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Asking Bridesmaids too early?
When should you ask your friends if they would like to be bridesmaids?
Im only just recently engaged and I have 3 definites but also one maybe, and I dont want to ask the 3 and make the 4th feel like an add on... I am not planning to get married for another 18 months or so (havent set a date yet but it will likely be in 2013).
I just feel like 18 months is a long time and I dont want to ask right now and regret later!
On the other hand I dont want to leave it too late and have my friends feel like im not going to ask!
where's the link?
what is this? the knot.com ?
It's your wedding you do whatever you want, and if some friends aren't happy because you didn't ask earlier, we'll, let them go suck a stick.
The wedding ain't happening tomorrow, no need to rush anything. Plan the rest, And later you can think about the chicks that'll get picked up at your wedding.
You should give them at least a year notice.
Re: Asking Bridesmaids too early?
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| Originally posted by kittylin When should you ask your friends if they would like to be bridesmaids? Im only just recently engaged and I have 3 definites but also one maybe, and I dont want to ask the 3 and make the 4th feel like an add on... I am not planning to get married for another 18 months or so (havent set a date yet but it will likely be in 2013). I just feel like 18 months is a long time and I dont want to ask right now and regret later! On the other hand I dont want to leave it too late and have my friends feel like im not going to ask! |
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| Originally posted by jdat It's your wedding you do whatever you want, and if some friends aren't happy because you didn't ask earlier, we'll, let them go suck a stick. The wedding ain't happening tomorrow, no need to rush anything. |
have all those considered compete in some kind of obstacle course a la MXC. top 4 finishers get bridesmaid, with the winner as maid of honor.
should they choose to actually compete will provide you with enough evidence that they are right for the job. and the winner fit enough for the strenuous position of maid of honor (both in fitness and muster).
you should post pics of them and let us choose.
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| Originally posted by Zyklon_Jay you should post pics of them and let us choose. |
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| Originally posted by denys envy muster. |
you aren't marrying a black guy i hope right? because he's always ready slept with 3 of them.
no matter how long you wait to ask them at least one will not be your friend by the time of the ceremony. The longer from the date the wedding is the more friends who are not bridesmaids will have to become resentful for not being considered a close enough friend to be a bridesmaid. And, you don't want to give the groom to be too much time to cheat on you with all of the bridesmaids so keep it close to the wedding imo.
People have jobs/lives. It's better to ask sooner than later so people can get the time off if they need to. It also costs money to be a bridesmaid - so letting them know early also helps in setting aside $$ for dress, shoes, hair, makeup, gifts, etc. Not to mention bridal showers and bachelorette parties. All of this shit takes time and money - and people appreciate fair warning.
Tell as many girls as you can, tell them to save as much money as they can so they can be ready when the time comes for the Bridesmaid Draw.
Then you select 4 maids, and the rest have enough money for AWESOME GIFTS!!!!
FTW!!!
When you have a date set you ask. For all you know the engagement may not last till the wedding. What happens if you break it off? Then you asked for no reason and then next time u may end up getting married that person (said bridesmaid) will automatically assume they will be ur bridesmaid and what if you no longer want them to be?
Don't get married.
If a simple bridesmaid question is complex, think about how complicated the rest of your life is going to be.
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| Originally posted by LAdazeNYnights where's the link? |
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