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What do you do when you find out you've been a MISTRESS for the past year...

Just wanted to put this out there to see what responses I get...

So what happens when all of a sudden, you find out that the person you've been dating for the past year and a bit has been happily married for 15 years with two kids?

Honestly, I feel worse for his wife in this situation more so than myself. Or maybe I feel bad for the girl he dated for 4 years before me... And for sure I feel horrible for what the kids have to suffer with now.

Guess I need to start doing background checks on guys before I start dating them. But should it REALLY have to come down to that???!!!

this should be good ...

Definitely a shitty situation, sorry to hear that.

I sure wouldn't air my personal business, or anyone else's on a public forum though.

I'd have to agree w Lisa.

If you haven't broken it off with him already, you should get some hard evidence of his affair and give it to his wife. The wife doesn't deserve to be with such a terrible guy, and the kids don't deserve to be raised by one either.

I took his name out of the thread... guess that bit wasn't the smartest thing to do, admittedly I was being vendictive.

HOLY SHEEP SHIT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I dunno.

If someone pulled a SNAKE move like that on me I would have no problems broadcasting that to other people, to make sure they know how much of a snake that person really is.

But that's just me ... Don't feel bad or sorry for someone like that is what I am getting at.

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Originally posted by Lynzi007 I took his name out of the thread... guess that bit wasn't the smartest thing to do, admittedly I was being vendictive.

Ah well you must've done that before I opened the thread. That was stupid of you, but still, your situation is definitely not an easy one. I guess you can take solace in the fact that at least you're not his wife

You should think for a long time before you do anything like I suggested before. Remember that you'd be affecting an entire family, not just him. In the end, imo if the guy is that shady, he doesn't deserve his family, and his family doesn't deserve him.

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Originally posted by VDub HOLY SHEEP SHIT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Yup. Guess you're as fucked about this as I am Nick...
I spoke to his wife already and appologised.

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Originally posted by Lynzi007 I spoke to his wife already and appologised.

Had to because my sister is the one who contacted her to validate the info before breaking the news to me.

Ignorance is sheer bliss, and I was in a great place before all this.

over a year?

How could you not of had suspicions?
just seems over my head

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Originally posted by srussell0018 Ah well you must've done that before I opened the thread. That was stupid of you, but still, your situation is definitely not an easy one. I guess you can take solace in the fact that at least you're not his wife You should think for a long time before you do anything like I suggested before. Remember that you'd be affecting an entire family, not just him. In the end, imo if the guy is that shady, he doesn't deserve his family, and his family doesn't deserve him.

Infidelity should not result in you losing your kids...

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Originally posted by Pett over a year? How could you not of had suspicions? just seems over my head

I obviously have FOOL written across my forehead. Meanwhile on his it says LIAR (at least he was good at something).

blackmail him. choose an appropriate amount for him to pay you and threaten to tell his wife. profit!

MOTHER.............

Fuck it. I'll say it.

If you didn't see that something was odd after a year of being with this guy. Then hey, what can I tell you.

So, no; you don't need to do a "background check" on every guy you meet--just work on being more aware in your future relationships.

That's my honest opinion.

I guess you were really in love, eh?
I think it is very crazy you never suspected he's literally leading a double life - did you guys see each other often?

tbh, I think it's very tempting to be vindictive and get some sort of revenge, but it would probably be better for you to just sort your head for now, maybe go away somewhere for a bit, and let him be..

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Originally posted by Adamo blackmail him. choose an appropriate amount for him to pay you and threaten to tell his wife. profit!

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Originally posted by Lynzi007 Yup. Guess you're as fucked about this as I am Nick... I spoke to his wife already and appologised.

Tell him you're pregnant.

ok but seriously, in the 1 year together did you ever go to where he lives? If not, doesnt that seem fucking weird?

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Originally posted by Adamo ok but seriously, in the 1 year together did you ever go to where he lives? If not, doesnt that seem fucking weird?

He had his excuses, and sob stories about his divorce case with his "ex-wife". I just chose to block out all the bad things I guess. Massive life-lesson learned the hard way.

I was hoping this wouldn't get out...

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