident and have more self esteem. I've never felt very confident about myself around other persons, so I'm trying my best to do that. When I move as well I'm also trying to become a much more motivated and neat person. I always procrastinate things now, and I can never motivate myself to keep anything up for a prolonged period of time, so I've set it in my mind that these things have to stop.
Even now, I know I'm not going to see any of my friends for at least another four years, so I'm going balls out and just doing whatever I feel like.

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Originally posted by Saint John I know I'm not going to see any of my friends for at least another four years, so I'm going balls out and just doing whatever I feel like.

Rape?

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Originally posted by Saint John Well, I mean, in my own case, I'm moving to Australia, and there are two major things I'm trying to change about myself when I move. The first is I'm trying to become more confident and have more self esteem. I've never felt very confident about myself around other persons, so I'm trying my best to do that. When I move as well I'm also trying to become a much more motivated and neat person. I always procrastinate things now, and I can never motivate myself to keep anything up for a prolonged period of time, so I've set it in my mind that these things have to stop. Even now, I know I'm not going to see any of my friends for at least another four years, so I'm going balls out and just doing whatever I feel like.

I found travel to be great for building confidence. You get put in a lot of positions that you wouldn't otherwise find yourself in, and as a result you grow from your mistakes and learn to trust yourself. My experiences were from backpacking though, which was random at best, and insane/scary at worst. Travelling here to study for 4 years, you'll most likely have a far more stable life than I did while overseas

As long as you have a sense of humour, you'll probably do just fine here

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Originally posted by Sushipunk Apologies mate, but you're too old to change now Frankly, it's only going to get worse!

fuck you sushi you fucking cvntfaced, bird-watching raging homosexual fuckwit!

awww, dammit!

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Originally posted by Saint John Well, I mean, in my own case, I'm moving to Australia, and there are two major things I'm trying to change about myself when I move. The first is I'm trying to become more confident and have more self esteem. I've never felt very confident about myself around other persons, so I'm trying my best to do that. When I move as well I'm also trying to become a much more motivated and neat person. I always procrastinate things now, and I can never motivate myself to keep anything up for a prolonged period of time, so I've set it in my mind that these things have to stop. Even now, I know I'm not going to see any of my friends for at least another four years, so I'm going balls out and just doing whatever I feel like.

lol, 3-1 odds you're just gonna end up raped and buried in a shallow grave inside 2 months.

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Originally posted by pkcRAISTLIN fuck you sushi you fucking cvntfaced, bird-watching raging homosexual fuckwit! awww, dammit!

I knew you had a soft side, daaaawwwww.

I meant to post a very similar thread tonight. But, because I take the possibility to change for granted I'd ask people why they don't change their lives. Naturally, I believe a lot of people would say they don't feel like changing their lives because they're happy the way they are.

And that's the bit I think is interesting: Why do some/most people think their life is desirable?

In my case, I lead the life I want to live because I've become a person I'd admire, and working on this self-creative process is really fulfilling for me. But, do others think the same way?

Travel is great!

You see Hostel?

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Originally posted by Lira I meant to post a very similar thread tonight. But, because I take the possibility to change for granted I'd ask people why they don't change their lives. Naturally, I believe a lot of people would say they don't feel like changing their lives because they're happy the way they are. And that's the bit I think is interesting: Why do some/most people think their life is desirable? In my case, I lead the life I want to live because I've become a person I'd admire, and working on this self-creative process is really fulfilling for me. But, do others think the same way?

I'd say that at least a portion of the reasoning there is a reaction to how society is becoming/has become. Specifically, the world is becoming more and more geared towards instant gratification.

Self improvement takes time, and in a lot of cases, money as well. If someone wants to be something in particular, and isn't able to immediately pursue that interest, the mindset falls back to "Oh well, things aren't too bad now anyway. I'll wait until I have the time/money and do it then". This could be a) a long time, or b) never.

Or, I could be wrong

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Originally posted by Sushipunk I'd say that at least a portion of the reasoning there is a reaction to how society is becoming/has become. Specifically, the world is becoming more and more geared towards instant gratification. Self improvement takes time, and in a lot of cases, money as well. If someone wants to be something in particular, and isn't able to immediately pursue that interest, the mindset falls back to "Oh well, things aren't too bad now anyway. I'll wait until I have the time/money and do it then". This could be a) a long time, or b) never. Or, I could be wrong

That's how I had always felt before. For working out to bet more muscular, my mindset was always "well it's not instant so taking off a day or two here and there won't hurt too bad" and suddenly a day becomes a week ect.

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Originally posted by Sushipunk I'd say that at least a portion of the reasoning there is a reaction to how society is becoming/has become. Specifically, the world is becoming more and more geared towards instant gratification. Self improvement takes time, and in a lot of cases, money as well. If someone wants to be something in particular, and isn't able to immediately pursue that interest, the mindset falls back to "Oh well, things aren't too bad now anyway. I'll wait until I have the time/money and do it then". This could be a) a long time, or b) never. Or, I could be wrong

Would you say that, in your opinion, people don't change because it takes them too much work?

(That question is for you too, Saint John - would you say you gave up working out because you didn't get insta-ripped?)

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Originally posted by Lira Would you say that, in your opinion, people don't change because it takes them too much work? (That question is for you too, Saint John - would you say you gave up working out because you didn't get insta-ripped?)

I didn't give up working out because I didn't get insta-ripped. I still try to work out every day. I'm just saying I have some serious motivation and procrastination issues that I want to change about myself. For instance, I'll know a paper is due in a week, and instead of thinking "Hey I'll work on that paper now, so I can have the rest of my week free and also improve on the paper later" i go along the lines of "Hey I'll work on that paper on the last day, because if I worked on it now it will take me just as much time as before, and why not just have this part of my week free instead"
I would say that not having instant gratification did suck for me though. There you are, maxing out your muscles day in and day out, trying to push yourself as hard as you can, and then at the end of the day, there isn't any improvement. You see your body every single day, so even if there is improvement, you wont notice it.

You do realize you're procrastinating right now, right? By saying you'll wait until you move to stop procrastinating and to start being more confident, etc. Just thought I'd point that out...

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Originally posted by Lews You do realize you're procrastinating right now, right? By saying you'll wait until you move to stop procrastinating and to start being more confident, etc. Just thought I'd point that out...

Well no, I've started to make the non instant changes already, so that when I do move I have the chance to start a whole new life.

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Originally posted by Lira Would you say that, in your opinion, people don't change because it takes them too much work?

In a lot of cases, yes, I would say exactly that.

Not every case though, of course.

As the standard of living gets better and better, the more people get used to having things handed to them without having to work (as much) for the pay-off.

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Originally posted by Lews Travel is great! You see Hostel?

you're forgetting the journey first

you see airplane?

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