That over-used four letter word....

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Posted by Essential1 on Aug-04-2002 06:59:

That over-used four letter word....

...LOVE!

What exactly is love, and why does it have to be so painful?

I guess the real question I want to ask is what's worse, the pain of staying with the one you love or the pain of leaving the one you love?

I'm in a very bad situation right now, and I need some advice from whoever wants to offer it. I've been going out with my gf for a year and a half, and now it feels like we're just friends. we grew apart gradually. Last night we had a long talk, and we came to the conclusion that we just have different priorities b/c she's 2 years older than me. I'm just finished high school, working a dead end homer simpson job, trying to figure out what to do with my life while she's done college, working, and going back to college for extra courses in september. Basically I'm at the point where she was when we started going out and she's ready for the next step. I love her a lot and I know she loves me too, but we just can't stay together if we both aren't going to be happy. So as of now we are on a "break". It hurts so much letting her go, but it also hurts seeing how i'm holding her back from goals that she has for both of us. I'm going to meet up with her tomarrow to talk about all this, but I don't know what's going to end up happening. I'd do anything for her, but I can't suddenly skip 2 years of my life just to catch up with her so I'm pretty sure that it's over. Pls give me opinions on this.

Posted by davinox on Aug-04-2002 07:04:

well...you have two choices...

1) seperate from her now before it gets messy, but you'll have to recooperate from that and it will be tough for a while.

2) try to "work it out", but in the end the complications will lead to bitter arguments and you'll end up seperating anyways.

i'd pick the first one, and try to do as much fun shit as possible to nurse your wounds. (hang out with the guys, party, u know)

it's better to have loved and lost than never loved at all.

and it would really suck if you tried to hold on to a love you can't obtain. that's the worst. going to that is bad news.

Posted by Essential1 on Aug-04-2002 07:53:

quote:
Originally posted by davinox
i'd pick the first one, and try to do as much fun shit as possible to nurse your wounds. (hang out with the guys, party, u know)

Last nite after she left I went clubbing with my friends and got drunk. There is just one problem with that though: everywhere I go I either see ppl who know what's going on and want to ask me about it, or ppl who don't know what's going on with us and ask "How's suzy?". So the end result of last nite was getting drunk off pity drinks, and being with the ppl who remind me of her the most.

Posted by zzleeper on Aug-04-2002 08:34:

I can't give advices...

I'm about to make the same stupid mistake that I made b4 (and that costed me too much)...

:S

... and I can't stop myself.

Posted by XxClayxX on Aug-04-2002 18:40:

quote:
Originally posted by davinox
1) seperate from her now before it gets messy, but you'll have to recooperate from that and it will be tough for a while.

thats what you have to do

go out with your buddies, get drunk and flirt with every girl you see, youll feel better in no time thats what i did

you basically just have to keep yourself occupied and do not think about her, because once you do youll try to think of ways to make it work out and more than likely it wont

Posted by AnotherWay83 on Aug-04-2002 19:22:

i once read this, and i think its a bit cheesy, but here goes

"the pain of love is the pain of being alive. it is an eternal wound."

Posted by ShadoWolf on Aug-04-2002 23:55:

Re: That over-used four letter word....

just watch American Pie

Posted by jdat on Aug-05-2002 00:34:

I got another cheesy one :
Life's the pain
Love's the gain!

Posted by DJ Mikey Mike on Aug-05-2002 01:20:

i think someone shud whip out that "this thread is gay" pic. OH yea american Pie rules!!!!! and so does the sequel

Posted by Eugene on Aug-05-2002 23:31:

why is this thread "gay"?

This fellow needs some help and is asking legitimate questions.
I just wanna say that if you do break up, remember that everything in life has its pluses and minuses, and being single has its advantages, too -- and many of them. Look forward to new relationships and your youth.

Posted by Spyder on Aug-05-2002 23:36:

Hense why i use the 3 letter word...... LUV... cuz it's not Full love.. and i dont have to feel like i'm over useing love..

beacuse i'll use love when i truley mean it.. and luv.. when it's just luv..